Am I live? Seems like the chat is I don't see the screen. Everyone, can you guys see me? >> Uh, no. I need to see the actual whatnot. >> You just put this. >> Usually I don't Is that right? That screen looks >> Okay, good. Good morning everybody. Uh, welcome to another episode of Tea with Gary Vee. What number is this? >> 94. Very nice. 94. John Abraham. Good. Uh, good morning. Good morning. Good morning. Hope everybody had a wonderful weekend. Uh, we're going to go right into questions. So, if you have a question this morning on Tea with Gary Vee, please ask it in the chat. Uh, the way you do that is by using five question marks after your question. So, ask a question and then use five question marks. We will ask some of those. Uh, and then also, uh, we will bring some people here live on video this morning. Uh, I'm in a good mood because the Jets did not lose again. Uh, that would have been very hard since they didn't play this week. This was their by-week. So, two weeks in a row. First time since week two and three of 2024 that the Jets have not lost in back-to-back weeks. Uh, so that's that's good stuff. Uh, thank you everybody who's been joining my uh, Tik Tok lives. I'll be on again today uh, at some point. What what uh time am I on today? 1 p.m. I think Eastern. So, we'll do that. A little different version of this, but kind of similar. >> Uh I don't see the uh chat of social. >> He's going live. He's going live. >> Got it. Understood. Um and uh and that's the scoop. Can we start this setup at like 8:55 so I can walk right into it? >> When they just like see the timer go live before >> Makes sense. Makes sense. Yeah, I think that's probably right. Uh, okay. Anyway, let's get into the questions. Hope everybody's well. Uh, great to see all of you on YouTube. Corey Posey, good to see you on YouTube. Daniel G, good to see you on YouTube. Now, we're switching to Instagram. Summit, good to see you. Visual Flowers. Jack Beri, great to see all of you. All of you, I am on whatnot. That's how you get a giveaway. Let's get right into the giveaway. Who's controlling the giveaways? All right. Thanks, Azra. We are going to start with a big giveaway on whatnot to get everybody who is uh on all the other platforms. This is the Notorious Ninja signed uh pack comic number seven, the origin story and the first appearance of the Notorious Ninja. If you don't know what V friends is, you are breaking my little heart. My tiny tiny little heart is broken. This is my Pokemon. This is my dialed in dog hat that is not released yet that I'm very excited about. Um and uh it's a universe of 250 characters. Uh think of it as Pokemon meets Marvel meets Sesame Street. I'm building one of the most important electable uh intellectual property companies of this generation is my hope and my dream and the efforts I'm putting in. So please go to vfriends.com and check it out. Uh and uh this is being given away for free on whatnot right now. Uh please enter the top right corner. All you have to do is click the button for everybody who's on Instagram, YouTube, everywhere else. Come over to garyve.comlive whatnot. Always whatnot, right? garyve.com whatnot. Uh whatnot. Uh let's change it to garyve.comt. Um because I think that will be easier because some people don't know what not. It's kind of like a tough word. Like I got to spell it out. >> Yeah. >> EA I think. Uh let's do that. All right. Anyway, um let's get into the show. Pablo. Where's Aaron? I I prefer Aaron here. What's Pablo? This is what I get. >> The flannel. The Pablo with the flannel. Let's do it, buddy. Let's rock and roll. >> All right. Kylie's asking, "I started a business with my fiance. He's great at talking about what we should do, but I'm usually the one executing. He works, but it's hard to get him to take the business seriously. How do I get him to be disciplined and consistent?" >> This is a tough question. Um, this happens a lot with partners. Uh, people have very different working styles. Um, it gets much harder in family businesses. um you're in like kind of like pseudo family in fiance land, right? You're kind of like half pregnant family when you're engaged. And so this makes it even harder. Um one thing that I'm a very big fan of as a leader, and I think she's leading in this situation, is realizing it's very hard to change people, but what I try to focus on is how to put people in positions to succeed based on who they actually are. What you need to be careful about in that scenario is putting too much on yourself and creating resentment. This is a formula for like breakup both in business and in in your relationships. So I I I tread here lightly. Um this is like a real combo. Like there's just a lot of talkers out there. The world is filled with talkers who complain and envy and deploy jealousy and hate towards doers. And so, hey Erin, there you are. Uh uh so I I really I I ask a lot of you to use this morning's show to figure out where you sit on the talking and doing spectrum. I listen, I do a lot of talking. I don't think talking is bad. I think talking without doing is bad. Muhammad Ali did a lot of talking and then he did it in the ring. he's the greatest. You know, a lot of people have done a lot of talking and then have gone out and done it. Um, you know, I think this is a tough conversation, but I think she needs to be honest with him. I think Cander is the actual answer to this question. I think she needs to explain what her point of view is on this. Now, a lot of talkers often are incredibly insecure. Most people don't do things in life because they're insecure. They fear, and I talk about this all the time. You all know where I'm about to go. they fear losing in front of others. So if she addresses him and brings up that like, hey man, I love like your energy for it, the ambition for it, but I end up doing all this stuff. He may get triggered by that. You know, insecure people when called out, narcissistic people when called out really hate that [ __ ] Baby doesn't like to be put into the corner when they're trying to peacock. A lot of talkers use the talking as a disguise, as a front. Uh, ego is defined in my mind, at least one man's point of view, as insecurity with makeup on, you know, and so with a Halloween costume on. So, I'm concerned about how he'll receive her feedback if she goes canderous on this. I'm a big fan of couples therapy. I think um that you know as I'm now what 11 days away from being 50 I'm a big fan of people who can afford therapy to use it uh even when they don't seem like there's something wrong in a relationship. I think sometimes it's offense versus defense. I think people wait too long for it. It's good maintenance. It's like going to the gym. By the way, I've figured out that my outer left glute is incredibly weak and tight in the last week and it's really helping me. I'm like loosening up my back through my heavy stretching. So, like this morning, 45 minutes of like heavy stretching, especially on my left, like my outer left glute, whatever that's called. Um, and um, and that's kind of how I think about therapy and like meditation. It's how I