[0:00] This is Erika LaBrie! A world archery
champion, a former Air Force soldier!...
[0:04] And the wife of the Eiffel Tower!
[0:06] In 2007, she held a wedding ceremony in
Paris, changed her last name to Eiffel,
[0:10] and officially declared the tower her
partner!
[0:13] And before that, she dated the Berlin
Wall for 20 years.
[0:19] So what was wrong with her?
[0:20] Erika has objectophilia - a sexual and
romantic attraction to inanimate objects.
[0:25] Her first love was at nine years old! She
fell in love with the fence near her
[0:29] house!
[0:29] As a teenager, she entered the longest
relationship of her life - with the
[0:33] Berlin Wall! Which she later left for the
Eiffel Tower!
[0:36] But after a media scandal, they had to
keep their distance, - so she returned to
[0:40] Berlin, to the memory of her demolished
lover...
[0:43] She grieved that loss for a long time,
calling her love affair with the tower -
[0:47] the biggest mistake of her life.
[0:49] Heartbreaking story.
[0:51] But don't worry! According to the latest
data, she is dating a construction crane!
[0:55] And if you call her weird - you're deeply
mistaken! Because you and I - are exactly
[1:02] the same!
[1:03] Today we will talk about the most amazing
phenomenon of our brain: fetishes!
[1:07] We'll break down how the brain turns
ordinary things into objects of desire!
[1:11] Why some people like feet, others latex!
And others things that, in some
[1:15] countries, - you're not even allowed to
think about.
[1:18] What are your fetishes really hiding?
[1:21] Why are your deepest insecurities
actually your most desired fantasies?
[1:25] And why is watching porn: your most
useful habit?
[1:30] But first - what is a fetish?
[1:32] What do you think connects a foot
fetishist and a cuckold?!
[1:35] That's right! Art!
[1:37] In ancient times, sex was sacred!
[1:39] In Pompeii, above the entrance to each
room of the brothel, there was a fresco
[1:42] with a position: like an item on a menu!
[1:44] And the streets of the city were strewn
with stone phalluses, considering them as
[1:48] talismans and symbols of luck: placing
them even on ordinary bakeries!
[1:51] The Kama Sutra, which describes positions
and even strikes in detail, was written
[1:55] in the 4th century and was considered a
philosophical code of love!
[1:58] And one of the oldest erotic magazines
appeared 3000 years ago in Ancient Egypt
[2:03] - the Turin Erotic Papyrus!
[2:05] Twelve scenes in the most ambitious and
satirical poses imaginable!
[2:08] Sexuality and fetishes were the
foundation of our society - and of
[2:12] humanity itself.
[2:12] And the word 'fetish' itself came from:
magic!
[2:16] Portuguese colonizers in West Africa
called the objects worshipped by local
[2:21] tribes - fetishes!
[2:22] Amulets, figurines, stones! In other
words, things believed to have
[2:26] supernatural power!
[2:27] So a fetish is something that makes you
feel, what you aren't supposed to feel!
[2:32] But in modern times, the word got
simplified a little, and they gave it a
[2:36] colorful, concise label!
[2:37] They called it a disease.
[2:39] In medieval Europe, sexuality came under
the control of the Church, and almost
[2:42] everything started being considered a
sin!
[2:44] For example, masturbation was punished,
and having sex was only allowed on
[2:48] certain days!
[2:49] But in 1886, everything changed when the
German psychiatrist Krafft-Ebing
[2:53] published his book on sexuality, the one
that cemented the terms we still use
[2:58] today!
[2:58] And from that point on, everything that
had once been a sin became!... a disease.
[3:03] It was believed that if you got aroused
in a non-standard way, then - you were a
[3:07] degenerate!
[3:07] And that included everything, from
arousal to certain clothes to bestiality!
[3:12] So obviously it had to be treated.
[3:14] Though in practice, the treatment was
chemical castration, and torture.
