---
title: 'Фетиши. Откуда берется похоть?'
source: 'https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6nzVqizXcMU'
video_id: '6nzVqizXcMU'
date: 2026-06-16
duration_sec: 0
---

# Фетиши. Откуда берется похоть?

> Source: [Фетиши. Откуда берется похоть?](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6nzVqizXcMU)

## Summary

This video explores the psychology and neuroscience behind fetishes and human sexuality. It traces the history of fetishism from ancient sacred practices to modern medical classifications, and explains how the brain forms sexual preferences through conditioning, trauma, and novelty-seeking. The video also discusses the role of pornography, relationship dynamics, and the importance of open communication about desires.

### Key Points

- **Objectophilia Example** [00:20] — Erika LaBrie has objectophilia, a sexual attraction to inanimate objects. She married the Eiffel Tower and previously dated the Berlin Wall.
- **Historical Context of Fetish** [01:32] — The word 'fetish' comes from Portuguese colonizers in West Africa describing objects worshipped by local tribes. In ancient times, sex was sacred, as seen in Pompeii frescoes and the Kama Sutra.
- **Medicalization of Fetish** [02:39] — In 1886, Krafft-Ebing's book classified non-standard arousal as a disease. Fetishism was considered a disorder until 2020 when WHO removed it from the list of disorders, except when it causes distress or harm.
- **Prevalence of Paraphilias** [04:53] — A Canadian study found that approximately half of people have at least one paraphilia (atypical sexual interest).
- **Early Maladaptive Schemas** [07:50] — Psychotherapist Jeffrey Young's theory: unmet childhood needs lead to deep beliefs (schemas) that shape sexual preferences. Three strategies: surrender (masochism), overcompensation (sadism), avoidance (pornography).
- **Love Maps and Classical Conditioning** [09:36] — Sexologist John Money proposed love maps – individual templates formed by early stimuli. Classical conditioning can create fetishes, as shown by Stanley Rachman's 1966 experiment where men became aroused by boots after pairing with nude images.
- **BDSM and Psychological Health** [13:00] — Dutch psychologists found BDSM practitioners scored higher on well-being, openness, and extraversion, and lower on anxiety. Canadian research linked masochism with higher sexual satisfaction.
- **Desire Decline in Relationships** [15:23] — Sexual frequency drops sharply in the first three years, then plateaus. Women's desire declines more than men's due to habituation and the Coolidge effect. Responsive desire becomes dominant in women over time.
- **Pornography Effects** [19:14] — Watching porn together can improve communication and satisfaction, but excessive or secret consumption lowers life and relationship satisfaction. Safe amount: a couple of times a month, focusing on romantic content.
- **Supernormal Stimulus** [21:22] — Niko Tinbergen's experiment: birds preferred giant plaster eggs over real ones. Similarly, porn provides exaggerated sexual signals that can hijack the brain's reward system.

### Conclusion

Our sexuality is a fundamental part of who we are. Understanding and openly discussing our desires, rather than suppressing them or letting algorithms dictate them, leads to healthier relationships and self-awareness.