think about this show. You know, one of my great ambitions for Tea with Gary Vee is doing this early in the morning and maybe getting people's mind right around Heyo, right? That's what we do here, Ezra. You know, we're very big ON WHO KNOWS WHAT AO IS, WHO'S NEW AND has no idea what just happened, and who's an OG already from last week when I retired and unretired. A lot happened last week, Pablo. Lot happened. Um, OH, BIG WINNER, HAGGARD 76. You just won a $100. Literally, if you don't give a [ __ ] about this, get this in the mail and post it on eBay. Thousands do and they will buy it. I like this little giveaway. I know a lot of YOU WANT TO BUY. UH, you know, I talk a lot about um, you know, live social shopping. Here we are on whatnot. Let me show you how it's done. We're going to literally post this. This comic is $35 a pack. You can actually get a rare cover. You can see these rare covers in the back. The rarity guide. You might be able to get the one of one lollipop that uh, it's probably worth thousands of dollars. So, if you want one of these packs to open, here's what happens. I hope I don't pull the imag. I pulled the lollipop right there. Let's see what I got. All right. Let's see what I got here. Oh, I got a David Mack alt cover. So, I got a good one here. I didn't get the common one. I got a If you're a comic book nerd, you know who David Mack is. Uh, pretty excited about this. Really epic comic. Origin story of the Notorious Ninja. A really good story. Uh, Ezra, let's put up 30 packs for 35 bucks a piece. If you've never bought anything ever in your life on whatnot, you can actually get this for 20 bucks. $15 off by putting VF-15 in your shopping cart or hitting this little yellow C. Where is it? >> My no race. >> This little post-it note. Click this little post-it note. Thank you. The court. Click this little post-it note and click the VF-15 white button in there. That will put the code in automatically for you. Uh, actually, I'm going to sign this one, too. Next giveaway as well, Ezra. Let's get another giveaway. This one's actually on the cover. Little Gary Vee sign free stuff here. Everybody who is on social media JustinJust on Instagram. Everybody else go to garyve.com whatnot. Wh Everybody come over to garyve.com whatnot. If you're on Instagram, YouTube, I see you. Homespunquest. All of you get over here. All of you get over here. Uh home homesspun quest goes therapy is way overrated. Talk with your grandpa. Disagree. This is what's amazing about the world. Everybody can uh everybody can uh have different opinions. Maybe maybe for example, Homespun's Quest went to therapy and had a bad therapist. That happens. What do you think? All therapists are good. I think a lot of therapists are full of [ __ ] and aren't trying to get to the solve. They're just trying to keep you on the payroll. Like there's a lot of things out there, but nothing is absolute. But the concept of getting your poison out, one of the great things that is [ __ ] up every one of you. By the way, I don't give a [ __ ] if you go to a therapist. Go take go to the [ __ ] woods. Literally go to the woods this weekend. Go to the woods in the middle of nowhere and just scream out your poison. What I promise you is globally historically true is the number one thing that's [ __ ] all of you up is you're keeping poison inside of you and most of your buckets are small. I always used to yell at my dad. I was like, "Dad, your bucket to like getting upset is like filling up this little cup and mine and mom's is like the ocean." And I used to think that's a strength. But I would argue that just because me and my mom have the ocean to take the resentment and the anger from everyone, eventually that pulls over. And which one's better? Neither. Get your [ __ ] poison out. Get your [ __ ] poison out. Get your [ __ ] poison out. All right, let's keep it going. Uh, yes, I do want to put up those. Let's put that up. Let's pin that. Everybody, you could just go right there. All right, 30 of So everybody who wants to learn what social shopping is, literally click that little button at the bottom. If you want to start your journey a great comic to read to your kids this weekend, just click it right down below. You just hit buy. It's literally Apple Pay. Boom. Boom. As they say, somewhere in the world. Go ahead. >> Yes. >> Yes. If you want to be on the show, go to garyve.comzoom94. garyve.comzoom94 if you want to be video on the show and thank you for everybody who's picking up notorious ninja comic number seven. You can literally click it down below. Next question. Pablo >> Ray is asking, "My young daughter struggles in school even though I tell her that grades don't define her. The school system pushes these kids to know what they want to be and have good grades, making her feel like a failure. I've shown her some of your clips, but can you give her some specific words of wisdom?" >> What's her name? >> You don't say. known. >> What's his name? >> Ray. >> Ray, listen to your daughter like she's she's she's not going to just believe her dad after a couple of times. This is a constant flow. You can send her my clips. Look, either she wants to be common senseoriented. I don't know how old she is. When you're seven, when you're 10, when you're 12, it's harder to believe that you could be successful without getting good grades. when you're 15, 17, 19, it becomes more clear that, you know, what is success? I think needs to have a real conversation. I actually think one of the worst things that's going in society right now is followers, money, clout, stuff is the definition. In a way that we've never had, we become dramatically over materialistic. It's nice and fine and you're allowed to have certain things and want certain things. If you love fast cars or collectibles, you're allowed. But I I really struggle with first defining success. I think success is really defined by did you wake up this morning? Actually, let's do this. And honestly, no bullshitting in the chat. And everybody from social media, you need to come to garyve.com whatnot. wh um to answer this question because the answers are officially only real on whatnot. So for 400 of you this morning, if I said from zero to 10, [clears throat] 10 being you felt no anxiety in your chest, you woke up this morning and you're like, "Thank you [ __ ] God for another day. Another day where nobody called me with an emergency last night because someone in my family died or had a tragedy. Today is going to be awesome." That's a 10. Zero is I don't even want to live tomorrow much more. I'm like very unhappy. Everything's [ __ ] Where are you from one to 10? Zero to 10. Give me your numbers. And so like I'm looking at these numbers, right? A lot of a lot of good numbers here and it makes sense. And a lot of people in those four and five, three is a tough number. You know, I just saw three, which is not super fun for me. Everybody answering on social, your answers are not official. garyve.com whatnot. Wh Come over here right now. Come and hang. Um I think success is waking up with something between a seven and 10 this morning to