[3:18] And every fetish was considered a disease
until 2020, when the WHO decided that
[3:22] masturbating to feet - wasn't actually
that bad! And released an updated
[3:26] classification of diseases!
[3:27] From which fetishism and masochism - were
removed from the list of disorders!
[3:31] But with one exception.
[3:33] There is a certain gradation!
[3:35] Look, there are typical sexual
preferences: it's all about regular sex
[3:40] with a partner!
[3:41] This concept covers the whole spectrum!
Preferences in hair color, figure, race,
[3:45] sizes, positions, and so on.
[3:47] And if arousal starts to consistently
latch not just onto a partner, but onto:
[3:52] an object, a body part, material, or
scenario, then that's already atypical
[3:56] sexual interest, which means -
paraphilia!
[3:58] And that, in turn, is divided into a
large number of sub-items like fetishism,
[4:03] sadism, masochism, - and pedophilia!
[4:05] Yes, crimes against children and a
passion for heels are in the same
[4:08] category.
[4:09] Because in science, any atypical sexual
interest falls under that label.
[4:12] So, a fetish is a category, not a general
term!
[4:15] And here too, you need to know how to
distinguish: if you love things or body
[4:19] parts - that's a fetish!
[4:20] If you like humiliation and loss of
control - that's masochism!
[4:24] And if you love power and control -
That's sadism! And it's... Normal!
[4:29] It only becomes a diagnosis - and
therefore a disorder - when it makes you
[4:33] suffer, interferes with or destroys your
life, or violates someone else's
[4:37] boundaries!
[4:38] There's Quentin Tarantino, a director
known for his love of women's feet!
[4:42] And then there's Jerry Brudos! A serial
killer known for cutting off his victim's
[4:47] foot, so he could dress it in women's
shoes.
[4:50] One fetish, but completely different
manifestations.
[4:53] And according to statistics, or more
precisely, a study by Canadian
[4:56] scientists: approximately half of people
have at least one paraphilia!
[5:00] So, roughly speaking, every second one of
you - is hiding something right now!
[5:05] Personally, I love SUCH GIGANTIC BOOBS!
[5:07] But how does the brain even form
something like that?
[5:09] Our brain always creates the most
efficient logical chains!
[5:12] Whatever leads to pleasure with the least
effort - stays with us for life!
[5:17] That's just how the brain works. You
can't argue with it!
[5:21] And he creates such chains not only in
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[6:49] Any of our desires is a stimulus for
fulfilling a particular need or for
[6:53] compensating a deficiency!
[6:55] Which is why, at the level of the
dopamine system, there is no fundamental
[6:58] difference between wanting a glass of
water... and wanting to join an orgy!
[7:02] It's the same thing!
[7:04] Of course, our desires are often just
accidents that don't lend themselves to
[7:08] explanation!
[7:09] But if we do try to explain them, then
fundamentally they can all be divided
[7:13] into two groups - strength and weakness.
[7:16] Yes, a person might just have a fetish
for school uniforms, but there may also
[7:20] be an element of sadism behind it!
[7:22] Because school clothes can be associated
with something innocent, young, and weak.
[7:26] And on the other hand, you might love
roughness because it makes you feel weak
[7:31] or humiliated!
[7:32] Just like a foot fetish, because the foot
is culturally and visually associated
[7:36] with dominance!
[7:37] So our preferences are often a way of
convincing ourselves of something -
[7:40] usually of our role.
[7:41] But, of course, this is just my
far-fetched interpretation! Just a
[7:45] theory, far from science!
[7:49] Or maybe not.
[7:50] Psychotherapist Jeffrey Young described a
mechanism that explains exactly this
[7:54] paradox.
[7:54] When a child grows up with an unmet basic
need - whether for safety, attention, or
[7:59] acceptance - they develop what is called
an early maladaptive schema.
[8:02] Roughly speaking, a deep belief about
themselves: "I'm worthless!" "I'll be
[8:07] abandoned!" "I'm unloved!" and so on.
