[00:00] It's the essential foundation Yet, it's been said that parents don't get much at all. before and after having a baby.
[00:15] What could I learn from an entire year Is it possible to break the stereotype This video is sponsored by Squarespace.
[00:29] the week that Natalie got pregnant. and partly by a desperate desire to hold onto my sleep. set it to Sleep Mode every night,
[00:44] Consumer sleep tracking devices like the Apple Watch used in sleep labs, of tracking my sleep and awake periods.
[00:56] The deeper the blue, the deeper the sleep. And what I found over the nine months I averaged seven hours and 54 minutes of sleep per night.
[01:10] Looking at some of the individual days here, Of course, there would be times when I was up all night, is now set in the past, but those were outliers.
[01:23] I've always done my best to get a good night's sleep, and listening to the soothing voice of Matthew McConaughey. to getting good sleep.
[01:36] Did the quality of my sleep hold up after Frankie's birth? on my phone for the past year, Here we go.
[01:48] (drum rolling) I guess this game wasn't really that hard. It's so bad, in fact, that one survey revealed
[02:03] were getting seven plus hours of sleep per night, might be a vasectomy. kind of like what got us into this mess.
[02:15] For some reason, the first two nights with Frankie I'm pretty sure my Apple Watch thought I was dead. across two days.
[02:27] two hours and 38 minutes, three hours and 55 minutes, I didn't get a solid seven hours of sleep in a night
[02:43] Now, it's important to mention but this still illustrates just how difficult those first few weeks were.
[02:55] Not great. - [Natalie] Working dad.
[03:07] - I got Frankie here. - [Natalie] Can you tell everyone hi? - [Matt] All right so who do you think is getting
[03:20] You're getting more sleep than I am, for sure. So I'm having to wake up with every time he wakes up, for like half that amount of time.
[03:35] but I'm definitely getting the shittiest sleep of my life. getting eight hours of sleep. is brutal on your physical, mental, and emotional health.
[03:49] but I'll try. You've been here before After a couple days,
[04:01] and your reaction time starts to slow down. and you can't remember the last time you felt well rested. something you have literally no experience doing.
[04:17] A few weeks later, you begin to fall asleep sitting down, out of a jar at 5:00am You immediately start crying.
[04:32] has you walking on an emotional tightrope It breaks you down into a shell of your former self It's no wonder that they use sleep deprivation
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[06:08] - [AI] Me too. to get the same quality as before. for the first few weeks,
[06:23] And at minimum, Again, that's at minimum. these are usually just the base realities for most parents.
[06:37] until after four months, we decided to start implementing sleep shifts. Then we took turns sleeping half the night
[06:50] Add in some noise canceling headphones You can actually see a huge difference and when I'm sleeping next to Frankie.
[07:03] I went from averaging five hours of sleep in the beginning which sounds amazing until you look closer at the data.
[07:15] and here's what eight hours of sleep looked like after. I needed to spend over 12 hours,
[07:27] which is getting more and more unrealistic and well, you know, have a life. more than anything else is acceptance.
[07:40] and it definitely helps to vent sometimes - If you're not complaining, are you even parenting? People are like, you know what?
[07:55] and it's gonna be great and I'm gonna be positive about it and I can at least control my mindset. Dunno how you do it.
[08:07] - [Matt] Life is just different now and you get used to it. You get by, some days are worse than others and in the end, the sacrifice is worth it.