## Transcript

This is Erika LaBrie! A world archery
champion, a former Air Force soldier!...
And the wife of the Eiffel Tower!
In 2007, she held a wedding ceremony in
Paris, changed her last name to Eiffel,
and officially declared the tower her
partner!
And before that, she dated the Berlin
Wall for 20 years.
So what was wrong with her?
Erika has objectophilia - a sexual and
romantic attraction to inanimate objects.
Her first love was at nine years old! She
fell in love with the fence near her
house!
As a teenager, she entered the longest
relationship of her life - with the
Berlin Wall! Which she later left for the
Eiffel Tower!
But after a media scandal, they had to
keep their distance, - so she returned to
Berlin, to the memory of her demolished
lover...
She grieved that loss for a long time,
calling her love affair with the tower -
the biggest mistake of her life.
Heartbreaking story.
But don't worry! According to the latest
data, she is dating a construction crane!
And if you call her weird - you're deeply
mistaken! Because you and I - are exactly
the same!
Today we will talk about the most amazing
phenomenon of our brain: fetishes!
We'll break down how the brain turns
ordinary things into objects of desire!
Why some people like feet, others latex!
And others things that, in some
countries, - you're not even allowed to
think about.
What are your fetishes really hiding?
Why are your deepest insecurities
actually your most desired fantasies?
And why is watching porn: your most
useful habit?
But first - what is a fetish?
What do you think connects a foot
fetishist and a cuckold?!
That's right! Art!
In ancient times, sex was sacred!
In Pompeii, above the entrance to each
room of the brothel, there was a fresco
with a position: like an item on a menu!
And the streets of the city were strewn
with stone phalluses, considering them as
talismans and symbols of luck: placing
them even on ordinary bakeries!
The Kama Sutra, which describes positions
and even strikes in detail, was written
in the 4th century and was considered a
philosophical code of love!
And one of the oldest erotic magazines
appeared 3000 years ago in Ancient Egypt
- the Turin Erotic Papyrus!
Twelve scenes in the most ambitious and
satirical poses imaginable!
Sexuality and fetishes were the
foundation of our society - and of
humanity itself.
And the word 'fetish' itself came from:
magic!
Portuguese colonizers in West Africa
called the objects worshipped by local
tribes - fetishes!
Amulets, figurines, stones! In other
words, things believed to have
supernatural power!
So a fetish is something that makes you
feel, what you aren't supposed to feel!
But in modern times, the word got
simplified a little, and they gave it a
colorful, concise label!
They called it a disease.
In medieval Europe, sexuality came under
the control of the Church, and almost
everything started being considered a
sin!
For example, masturbation was punished,
and having sex was only allowed on
certain days!
But in 1886, everything changed when the
German psychiatrist Krafft-Ebing
published his book on sexuality, the one
that cemented the terms we still use
today!
And from that point on, everything that
had once been a sin became!... a disease.
It was believed that if you got aroused
in a non-standard way, then - you were a
degenerate!
And that included everything, from
arousal to certain clothes to bestiality!
So obviously it had to be treated.
Though in practice, the treatment was
chemical castration, and torture.
And every fetish was considered a disease
until 2020, when the WHO decided that
masturbating to feet - wasn't actually
that bad! And released an updated
classification of diseases!
From which fetishism and masochism - were
removed from the list of disorders!
But with one exception.
There is a certain gradation!
Look, there are typical sexual
preferences: it's all about regular sex
with a partner!
This concept covers the whole spectrum!
Preferences in hair color, figure, race,
sizes, positions, and so on.
And if arousal starts to consistently
latch not just onto a partner, but onto:
an object, a body part, material, or
scenario, then that's already atypical
sexual interest, which means -
paraphilia!
And that, in turn, is divided into a
large number of sub-items like fetishism,
sadism, masochism, - and pedophilia!
Yes, crimes against children and a
passion for heels are in the same
category.
Because in science, any atypical sexual
interest falls under that label.
So, a fetish is a category, not a general
term!
And here too, you need to know how to
distinguish: if you love things or body
parts - that's a fetish!
If you like humiliation and loss of
control - that's masochism!
And if you love power and control -
That's sadism! And it's... Normal!
It only becomes a diagnosis - and
therefore a disorder - when it makes you
suffer, interferes with or destroys your
life, or violates someone else's
boundaries!
There's Quentin Tarantino, a director
known for his love of women's feet!
And then there's Jerry Brudos! A serial
killer known for cutting off his victim's
foot, so he could dress it in women's
shoes.
One fetish, but completely different
manifestations.
And according to statistics, or more
precisely, a study by Canadian
scientists: approximately half of people