[8:09] And then the brain chooses one of three
strategies for how to live with it.
[8:13] The first is surrender: the person
accepts the schema as truth and builds
[8:17] their life around it.
[8:18] He was humiliated and he's looking for
partners - who will humiliate him!
[8:22] Not because they enjoy it, but because
it's the only script for intimacy they
[8:26] know!
[8:26] And if it feels familiar, then it feels
safe, that's how the psyche sees it.
[8:30] In sex, this turns into masochism and
other fantasies of humiliation.
[8:34] And the second is overcompensation, the
exact opposite!
[8:38] They felt powerless as a child, so in
relationships they control every step.
[8:42] They feel defective - so they start to
dominate.
[8:45] In sex, that shows up as sadism, as a
need for absolute control over a partner.
[8:49] And the third is the most banal of all -
avoidance.
[8:52] The person tries to distance themselves
from everything that activates the
[8:56] schema, avoiding relationships and
intimacy. Often compensating with
[9:00] pornography.
[9:00] So our fetishes are our safe trauma - our
way of coping with it in controlled
[9:06] conditions!
[9:06] Because it's one thing to be subjected to
violence in childhood, and another when
[9:10] it happens under conditions that you set
yourself.
[9:13] And as for which path the brain will
choose, it is a tangle of various factors
[9:16] from heredity to the environment in which
we grew up!
[9:21] But there is a problem.
[9:22] You had a rough father, and now you're
looking for a rough daddy! Sounds logical
[9:26] enough!
[9:27] And indeed, for many of our desires, by
asking the right question, you can get
[9:31] the answer - "Why?".
[9:34] But psychology doesn't explain
everything.
[9:36] At the end of the last century,
sexologist John Money proposed the
[9:40] concept of love maps.
[9:41] The idea was that during development, the
brain absorbs visual, tactile, olfactory,
[9:46] and other stimuli, and assembles from
them an individual template!
[9:49] What attracts us, what partner, what
scenario, what feelings.
[9:53] Like a playlist your brain compiles on
its own, without your participation!
[9:57] Before you even know what sex is, your
brain is already recording what will turn
[10:02] you on.
[10:02] One of the main factors influencing this
is called - classical conditioning!
[10:06] A neutral object accidentally coincides
in time with strong arousal, and the
[10:10] brain creates an association - whether
that's a first erection or a random
[10:14] moment of excitement.
[10:15] The second reason - is the arousal
transfer.
[10:18] Our brain is, actually, quite dumb!
[10:20] It can't tell why exactly your heart is
pounding right now! From fear, from
[10:25] shame, or from raw desire!?
[10:26] For him, it's the same adrenaline!
[10:29] And if at a moment of fear or humiliation
there is a sexual stimulus nearby, the
[10:33] brain gets confused!
[10:34] Which is why shame starts turning you on
even more, pain becomes exciting, and
[10:38] your taboos and insecurities become your
favorite category on adult sites.
[10:43] The brain loves not only the sex itself,
but also the state in which it occurs!
[10:47] And if your orgasm coincides several
times with some strange trigger, the
[10:51] brain will stop considering it a
coincidence! It will perceive it as the
[10:55] shortest path to pleasure.
[10:57] In 1966, psychologist Stanley Rachman
conducted an experiment.
[11:00] He took a group of heterosexual men and
started showing them a photo of women's
[11:04] boots, and right after that - a photo of
a naked woman.
[11:07] And through many such repetitions, men
began to show excitement for boots!
[11:12] Already without the need to show nudity!
[11:15] The brain created the link: boots equal
pleasure!
[11:18] Exactly the same principle as Pavlov's
dog!
[11:21] Theoretically, each of you can create
your own fetish from scratch! If you
[11:25] masturbate to an Apple for a year, it's
quite likely that after a year, you'll
[11:29] start getting aroused by apples!