that question. Um but you need to c you need to pound, brother. You need to talk about it every day, not once in a while. Um and eventually you will break through. My daughter's 17, 16 right now. Um, and I've definitely seen a shift in how she sees the world in the last year. And I think a lot of people will go through that as parents. There's some, and we're all, we've all gone from 12 to 16 to 22. I think those 10 years are insane. Think about yourself at 12. Think 16, think 22. That's a lot of growing up in a 10-year window. You might be frustrated right now because she doesn't see it right now, but, you know, give it some time. Give it some time and make sure that she's defining success with happiness, not stuff. Optic Bey with the big win on this. Congratulations. Next, I want to give these away. So, all right, we're going to give one of these away. The minis. This I'm really into. These are these are my one of my favorite products. This is a toy that you put on your desk when you're at So, this is the perfect This is the gratitude gorilla. I genuinely believe if some of you put this on your desk in the morning when you come into work and you look at the gratitude gorilla, it might just remind you to be [ __ ] grateful for what you have. Yes, your boss might be a dick, but you have the best husband in the world. What do you want to focus on? I believe most people focus on boss's dick, right? I believe more people should focus on husband is the best. I've always in times of anxiety or issues or challenges before you buy this. It's $15 for a box. Before you buy this, who here has never bought anything? Who here has never bought anything on whatnot? Say never bought because you can get this for free. You can literally get this for free. You can literally hit this little white Post-it note right here. Everyone who just said never bought, literally hit this little yellow post-it note, this little yellow post-it note. Oh, I'm above it a little high. There we go. Click this little yellow post-it note and hit the VF-15 button in the in the notes and you click that or put VF-15 in the shopping cart. Everyone, all 48 of these should be gone in seconds because I saw more than 48 of you have never bought. You'll literally get this for [ __ ] free. Click down there, hit VF-15, and literally check out free and enjoy it. Your befriend's journey has begun. Anyway, I think more people he needs to define success as happiness and lack of anxiety and joy and then he needs to continue to pound her that grades have no impact on that. Straight A students are not universally happy. Straight A students are not universally rich. I don't know how we have not had this conversation. It's period end of story. It's truth. Let's keep it going. >> Ragoff >> Ragoff. >> All right. >> But that's right. Another Ragoff is great. There we go. Rag up. What's good? >> Hi, Gary. I don't know if you remember me, but I'm gonna give you a second to recognize me. You have seen me twice. >> Remind me, brother. I apologize. >> It's from Von one. We I was there in Minneapolis. >> I'm glad. It's great to see you again, brother. >> Yeah. And I wanted to ask you, so uh we were in Canada at that time, but now I have moved back to India with my family. I wanted to I know I can crush it in like whatn not uh live live shopping but I don't know how to get in because India is not in yet. So how can I take advantage of that because India is not in as >> well you can't be in something if it's not there yet. >> Yeah >> right like like if I was like sitting here in America I was like I know that I could be remarkable at cricket but nobody in America plays cricket and cricket was banned in America for some weird reason. Well, then I would have to move to Pakistan or India to play cricket or Australia or England. You know, I understand you think you could crush live shopping, but if the live shopping function is not available yet in India, well then what are we talking about? So, you have two options. You can continue to get educated and be prepared for when it is >> or or you can move again. >> Yeah. And there was one more thing. So I have been selling uh since on Amazon and online marketplaces since I was 16. I was working in Walmart doing all of the stuff with high school and when I left my job I was working full-time for Amazon and now with the >> one second one rav one second >> somebody in the chat saying Kiko and Amazon live both work in India. >> I don't know about Amazon live I only know about Tik Tok shop and whatnot. They both don't. >> Well, that's fine. But what you should have done was go to chat sheep. Like this is what you could have done. You could like Yes, I know you're about to watch me do it, but you're gonna have to eat it. >> Hey chat, is live social shopping available in India? I know that Tik Tok is banned in India and I don't think WhatNot's there, but I could be wrong. Which three or four apps right now are doing live social shopping the way whatnot and Tik Tok shop are doing in the US and obviously how China is a half a trillion dollar economy? Is there any app that's leading right now in live shopping on in India? Maybe eBay live. I've seen them starting to get going. But can you give me the top three please? >> Dag up. You have you have to understand if there is an actual answer to this right now. I'm coming to India to punch you in the neck. You know that, right? I'm coming to India. All right. Amazon live. Amazon live works. Flip cart. Flip cart works. Mi show. >> Why are you not on the Mi show? >> Yeah. Yeah, that's for the >> ARE YOU COMING ON MY SHOW SAYING IT'S NOT THERE yet when you [ __ ] Yeah. You know me show >> but I was more focusing on US side. I have only like sold in Canada and US. I was looking like looking at the export side. >> You were in India. >> Yeah. Okay. So, I'll look into that. The Amazon and M show live shopping. >> Yes, cuz you're in India. >> Yeah. And I just have one more question. Are you going to be doing another VCON anytime soon or in couple of years? >> Yes. But I'm not doing one until I see you on Misha. >> Yeah, for sure. >> Red app with the win. Email. >> Nice red app. >> I'll email you for sure when I'm on show live. >> What's up, brother? I'm sorry. We were clapping for red app. >> Email you when I'm on Amazon live and m show. >> Please. >> Yeah. >> And do never call into another show where the answer could be done in one second. >> Yeah. >> Ragav another thing was I just wanted to talk to you in person. So that was >> that's fine. That I respect. THAT I RESPECT. THAT'S THAT'S A FAIR. But that's good. BUT DON'T COME AND EMBARRASS YOURSELF. >> This is forever on the internet. Your kids one day are going to be like, "Daddy, WHY DID YOU GO ON TEA WITH GARY B AND ASK SUCH A STUPID QUESTION?" >> NO, NO, I'm totally fine with that. I I'm not embarrassed. I've just started making content on social media, so I'm not embarrassed at all. I have left all of that >> now. Well, now Ragoff, you redeemed yourself and I love you. Now I'm not going to punch you in the neck. Now I'm going to kiss you in the neck. >> Thank you so much. >> Punch