have at least one paraphilia!
So, roughly speaking, every second one of
you - is hiding something right now!
Personally, I love SUCH GIGANTIC BOOBS!
But how does the brain even form
something like that?
Our brain always creates the most
efficient logical chains!
Whatever leads to pleasure with the least
effort - stays with us for life!
That's just how the brain works. You
can't argue with it!
And he creates such chains not only in
perversion!
Social media is in the middle of a huge
boom of AI models that many of you can no
longer tell apart from real women!
And people are making colossal amounts of
money off other people's lust!
Even with a profile that has just a few
thousand followers, you can make several
thousand dollars a month!
And isn't that a perfect chain: if lust
exists, then you can make money from it?
And the guys from the Telegram channel
'Abuzishche' have just released a very
detailed guide on this topic for free,
compiling extracts from many private and
expensive materials!
How to create your own AI model and
exactly how to start making money from
it!?
"Abuzishche" has been sharing effective
ways to earn money online for free for
several years now!
For example: ways to bonus hunt for tens
of thousands of rubles practically
without investment!
Real guides on how to save up to 80% on
delivery services - and even make up to
10,000 rubles from them.
Or ways to earn money from reviews!
For example, one of my subscribers used
AI to generate reviews for brands and
made 14,000 rubles in just a couple of
days!
But such schemes don't last long, so it's
worth subscribing to the channel!
And once you subscribe, their bot will
send everyone a set of tested guides, so
it's easier for you to get started!
On top of that, they also have their own
side hustle with simple online tasks,
like referral deals, earning a few
thousand rubles in a single evening!
More than 2,000 real reviews and five
years of nonstop work - that's a sign of
quality!
So if you want to join them too, follow
the link in the description or scan the
QR code on the screen.
Any of our desires is a stimulus for
fulfilling a particular need or for
compensating a deficiency!
Which is why, at the level of the
dopamine system, there is no fundamental
difference between wanting a glass of
water... and wanting to join an orgy!
It's the same thing!
Of course, our desires are often just
accidents that don't lend themselves to
explanation!
But if we do try to explain them, then
fundamentally they can all be divided
into two groups - strength and weakness.
Yes, a person might just have a fetish
for school uniforms, but there may also
be an element of sadism behind it!
Because school clothes can be associated
with something innocent, young, and weak.
And on the other hand, you might love
roughness because it makes you feel weak
or humiliated!
Just like a foot fetish, because the foot
is culturally and visually associated
with dominance!
So our preferences are often a way of
convincing ourselves of something -
usually of our role.
But, of course, this is just my
far-fetched interpretation! Just a
theory, far from science!
Or maybe not.
Psychotherapist Jeffrey Young described a
mechanism that explains exactly this
paradox.
When a child grows up with an unmet basic
need - whether for safety, attention, or
acceptance - they develop what is called
an early maladaptive schema.
Roughly speaking, a deep belief about
themselves: "I'm worthless!" "I'll be
abandoned!" "I'm unloved!" and so on.
And then the brain chooses one of three
strategies for how to live with it.
The first is surrender: the person
accepts the schema as truth and builds
their life around it.
He was humiliated and he's looking for
partners - who will humiliate him!
Not because they enjoy it, but because
it's the only script for intimacy they
know!
And if it feels familiar, then it feels
safe, that's how the psyche sees it.
In sex, this turns into masochism and
other fantasies of humiliation.
And the second is overcompensation, the
exact opposite!
They felt powerless as a child, so in
relationships they control every step.
They feel defective - so they start to
dominate.
In sex, that shows up as sadism, as a
need for absolute control over a partner.
And the third is the most banal of all -
avoidance.
The person tries to distance themselves
from everything that activates the
schema, avoiding relationships and
intimacy. Often compensating with
pornography.
So our fetishes are our safe trauma - our
way of coping with it in controlled
conditions!
Because it's one thing to be subjected to
violence in childhood, and another when
it happens under conditions that you set
yourself.
And as for which path the brain will
choose, it is a tangle of various factors
from heredity to the environment in which
we grew up!
But there is a problem.
You had a rough father, and now you're
looking for a rough daddy! Sounds logical
enough!
And indeed, for many of our desires, by
asking the right question, you can get
the answer - "Why?".
But psychology doesn't explain
everything.
At the end of the last century,
sexologist John Money proposed the
concept of love maps.
The idea was that during development, the
brain absorbs visual, tactile, olfactory,
and other stimuli, and assembles from