[11:32] So, now you have a new hobby!
[11:34] That's why there's such a huge variety of
different preferences in the world! From
[11:39] foot fetishism, which is the most popular
fetish in the world! To dendrophilia - a
[11:44] sexual attraction to trees or wooden
objects!
[11:47] Everything you can imagine and think
about, a person can either fear - or be
[11:52] aroused by!
[11:53] Recall our previous video about fear.
[11:55] Phobia and fetish - they're relatives!
[11:57] Different, yet very similar in terms of
significance.
[12:01] So, there's no single formula.
[12:03] For some people, a fetish formed in
childhood; for some, as a result of
[12:06] trauma, or out of need, or through a
random association; and for others,
[12:10] through a combination of all of the
above.
[12:12] It's like a giant construction set.
[12:13] Coprophilia, for example, is probably a
mix of factors.
[12:16] Normally, sexual arousal temporarily
suppresses disgust, because
[12:20] evolutionarily that's necessary to reduce
aversion to another person's bodily
[12:24] fluids and make sex possible!
[12:26] But for some people, disgust itself - the
crossing of a taboo - becomes the main
[12:31] source of dopamine.
[12:32] And along with that, the desire to be
humiliated as much as possible can also
[12:35] play a role, and so on.
[12:37] In short, it's a whole pile of small
details in one completely random
[12:41] construction set. Single-factor
explanations almost never work in
[12:45] sexology.
[12:46] But does that mean that having
paraphilias is something strange,
[12:50] dangerous, and only something sick and
stupid people do?
[12:54] I'm afraid to upset you, but it's quite
possible that comprofils - are much
[12:59] smarter than us!
[13:00] In 2013, Dutch psychologists conducted a
study comparing people practicing BDSM
[13:05] with ordinary people!
[13:06] The result was that those who enjoy BDSM
scored higher on subjective well-being,
[13:11] conscientiousness, openness to new
experiences, and extraversion, and lower
[13:15] on measures of anxiety and neuroticism!
[13:18] And Canadian researchers found that
masochism was statistically significantly
[13:23] correlated with higher sexual
satisfaction!
[13:25] So, people with atypical sexual interests
almost always turned out to be generally
[13:30] psychologically healthier than average
people!
[13:32] It is presumed to be related to
intelligence!
[13:35] Openness to new experience is a trait
that directly correlates with IQ, because
[13:38] it is associated with the dorsolateral
prefrontal cortex - the region
[13:41] responsible for cognitive flexibility and
the ability to step outside habitual
[13:45] patterns.
[13:45] Roughly speaking, the smarter you are,
the more curious you become, and the
[13:49] broader your sexual repertoire!
[13:51] And not because smart people are
perverts! But because openness to the
[13:55] unconventional is the same trait,
manifest in science, in creativity, and
[14:00] in bed!
[14:01] So the conclusion here is simple: buy a
latex suit, beat your wives, and eat
[14:06] feces!
[14:07] Actually, explaining such a connection,
if we view fetish not as a perversion,
[14:12] but as a certain need and part of human
personality, is quite logical!
[14:17] Maybe some particular fetish will strike
you as strange or unhealthy, but if it
[14:21] doesn't violate anyone else's boundaries,
doesn't ruin people's lives, and is
[14:25] consensual - and if the word "disorder"
is not standing next to it -
[14:28] Then in that case, it is one of the best
tools a person has for exploring
[14:32] themselves and their needs, working
through trauma in a safe environment, and
[14:36] building boundaries.
[14:37] People who can calmly talk about their
sexual preferences - and know what those
[14:41] preferences are - live more peacefully
and more happily, because they know
[14:44] themselves instead of living in inner
shame and repression.
[14:47] Which is why the phrase "everyone jerks
off however they want" is actually pretty
[14:52] philosophical.
[14:53] This is especially evident in couples!