and kiss. ALL RIGHT, BROTHER. WE'LL SEE YOU LATER. All right, let's keep it. >> Love you, bro. Stay well. I love that, dude. All right, next question. Go ahead. Pablo >> Gecko is asking, "My husband and I are 43 and 44 with a large blended family of six kids. Two years ago, we started an auto glass repair business in a small town in Texas. We have good weeks and bad weeks. We've made it through every month, but it's been very tight. My husband feels like he needs to just go back to work, but he's put in blood, sweat, and tears. So, I'm trying to encourage him to push through since we are just starting to actually grow. What are your thoughts? >> Facebook ads. I mean, you know this better than anybody, Pablo. You've been on my team now for a little while, and you know how effective localized ads are. They need to run 150 bucks, right, on a 25, 35, 40 mile radius because if they're, you know, the the more you want it, the wider you want the radius to be because the more you're willing to drive and [ __ ] do it. [ __ ] it, they might want to do a 100 mile radius. They'll take a job two hours away, right? So, my answer is Facebook ads, you know, you know, I think it will work. Um, that's my belief for that business. You know, I think, you know, I think that one of the great things one can do in a localized business is recognize how effective those ads are for such little money and that may give them the spike of extra dollars that they'll see that will make him feel more secure in it. or he can go back and go full-time job and um run ads for it to just do it on the weekends and pick see if that creates the demand and maybe he does that on the weekends and maybe over time he realizes those ads are working and maybe goes back to the gig. There's nothing wrong with trying to go all in on something. It doesn't take going back to a job, turning that all-in jump into a side hustle while you go back to a full-time job and maybe that will build back up and can become a full-time job. And so, um, I I think for a business that is very localized, um, I'm a very big fan of, uh, trying to attack the Facebook ad ecosystem because it works for localized businesses. I just I just know it does. So, Uh, thank you, Nev. Good to see everybody. Ube, great to see you in here. Steve Bricky Blinks, good to see you. I'll give you an update on our convo soon. Let's keep it going, Jose. All right, let's do it. Everybody on all the other social medias, come over to garyve.comnot. Whose are you, my friend? >> Doing good. Gary, I just want to say thank you. Thank you for always dropping knowledge and uh being there for me as a 42-year-old content creator who's also still maintaining uh the uh corporate life. I just want to say I appreciate everything. So, uh, in a world of AI, we keep talking about AI, AI, AI, but people aren't talking about EI and me as relationship manager, how important should I really double down on communication and emotional intelligence as people continue to kind of get away with that? >> Yeah, look, I think I don't think people are getting away from it at all. In fact, I think the big winner from the AI era in a decade are going to be the people that understand the value of emotional intelligence and how to interact with people and you know where humanity comes in. I think a lot of people are going to gravitate towards more real things. I you know this morning I put out a post like I continue to believe that experiential businesses um are going to grow. I think concerts and and rock climbing company and in sports and you know all these things that require us to be out in the world um are going to continue to grow. I think a lot of businesses, there's a lot of people who are going to try to build AI apps because they want to be an entrepreneur where what they should really be building is New York City tour, you know, uh, companies. Like, I just think a lot more in that. And I think as we get into a workforce where mundane skills become less, um, effective, uh, I think and and valuable because they are being replaced by AI. I think what employers and companies and humans are going to be looking for is good leadership, good management, and um you know, I think it's a game of both. You know, I don't think you can go just go into uh um you know, uh uh into this nirvana utopia idea of like, I'm just going to be a nice guy and I'm going to make million dollars a year because I'm nice and I care about people. I don't think that's what I'm actually saying. What I'm saying is someone who has a grasp of what the AI tools are and is a manager of people that use AI tools within an organization and is the human that is creating good culture and emotional intelligence and as a manager has HR like tendencies um uh I think is going to uh is going to have a real uh a real era here in front of them. And so, you know, I think a lot of people are talking about emotional intelligence and leadership as a growing value because there's going to be a lot of people managing a lot of people that are managing a lot of AI bots. Again, big companies are going to have 35 people using AI with the power of 400 people, right? That are going to need managers to keep that effectiveness and culture going. We're still humans. And so, uh, I think that's where we're going. Thank you, Gary. >> Stephen Renwick, great to have you here. So, that's what I think, brother. Good luck. Pleasure. >> Appreciate you. >> Appreciate you. Let's go on a rampage with uh whatnot questions because I want to really encourage everybody. Uh Dave's IG who's asking about NFTs, all these things. I want all of you over uh Dave's IG on NFTs. I think like [clears throat] everything in collectibles, comic books, trading cards, watches, sneakers, the top 1% are going to be very collectible. And I think 99% of projects are not going to be as collectible. And so I think uh digital collectibles, especially as we go into the next generation and we go away from the phone being the primary device to the glasses being the primary device, I think as we go into AR and VR, I think uh NFTTS and and digital assets that sit on the blockchain will grow in importance over the next decade. All right, let's keep it going. Sid wants to get in there. G, you were saying something that I want to just build upon is like why do people value 50 nos so much but not 50 views? >> That's a great question. I think people value 50 nos versus 50 views uh for a very specific reason which has become weirdly my life's work. I think that people are wildly insecure. They they don't see and so when they get 50 views they think that's a failure because other people get millions of views. And I always say this, like I wish they could see 50 people in a room to see how powerful getting 50 views is. Uh I think the I think the reason that they get so [ __ ] up by both 50 views and 50 nos is they take them both as negatives. I think, you know, I think they view both those things as negatives. You know, for me and for others, I I think that there's just an incredible thirst to persevere through adversity. I think some of us, me included, and others