them an individual template!
What attracts us, what partner, what
scenario, what feelings.
Like a playlist your brain compiles on
its own, without your participation!
Before you even know what sex is, your
brain is already recording what will turn
you on.
One of the main factors influencing this
is called - classical conditioning!
A neutral object accidentally coincides
in time with strong arousal, and the
brain creates an association - whether
that's a first erection or a random
moment of excitement.
The second reason - is the arousal
transfer.
Our brain is, actually, quite dumb!
It can't tell why exactly your heart is
pounding right now! From fear, from
shame, or from raw desire!?
For him, it's the same adrenaline!
And if at a moment of fear or humiliation
there is a sexual stimulus nearby, the
brain gets confused!
Which is why shame starts turning you on
even more, pain becomes exciting, and
your taboos and insecurities become your
favorite category on adult sites.
The brain loves not only the sex itself,
but also the state in which it occurs!
And if your orgasm coincides several
times with some strange trigger, the
brain will stop considering it a
coincidence! It will perceive it as the
shortest path to pleasure.
In 1966, psychologist Stanley Rachman
conducted an experiment.
He took a group of heterosexual men and
started showing them a photo of women's
boots, and right after that - a photo of
a naked woman.
And through many such repetitions, men
began to show excitement for boots!
Already without the need to show nudity!
The brain created the link: boots equal
pleasure!
Exactly the same principle as Pavlov's
dog!
Theoretically, each of you can create
your own fetish from scratch! If you
masturbate to an Apple for a year, it's
quite likely that after a year, you'll
start getting aroused by apples!
So, now you have a new hobby!
That's why there's such a huge variety of
different preferences in the world! From
foot fetishism, which is the most popular
fetish in the world! To dendrophilia - a
sexual attraction to trees or wooden
objects!
Everything you can imagine and think
about, a person can either fear - or be
aroused by!
Recall our previous video about fear.
Phobia and fetish - they're relatives!
Different, yet very similar in terms of
significance.
So, there's no single formula.
For some people, a fetish formed in
childhood; for some, as a result of
trauma, or out of need, or through a
random association; and for others,
through a combination of all of the
above.
It's like a giant construction set.
Coprophilia, for example, is probably a
mix of factors.
Normally, sexual arousal temporarily
suppresses disgust, because
evolutionarily that's necessary to reduce
aversion to another person's bodily
fluids and make sex possible!
But for some people, disgust itself - the
crossing of a taboo - becomes the main
source of dopamine.
And along with that, the desire to be
humiliated as much as possible can also
play a role, and so on.
In short, it's a whole pile of small
details in one completely random
construction set. Single-factor
explanations almost never work in
sexology.
But does that mean that having
paraphilias is something strange,
dangerous, and only something sick and
stupid people do?
I'm afraid to upset you, but it's quite
possible that comprofils - are much
smarter than us!
In 2013, Dutch psychologists conducted a
study comparing people practicing BDSM
with ordinary people!
The result was that those who enjoy BDSM
scored higher on subjective well-being,
conscientiousness, openness to new
experiences, and extraversion, and lower
on measures of anxiety and neuroticism!
And Canadian researchers found that
masochism was statistically significantly
correlated with higher sexual
satisfaction!
So, people with atypical sexual interests
almost always turned out to be generally
psychologically healthier than average
people!
It is presumed to be related to
intelligence!
Openness to new experience is a trait
that directly correlates with IQ, because
it is associated with the dorsolateral
prefrontal cortex - the region
responsible for cognitive flexibility and
the ability to step outside habitual
patterns.
Roughly speaking, the smarter you are,
the more curious you become, and the
broader your sexual repertoire!
And not because smart people are
perverts! But because openness to the
unconventional is the same trait,
manifest in science, in creativity, and
in bed!
So the conclusion here is simple: buy a
latex suit, beat your wives, and eat
feces!
Actually, explaining such a connection,
if we view fetish not as a perversion,
but as a certain need and part of human
personality, is quite logical!
Maybe some particular fetish will strike
you as strange or unhealthy, but if it
doesn't violate anyone else's boundaries,
doesn't ruin people's lives, and is
consensual - and if the word "disorder"
is not standing next to it -
Then in that case, it is one of the best
tools a person has for exploring
themselves and their needs, working
through trauma in a safe environment, and
building boundaries.
People who can calmly talk about their
sexual preferences - and know what those
preferences are - live more peacefully
and more happily, because they know
themselves instead of living in inner
shame and repression.