[14:55] Research shows that the quality of sexual
communication in a couple - that is, how
[15:00] openly and deeply partners discuss their
desires - critically correlates with
[15:04] sexual satisfaction.
[15:05] And there is a nuance here: it is not
enough to communicate well about chores
[15:09] and work.
[15:10] If partners don't talk about sex - they
are still not satisfied.
[15:14] And this becomes critically important
when we look at the statistics on
[15:18] long-term relationships, because the
statistics say: sex in them - dies.
[15:23] The sharpest drop in sexual frequency
happens in the first three years of a
[15:27] relationship, and after that comes a
plateau that keeps slowly declining.
[15:30] And here there is a gender paradox: over
the years, sexual desire declines mostly
[15:35] in women, while male desire stays roughly
stable the whole time.
[15:38] So over time, partners literally start
moving in opposite directions.
[15:42] Because that's how biology works!
[15:44] Because dopamine is responsible for our
desires!
[15:46] And dopamine is the neurotransmitter of
novelty!
[15:49] His task is not to reward you for what
you have, but to motivate you to seek
[15:53] what you lack!
[15:54] And it works in sex too! Indeed, for all
mammals!
[15:57] The male, exhausted after mating with one
female, instantly revives at the sight of
[16:01] a new one!
[16:02] This is called the Coolidge effect.
[16:04] The same effect can be seen in women too
- just not as strongly!
[16:07] But much stronger in women is the
capacity for habituation!
[16:11] In simple terms, they get used to
routine, boredom, and repeated sexual
[16:15] stimuli faster than men do, because the
brain is more flexible and adaptive.
[16:20] And no, that does not mean women get
tired of sex!
[16:23] There is one important thing.
[16:25] There are two types of desire! The first:
spontaneous, you want it - and you do it.
[16:29] The second is responsive: desire appears
not before arousal, but in response to it
[16:34] - from kissing, touch, foreplay.
[16:36] And over time, women tend to move into
the second mode, because in long-term
[16:40] relationships oxytocin starts to take the
dominant role.
[16:43] And emotional closeness is the gateway to
sex! Without this context, dopamine just
[16:48] doesn't kick in!
[16:49] And a man is almost always about
spontaneous desire!
[16:52] Most of us are just like those monkey
memes!
[16:55] We want sex first! And then... It doesn't
matter anymore!
[16:59] So for a woman, sex often starts with
feeling significant.
[17:03] And for a man, sex itself is the proof
that he is significant.
[17:07] That's exactly what we talked about in
the video about love - definitely watch
[17:10] it afterward, it's one of the most
important videos on the channel, and
[17:13] probably in your life too.
[17:15] At the very least because I'm wearing a
wedding dress in it.
[17:18] Dialogue matters! It's an irreplaceable
foundation.
[17:21] If you don't hear each other, if you
don't try to look at the problem not only
[17:25] through the prism of your own desires and
your own ego, but also through the prism
[17:29] of your partner, you will inevitably
drift in different directions.
[17:33] Secondly and equally important, novelty!
And this is not about sex.
[17:36] Travel, hobbies, leisure! If you and your
partner try something new, the likelihood
[17:41] of sex on that day increases by a third!
[17:43] In general, routine is what kills both
love and sex! And anything that breaks
[17:48] the routine triggers dopamine, and
dopamine transfers to the partner!
[17:52] And third: the sexual diversity itself!
[17:55] Couples who openly talk about their
desires and preferences, who try new
[17:59] things - they are the ones who end up
happier years later than those who don't.
[18:03] That's the nature of it! Our brain is set
up in such a way that it needs novelty to
[18:08] keep wanting!
[18:09] And you don't necessarily have to change
or endure violence: it's enough to
[18:13] consciously introduce something new!
[18:15] From traveling together, to experiments
in bed!
[18:18] Sometimes just bringing in new sensations
is enough, especially when there is a
[18:23] wide variety of adult products!