that I've seen, had the fortune of struggling early on and it didn't break them. Some people struggle early on and it breaks them and they become cynical and mad at the world. Other people have struggles and it becomes a motivation. The people that have struggles oftentime have unconditional love in their family that allows them to believe. So for me, I'm incredibly fortunate that even though I had plenty of struggles um in my youth, I had incredible love for my mother, which made me be able to persevere. Other people that have struggles may not be as fortunate, have a mother or father that are giving them that love and then are in search of that and it and it compounds their insecurity. And so so much happens in your childhood. But again, we can't weaponize our childhoods. You know, there's plenty of things that happened in my, as incredible as my mother and father are, there are things that they did that in hindsight put me in a vulnerable spot that I wasn't able to see. And instead of blaming them, I've used my adulthood to work on it. I think that this becomes a big obsession of mine. And you know this, I bring this up often, which is at what age, as a matter of fact, everybody in whatnot, please give me the number here. At what age do you believe it is time to no longer blame your parents and your circumstance and to as the kids say adult up and start saying okay mom and dad [ __ ] this up life [ __ ] this up but I am strong enough to address this and now I have to start working on it instead of pointing fingers I can go thumbs and I can start going and so we're seeing a lot of answers right in the chat right now and you know a lot of people are are hovering between 18 and 25. You know, some people are saying 30. Somebody said 40, which I think is rich. Um, but you know, you know, a lot of people are saying these numbers, but they're not living it. Watch this. We're going to have a very vulnerable moment right now. A lot of you just put a number in. How many of you put in a number, yet you have passed that number and you continue to blame mommy, daddy, the government, the mayor, the governor, the president, the system? Like, own it. Own it. Say me. Say capital me. Right. And so, you know, look, a lot of people going to say me. Like, there's a lot of people being honest here, which I [ __ ] I adore you all. And that's what these mornings are about all together to like start getting into that place, right? And like for everyone who says me, you know, this is the moment maybe this is the tea with Gary Vee where do you realize I'm done blaming my boss, my mom, the system, you know, America, Canada, India, like you know, like everyone here is capable. Everyone's capable of cutting negativity out of their lives even if it's hard. Like your mom, your dad, your spouse, you're allowed to get divorced. You're allowed to limit your interaction with your, you know, you know, your life. This guy says, you know, someone said, "My cheating wife." Yet, you're allowed to forgive your cheating wife for her sins in your mind and move on. You're allowed. Or you could be one of those people that sits and rolls in that mud for the rest of their life. You could be mad that the opportunities aren't there for you in India. Or you could spend 100% of your time trying to get working visas in other places where you think there's more opportunities. You're just allowed in life. You're just allowed. This is life. This is life. You're just allowed. You're allowed to dwell and you're allowed to attack. You're allowed to cry and you're allowed to wipe off your tears and go at it. I will say this. People in worse mental, physical, and emotional situations than you have been able to persevere and get out, you know. And so, and you got to try different things. Like whatever's, you know, a lot of people that are stuck aren't trying different things. They keep going to the same well, whether it's one person in their family that allows them to complain, same kind of therapist, same kind of content, same kind like we need to change our [ __ ] if you're not happy. I think they value both 50 nos and 50 views by not valuing them. They don't value them. I value nos, their feedback, their motivation, and their information. I value 50 views because I think 50 is incredible. Like, like I've had a lot of people say, "Gary, why are you doing it on Whatnot? You only have 443 people watching." Like you could, you know, as we know on TikTok, I have 60. Like, you know, like I don't know. Like, because I've never been in a place where no matter where I'm at, I'm not insecure. I love when people are like, "Oh, Gary Vee, you've fallen off. You only got like a thousand likes on this post." I'm like, "What are you?" Like, I don't understand. You know, I do not. If I didn't give a [ __ ] of people making fun of me in middle school, you think I'm going to [ __ ] give a [ __ ] of anyone here trolling? I didn't hear your insecure. I I've only had sympathy for you. I only have compassion for your anger towards me. I only have sympathy. I am not affected by your tough guy words on Twitter. [ __ ] I'll [ __ ] beat your ass. Do you understand? Like, do you think you could beat me? I am an emotional [ __ ] savant. I will blow you out the water. I'm not scared of you. I'll roll up on you, say three things, and you will crumble like a [ __ ] because you are insecure. Tough guy gal. The easiest person to punk is a keyboard warrior. They're soft as [ __ ] But I'm not going to hurt you back. I feel bad for you. I love you. I want for you. Like, but if you feel like you're getting off on like [ __ ] trying to tear somebody down, me or anybody else, like, I don't know what to tell you, but real winners see you for the losing situation you're in. I see you. I see you for all your weakness. And I don't I I care for you, man. I want you out. These people got you twisted out there. I see you. You're losing. And I'm here to take your anger because you can't penetrate me. And I'll take it. And I I know other people will take it. And I hope you I hope you can get your poison out by trying to punch me. But your punches aren't landing and you need to know that. And your punches aren't landing on anybody else who's winning inside. Punches are only landing on other hurt people. And that's a rolling in the mud that you need to get the [ __ ] out of. Let's keep it going. Mark is asking, "I'm looking for a job and I constantly interview. I'm working a seasonal job I hate, too. How can I kill the interview and get that job? >> I think vulnerability, [clears throat] honesty, conviction, passion, these are words to lean in on. I think if you go into the interview being scared that you're not going to get it, you've already lost it. I think honesty matters. Tell them where you're at. I think honesty allows for comfort. Like, this is what I'm good at, this is what I'm not good at. You know, I I think fear kills people. I think about somebody who recently worked here, not for a very long time. fear ate that person up and there was no reason. We had nothing but deep hope to make it epic that the fear ate them up. You