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[18:29] when applied to intimate areas, enhances
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[18:39] Its formula is as safe as it gets,
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[18:46] different types of sex!
[18:47] And because it's edible, during oral play
it can also add interesting sensations to
[18:50] the lips and tongue.
[18:52] The liquid vibrator works through
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[18:55] the skin - and just a tiny drop is enough
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[19:09] And a significant player in improving
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[19:13] been - porn!
[19:14] People have very different attitudes
toward it.
[19:16] Some believe that it brings nothing but
harm, and some even consider watching it
[19:20] to be cheating in a relationship!
[19:22] But the research disagrees and, on the
contrary, shows that watching porn
[19:26] together in a long-term relationship
often leads to better communication, more
[19:30] trust, and greater sexual satisfaction.
[19:33] And there's nothing surprising about
that!
[19:35] Our sexuality is not just a part of life
or relationships!
[19:38] It has long stopped being confined to the
bedroom.
[19:41] It's the force that moves not just our
beds! But our civilization too!
[19:47] Every technology in human history has
gone through the same cycle! In which the
[19:51] first users were almost always either the
military, or - perverts!
[19:55] One of the first mass-produced
publications after the invention of the
[19:59] printing press were the erotic engravings
'I Modi'!
[20:01] The first erotic film was shot one year
after the invention of cinema!
[20:05] Online payment systems developed thanks
to porn sites! And the streaming
[20:09] screening system, which allows you to
watch this video, was one of the first
[20:13] successfully implemented and monetized by
porn sites, long before YouTube appeared!
[20:18] So every time a new technology appears,
our sexuality - and porn - are among the
[20:22] first to colonize the market and prove
that money can be made from it... and
[20:27] then the mainstream arrives.
[20:28] This is a pattern that has been repeating
for five hundred years in a row!
[20:31] States keep trying to ban it - and they
lose every single time.
[20:35] Because you can block websites! But you
can't ban biology.
[20:39] With the invention of porn sites, society
has drastically changed!
[20:42] In some countries where pornography was
legalized, the number of sex-related
[20:47] crimes decreased!
[20:48] Its accessibility became one of the
reasons why, in our era, we speak more
[20:52] openly and more easily about sexuality.
[20:55] Humanity has swung like a pendulum
throughout history: from normalization to
[20:59] condemnation - and back again.
[21:01] Every saint who considers masturbation a
sin has indulged in it.
[21:04] And every politician, who tries to ban
porn, has watched it.
[21:08] Our desires cannot be defeated - they can
only be suppressed: with religion,
[21:13] politics culture.
[21:14] But as history shows, that is an unequal
war, and a doomed one from the start.
[21:19] But there is one thin line here.
[21:22] In the middle of the last century, Niko
Tinbergen, a Dutch biologist, conducted
[21:25] an experiment.
[21:26] He placed giant plaster dummies in birds'
nests instead of their own eggs.
[21:30] Some were the size of volleyballs, or
even painted in bright colors.
[21:34] And the birds simply abandoned their real
offspring in order to incubate a giant
[21:39] chunk of plaster.
[21:40] Their brains assumed that if it was
bigger and brighter, then it had to be
[21:43] better!
[21:44] Tinbergen called it a supernormal
stimulus.
[21:46] Our brain, like the brain of these birds,
has evolved to seek signals: food,
[21:51] security sex!
[21:52] And if you give the brain an artificially
inflated, exaggerated version of that
[21:57] signal, the system simply breaks.
[21:59] Modern research shows exactly that!
[22:01] The more porn there is in a person's
life, the lower their satisfaction with
[22:05] life, sex, and relationships.
[22:07] Especially if it is done in secret from
the partner or done excessively.
[22:11] And uncontrolled consumption increases
indicators of individual sexual
[22:15] aggression.
[22:15] But it works the other way around too!
[22:18] People who are completely isolated from
anything erotic due to beliefs or
[22:23] religion have a lower level of sexual
satisfaction!
[22:27] However, researchers consider "a safe
amount of porn" to be watching it no more
[22:31] than a couple of times a month! And it's
better if it's videos that focus on
[22:35] romance and passion rather than hardcore!
[22:37] So the problem with pornography - and
with everything tied to our sexuality -
[22:41] is not the phenomenon itself, but its
effect on us: how we handle it.
[22:45] It can be a great tool for relieving
sexual tension, especially when you're
[22:50] not in a relationship!
[22:51] It can bring some ideas about diversity
in relationships! But it can also amplify
[22:56] our complexes or turn harmless passions
into disorders and deviations!
[23:01] And let's be honest, many of us use porn
as a regular tool to deal with laziness,
[23:06] stress, anxiety, or loneliness.
[23:08] This is our cheap digital antidepressant,
which leads to serious consequences: a
[23:13] feeling of apathy, loss of motivation and
pleasure.
[23:16] In the past, to watch porn, you had to do
something: find the right tape, magazine,
[23:20] or catch the right channel at night.
[23:22] Now there are hundreds of sites on your
phone, where algorithms will serve you
[23:26] exactly what you need.
[23:28] And those algorithms will happily play on
your weaknesses, feeding you increasingly
[23:32] extreme content to drag you even deeper
into the trap.
[23:36] Generally, the dose is what distinguishes
poison from medicine.
[23:39] And if you think you have a porn
addiction - and it's getting in your way.
[23:43] If it often leaves you drained,
unmotivated, apathetic, and in general
[23:47] it's hard for you to control compulsive
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[24:06] and your issues, monitoring your
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[24:18] And besides that, you can simply have a
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[24:21] out your feelings and emotions.
[24:23] Maybe you're dealing with personal
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[24:26] untangle for a long time, but never had
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[24:31] But in a situation where there is no
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[24:41] And the link to the bot will be in the
description.
[24:44] Throughout all of human history, we've
been throwing ourselves from one extreme
[24:47] to another, and still we can't come to a
conclusion.
[24:49] What is a fetish - and what do we do with
our sexuality?
[24:52] Is it a perversion, a deviation, a sin?
[24:56] But it's simpler.
[24:57] Our desires, from ordinary to sexual, are
who we are. The construct of our
[25:02] personality.
[25:02] When we try to suppress our nature, to
force it into the frame of shame,
[25:07] religion, or censorship, the need doesn't
disappear.
[25:10] It goes into the shadows, mutates, and
starts rotting from the inside.
[25:13] When we hand the exploration of our own
sexuality over to algorithms, we get a
[25:18] catastrophe.
[25:18] Look at the modern generations!
[25:20] It's a tragedy that most teenagers form
their understanding of love and
[25:24] relationships through the plastic world
of Instagram and hardcore categories on
[25:28] porn sites!
[25:29] They build their understanding of
intimacy from a world where intimacy
[25:32] doesn't exist, creating a very dangerous
illusion around themselves.
[25:36] And then they sincerely cannot understand
why real people are different from pixels
[25:40] on a screen.
[25:41] Our sexuality should be neither a
shameful secret that we hide from
[25:45] ourselves, nor a digital product that we
mindlessly feed to algorithms.
[25:49] And only we get to decide what to do with
it.
[25:51] Whether to lock this colossal energy in
the closet of our own insecurities, to
[25:55] flush it down the toilet.
[25:56] Or to learn to understand it - making our
real lives and our relationships
[26:00] brighter, more conscious, and happier.
[26:03] So don't be ashamed of your weirdness.
[26:06] Do not be afraid of your fetishes and
don't hide from your complexes, but study
[26:10] them.
[26:11] For behind every one of your desires lies
the key to understanding - who you really
[26:16] are.
[26:16] This was Albert.
[26:17] Subscribe to the channel and my socials
through the links in the description.
[26:20] Be honest with yourself!
[26:23] All the best.