know, you know exactly what I'm talking about. Just for no reason. And so fear is a [ __ ] scary thing. And people would prefer to like be in their little bubble of delusion with their fear because it allows them to not address the truth. People love to be with themselves and [ __ ] stew on [ __ ] and then grab a couple of family members or friends to like enable them. We love coming. We love being three musketeers of [ __ ] Like, I'm full of [ __ ] Let me grab two [ __ ] other losers that are my friends or my family that loves me, but they're doing losing behavior because they're enabling me. And we're just going to roll around and blame everyone but ourselves for no reason. And I know that. And I know who's in the worst spot because this place I'm trying to really help and fix. And if you can't win here, well then when you lose here, and many lose here, you need to really go back to the Batcave and make a new [ __ ] potion. Because if you lose here at a place where someone's really willing to lose money to help fear has completely won you over. And that by the way that's why politicians and parents, school chancellors and bosses weaponize fear. It's the ultimate weapon. Not love is optimism. Heyo. That's O the O in AO O O in accountability and optimism. The O is the optimism, hope, love is the ultimate weapon. But fear is the ultimate weapon of choice of [ __ ] faces because it controls people. I just want everyone to hear this. You are never tricking winning people and you are always tricking losing people. So when you're in your [ __ ] and you know you're [ __ ] And here's my thing. Don't hate yourself for being that way. Love yourself out of it. That's the circle that everyone gets [ __ ] up because I'm pointing, you know, I'm triggering people right now with the way I'm talking. I'm poking, right? I'm like, "Here's your zit. Here's your zit. [laughter] Here's your zit." And what's happening is some people know I'm [ __ ] right. And then they go into like this bad place I don't want them to, which is like, "Yeah, [ __ ] man. I'm a piece of shit." You're not. You're hurt. You're actually wonderful. I need to get you the [ __ ] [clears throat] out. First, I got to poke to tell you like you're fazy. People think they're clever when they're in this world. They think they're tricking someone because their mommy's coddling them. You're right, Sally. Johnny is a dick. and their best friend who's also in their [ __ ] mud. You're right, Sarah. Johnny's a dick. But that's just a [ __ ] circle jerk of negativity [ __ ] And so here I come along and I'm poking because I want to get you the [ __ ] out. But when I poke, sometimes people go into like he's right and [ __ ] I'm the worst. You're not the worst. You're in a circumstance that you need to get out of. You're not the worst. You're just as good as me or anybody else. You're just as good as everyone. You're just hurting right now. And you don't realize that you're hanging with the same people, listening to the same [ __ ] And we've had the rise in the last decade of the fear weaponizers. And they're very effective because so many people lack self-esteem because we gave you eighth place trophies. Mommy and daddy coddled everything. Everybody's a puss. Bunch of pusses. People stopped fighting. People stopped punishing. People stopped grounding. Parents stopped smacking. There are no ramifications, no consequences. And now everyone's about to The problem is life is has the ultimate consequences. If you're a puss and you're 22 and you're, let's use a guy right now. If you're a man, you go out into the world and you're 22 and mommy and daddy took care of everything. Life's going to [ __ ] you up and then you're going to blame life. Instead of blaming yourself because you're the one that took mommy and daddy's [ __ ] coddling. There's 16-year-olds right now I I get the DMs who are telling mommy and daddy, "Go [ __ ] yourself. Stop coddling me. I'm off the payroll." Proud of you. Big shout out to all of you. This is a new thing. This is where Gen Alpha's getting to learn. Big shout out to all the 16, 17 year olds that have been hitting me up lately. There's a new wave, new wave of DMs, new wave of feedback. Had a kid had a kid uh stop me actually when I was with Xander, which I don't love, but said I got off the [ __ ] payroll. 17 years old, was at the card store, learned how to flip, got off the payroll. That [ __ ] kid, if he didn't get off the payroll, would have been the cliche 25-year-old who's depressed. You're depressed because you're not capable. You're not capable because mommy and daddy took care of everything. It's why kids have to play sports. You got to lose. If your kid does not want to play board games, who's got a kid under 12 who avoids board games? Put the number 12 in the chat because I'm telling you right now, you need to break it. I had one of those and I broke it. Who's got someone under 12 who avoids games? Who avoids games? They avoid it because they don't want to lose. First tell that they're insecure. For everybody putting 12 in, you have a insecure child. I did broke it. Avoidance. Avoidance. Avoidance. Avoidance. Avoidance. And if you have a kid who cries when they lose and then wants to play again, you have a winner on your hands, stop changing that. Who has a kid who cries or gets super upset and then wants to play again? Play again, play again. Who's got one of those? Now, let's be really honest. Who here maybe five or six, seven years ago when this wasn't obvious as much in culture tried to get their kids to realize it's just a game and now realizes, wait a minute, let me flip it up. Put fixed it. Put fixed it. If you were in the camp seven years ago saying it's just a game, but now you're all about letting it go. Look at this. This is why society matters. Look at all these fixes it in the chat. That's huge. Those were all parents. This is why we have so many people hurting right now at 20. We had a whole generation of parents who told kids that wanted to [ __ ] win and believed in, stick with me here, merit and truth. These are six-year-olds that believed in merit and truth and had competitive spirit and were built for the actual world. And we had parents being like, "Nah, you know what [ __ ] up a six-year-old?" Because your parents, all these people that fixed it now, that means we're For a lot of you, you're 23, 24, 25. You have to fix it for yourself. You're not a loser. You're currently losing. There's not one loser on earth. There's just people who are currently losing because they want to be happier. You like that? That was good, right? That was good. Give me something. It's true. Nobody's a loser. Did anybody watch the Bengals and the Bears game yesterday? That [ __ ] was crazy. Everyone losing like the Bears the Bengals were [ __ ] losers. Then then they're winning and the Bears had the worst loss in the year that may come back. Like that's life. There is not one I'm going to make this statement for 8.3 billion people. There is not one loser on Earth. There's just people that are currently losing. And now let me break your [ __ ] brain. Losing is fun, especially when the game's not over because then you get the [ __ ] joy of getting out of the loss. You know what the best win is? What the Bears did yesterday? Not just like cruising and making it easy. You know what's a great win in my favorite sport? Fighting is when you lose every Leon. I mean, I hate this because I like [ __ ] Usman is one of my favorite favorite favorite fighters of all time. I think he's one of the great fighters ever, Gumar. But Leon Edwards win is the most joyful. He got his ass beat for four and a half rounds and he [ __ ] found that leg late. The Karate Kid. DID YOU NOT LEARN FROM [ __ ] KARATE KID WHEN HE DID THE [ __ ] like he was [ __ ] hurt? He was [ __ ] hurt and he did the [ __ ] he [ __ ] did it. Did you not LEARN FROM THE KARATE KID? HE [ __ ] DID IT. The [ __ ] leg was [ __ ] up. DANNY'S LEG WAS [ __ ] UP AND HE HAD TO DO THE WEIRD THING AND DO THE He [ __ ] did it. He [ __ ] did it. I don't give a [ __ ] THAT YOU SUCK AND YOU'VE LOST EVERY JOB AND NOBODY LIKES YOU AND YOU'RE 39. YOU'RE NOT EVEN AT HALFTIME. YOU'RE JUST LOSING. You're not a loser. Chris, fix the chat, please. [ __ ] did it. I think I had Chris off focus too. Chris, did I you Chris? I had you in it, too, huh? Chris, >> right? You were [ __ ] pumped, too. I [ __ ] brought out [ __ ] Miyagi. Did you not [ __ ] learn from Karate Kid? Wax on, wax off, [ __ ] Let's keep it moving. Chris >> Chris >> what's interesting to build from that is um you always learn from it right and so I think um I lost my wife five years ago this month to co and I made sure to focus Thank you sir uh I'm a big fan of yours I've been watching you since you were on that app show and on the Apple channel like for Apple TV when you went >> hell yeah um But I just want to say that I think um I got my boys graduated. I got them situated and now it's my turn. And so I decided what the hell. I decided to jump into this whatnot stuff and I'm going to start my own show uh coming up this week because of you and all the things you said. But I just want to know like I also had some uh Michael Jordan Gatorade cards that I won from Gatorade several years ago and I thought maybe I could trade them for just 15 minutes. I could come to New York and hang with you for like 15 minutes. I don't know. They're very rare. I thought I'd throw that out there. Shoot my shot. But um anyway, I just wanted to throw that out there. First of all, what do you >> just your energy? I don't need your I don't need your Jordan Gatorade cards, though. If they're star cards, I need to see them because you need to get them graded. >> Um >> but I will give you 15 minutes in New York. The team will set it up for you in Q1 of 2026 just because I love the energy you're bringing here and I want to give that to you, >> dude. Oh my god. Thank you so much. Oh, I would love that. Yes. Thank Where do you live? >> Well, I currently live in St. Louis, Missouri. I uh moved I lived in Oklahoma all my life and I just turned 50 like you. So, uh I moved to St. Louis. My job brought me here. Uh I guess I can say I work for Apple. Uh I work for that company. I'm on that national education team. So, I've been a teacher all my life. Uh and so, yeah. So, I do that, enjoy that. But back in the day, I used to do some goofy things like on whatnot. So, like we had like a live cable access. >> HOLD ON. BREAK DOWN THE GOOFY THINGS FOR CHRIS. I need to know what goofy things you did. This is getting good now. >> Yeah, goofy things. Like, you know, I used to sell like from 1000 p.m. to 3:00 a.m. on a cable access channel like crap in a box. So, like when you like kind of you need to be you need to be on whatnot yesterday. Just don't sell crap this time. Sell something you believe in. [laughter] >> No, you're right. Absolutely. Don't sell crap. That's right. Yeah. But it was so much fun and it was back in the day and um I've tried a little bit of everything. And I think basically what I was going to say is the other things that I've learned is I've always wanted to be like a a motivational speaker talking about strength especially after these last five years and what that looks like. And you talk about a lot about being humble, a lot about just the strength and fighting through. And what you just said is so important for people to listen to. When you live through an experience like I have and you understand that you're not losing, you're just learning about life and you're continuing on. It's a hard thing to keep a smile on your face and and laugh about things, right? But man, [ __ ] it is incredible once you come out on the other side. and I appreciate you because I listen to you almost daily and absorb all your content. So anyway, I just wanted to say thanks for that. >> Chris, you know, you're such a inspiration. You went through one of the more challenging things that someone can go through, right? Los losing a spouse at a young age. >> Did you have children, sir? >> Yeah. Uh yeah, two boys. Uh it was 40. Uh let's see. I was what? 45. She died six days before her birthday, which would have made her 46. Yeah. And so, uh boys >> how old how old were the boys? How how old were the boys when your wife passed? >> Middle school and high school. They were, uh, 13 and 16. So, um, you know, I think when you battle those things, you know, and it's it's funny because, you know, the balance between a mom and a dad and, uh, and how that works, you're very familiar with that with your wonderful family that you've been a part of. Um, and just kind of working through that experience and what that looks like. It's tough because you still play that role of the dad, but then also um you know, how do you how do you make up that kind of that role for the mom too? And I think a lot of what you said too, my boys always talked about, well, you know, we're just we're just trying to we've lost, we've done this, we've done this. I said, yes, but you know what, there's another reason behind all of this and we got to keep fighting through it, you know, and I think that's and I never let my boys understand. um they always lost like in sports and things like you said like you know it's always that feeling um and yeah and just grow from that experience you know and what does that look like you know and then how can they turn that into their motivation to continue and be strong you know >> you know both my parents lost a parent um very young my mom lost her mom at five and my dad lost his dad at 15 and I've talked about openly about how fearing the death of my parents was the backdrop of my life, you know, like the the the the theme of my life, you know, and I think a lot of my gratitude comes from the fact that I went through my youth where that very challenging thing did not happen. And I I think it's just so wonderful that you were on this show, Chris, because I believe that there's a lot of people, this is what's happened in our society, unfortunately. There's a lot of people in the chat right now that are struggling with very lightweight things. They're struggling with they don't have extra income to buy silly stuff. Like literally, they're sitting right now watching and their biggest issue that really eats them up is that they don't have extra money to buy a Lexus or a Burka bag >> or or go to the Four Seasons in Hawaii like someone they saw on social or someone in their neighborhood and it's eating them up. Envy, jealousy around materialistic things. And then a gentleman like you comes on who has gone through a real adversity. Losing your wife during COVID and then having to raise your two children by yourself at an incredibly fragile time in their lives. 13 to 16 for boys is a profoundly challenging time. and the fact that you have the strength and the the energy that you come on here with and the optimism and the hope and just you know what you're doing um you know I hope wakes somebody like not only thank God for your boys they were lucky to have you right and I do believe the incredible challenge of losing their mother can become the foundation of their happiness I really believe that I believe adversity is the foundation of success and happiness But but Chris, the reason you need to go and whatnot and get out there is I'm convinced that you just helped someone in this chat. Convinced convinced that somebody just got >> just got shook and said this [ __ ] dude >> is coming on with this energy and I'm crying about some dumb ass [ __ ] right? Like people are crying about dumb ass [ __ ] and literally just felt what it would feel like right now to lose their spouse and all the pressures of like keeping up the financial impact. There's people, you know, I you know, there's people right now that could lose their spouse. I don't know how the f you know, you obviously said you worked for Apple on education. I don't know if your wife worked or not, but some people here >> some some people here are the stay-at-home parent and could lose their spouse >> who not only is their spouse and would be their mom or dad to their kids, >> but also the fina, you know, there's people that literally had to go to work today. Literally today, Monday in the world, somebody had to go to work today on November 3rd, Monday in the world, who'd never worked in their adult life because their spouse took care of the finances and that spouse passed away last month, a couple weeks ago, and that person has to go to work. Like, people have real adversities out here. >> Yeah. No, you're right. I think when people always ask why you don't get stressed, like they say, "Well, Chris, nothing ever shakes you." I said, 'Yeah, it doesn't shake you when you see your wife hooked to a machine and can't breathe. You know what I mean? Of >> course, nothing shakes. >> And by the way, Chris, I've never had that happen to me. And nothing shakes me because the serendipity of my DNA, parenting, and circumstance. There's people who are unshakable >> who just have simplicity in their heart. >> It's simplicity that we need, my friend. >> I love it. Yes, sir. >> What the [ __ ] What [laughter] the [ __ ] does everybody need? What do you need? >> Yeah. >> You know, people are very confused out here that they think stuff is going to close the gap of their heart. >> It doesn't. >> I cannot [laughter] explain to you how many people I've watched get more stuff and get more unhappy >> because here's what happens to people that believe that money and stuff will solve it. They get there and it doesn't and then are completely [ __ ] up. Yeah. Well, I Hey, it's been an absolute honor. I know you are a busy man and there are other people that have >> Chris, do you have a whatnot thing? >> Uh, also Chris, can you also DM at uh Team Gary? >> Can you also DM Team Gary Vee on Instagram? Do you know the Team Gary Vee Instagram account? >> Yep. Team DM them and say >> Chris from St. Louis want to set up my time. Do you have a whatnot username yet? >> Uh, yeah. I think it's just Chris K54 is what I put on there last I think just yesterday. I changed it up. >> Let's make Let's make sure. Take take your time. Double check. >> Yeah, I'm pretty sure. Here. Let's see. Uh account. Yep. Chris K 54. >> Chris K54. Team Chris K54. Is that right? Let me see it. >> And it's me holding It's me holding the microphone is the picture. >> I see it. Everybody, please follow all 400 of you in here. Follow. Everyone's following you right now, Chris. There we go. Oh man, you man, bless you, sir. Bless what you do. Thank you so much. And hey, I can't wait to come visit you in 2026. I'm pumped. This is awesome. What a blessing. >> Thank you, sir. Appreciate it. Stay well. >> Byebye, >> everybody. As we're um as we're tuning off here on today's show, first of all, I'll be back at one o'clock at garybe.comtt maybe. Or what do we have? >> It's talk live. >> Talk live. >> T live. >> Oh, talk live. Jesus Christ. for some reason is just not letting us read the right. >> All right, we'll figure it out. Anyway, I'll be on at 1:00 on Tik Tok. Just go to my Tik Tok, you'll see me there. Um, who got value this morning? How did today's show go? >> LinkedIn. >> How many people um >> How many people got uh value? >> Well, I hope you did. Um, I [ __ ] love you back. Whose first show was this? Whose first show ever was this? >> Oh, I know. I got another meeting. What are you doing here, Rifts? >> You're rating into me. >> Oh, we got a huge show. What? Can we do something huge right after? We're going to change it up. We went very deep here. Everybody whose first show it is, um, is this recorded? >> Yeah, we record it. >> Yeah, we got it recorded. We'll have some clips from here. I think uh we're definitely going to put out that no one on earth is a loser. You're just losing. That will definitely be made. Um uh everybody, if it's your first show, make sure you go to top left corner and follow V friends. That's very important to me. Um Oh, I love micro dramas. What's going on in Asia with those pieces of content is huge. I think microama micro drama content in the US is going to be a monster. I met a woman in SF who's got a startup actually. I think I downloaded it was a think for the Latino community. Yeah. [ __ ] How did I get that pumped with myself? I D I L I O. How do you pronounce this? >> Idilio. I don't know. There's a my like I'm so on top of this micro drama thing. I'm looking at the US companies that are exploding. Anyway, if this was your first show on whatnot, please go to the top left corner and follow everything. Uh, and please, it would mean the world to me if you did a little homework on befriends. If you're, if this is your first show ever and you have a kid between three and 12 or you collect, put the number 312. If you have a kid 3 to 12 or if you're a collector of things and this is your first show, say collect and put dash and tell me what you collect. If you have a kid 3 to 12, you need to watch vfriends.com/carttoons. If you collect and you don't collect VF yet, this is your first show ever and you don't collect V friends yet, we're gonna raid you right now and you're going to learn. Let's do it. And everybody on other social medias, we'll see you next time. Everybody, Tik Tok 1 p.m. something like this morning. A little bit different. You ready? Thanks everyone.