Which is why the phrase "everyone jerks
off however they want" is actually pretty
philosophical.
This is especially evident in couples!
Research shows that the quality of sexual
communication in a couple - that is, how
openly and deeply partners discuss their
desires - critically correlates with
sexual satisfaction.
And there is a nuance here: it is not
enough to communicate well about chores
and work.
If partners don't talk about sex - they
are still not satisfied.
And this becomes critically important
when we look at the statistics on
long-term relationships, because the
statistics say: sex in them - dies.
The sharpest drop in sexual frequency
happens in the first three years of a
relationship, and after that comes a
plateau that keeps slowly declining.
And here there is a gender paradox: over
the years, sexual desire declines mostly
in women, while male desire stays roughly
stable the whole time.
So over time, partners literally start
moving in opposite directions.
Because that's how biology works!
Because dopamine is responsible for our
desires!
And dopamine is the neurotransmitter of
novelty!
His task is not to reward you for what
you have, but to motivate you to seek
what you lack!
And it works in sex too! Indeed, for all
mammals!
The male, exhausted after mating with one
female, instantly revives at the sight of
a new one!
This is called the Coolidge effect.
The same effect can be seen in women too
- just not as strongly!
But much stronger in women is the
capacity for habituation!
In simple terms, they get used to
routine, boredom, and repeated sexual
stimuli faster than men do, because the
brain is more flexible and adaptive.
And no, that does not mean women get
tired of sex!
There is one important thing.
There are two types of desire! The first:
spontaneous, you want it - and you do it.
The second is responsive: desire appears
not before arousal, but in response to it
- from kissing, touch, foreplay.
And over time, women tend to move into
the second mode, because in long-term
relationships oxytocin starts to take the
dominant role.
And emotional closeness is the gateway to
sex! Without this context, dopamine just
doesn't kick in!
And a man is almost always about
spontaneous desire!
Most of us are just like those monkey
memes!
We want sex first! And then... It doesn't
matter anymore!
So for a woman, sex often starts with
feeling significant.
And for a man, sex itself is the proof
that he is significant.
That's exactly what we talked about in
the video about love - definitely watch
it afterward, it's one of the most
important videos on the channel, and
probably in your life too.
At the very least because I'm wearing a
wedding dress in it.
Dialogue matters! It's an irreplaceable
foundation.
If you don't hear each other, if you
don't try to look at the problem not only
through the prism of your own desires and
your own ego, but also through the prism
of your partner, you will inevitably
drift in different directions.
Secondly and equally important, novelty!
And this is not about sex.
Travel, hobbies, leisure! If you and your
partner try something new, the likelihood
of sex on that day increases by a third!
In general, routine is what kills both
love and sex! And anything that breaks
the routine triggers dopamine, and
dopamine transfers to the partner!
And third: the sexual diversity itself!
Couples who openly talk about their
desires and preferences, who try new
things - they are the ones who end up
happier years later than those who don't.
That's the nature of it! Our brain is set
up in such a way that it needs novelty to
keep wanting!
And you don't necessarily have to change
or endure violence: it's enough to
consciously introduce something new!
From traveling together, to experiments
in bed!
Sometimes just bringing in new sensations
is enough, especially when there is a
wide variety of adult products!
For example, a liquid vibrator! It's a
small syringe with edible gel, which,
when applied to intimate areas, enhances
their sensitivity in 30 seconds by
increasing blood flow and creating a
pleasant pulse and tingling effect,
making the experience more enjoyable!
Its formula is as safe as it gets,
developed by chemists at Moscow State
University, so thanks to that safety it
works for all genders and for many
different types of sex!
And because it's edible, during oral play
it can also add interesting sensations to
the lips and tongue.
The liquid vibrator works through
transdermal technology - meaning inside
the skin - and just a tiny drop is enough
for the effect, and hundreds of reviews
confirm that the effect is real.
So if you want to bring something new
into your romantic life, the link to the
LoveShot liquid vibrator will be in the
description.
And a significant player in improving
relationships and one's sexuality has
been - porn!
People have very different attitudes
toward it.
Some believe that it brings nothing but
harm, and some even consider watching it
to be cheating in a relationship!
But the research disagrees and, on the
contrary, shows that watching porn
together in a long-term relationship
often leads to better communication, more
trust, and greater sexual satisfaction.
And there's nothing surprising about
that!
Our sexuality is not just a part of life
or relationships!
It has long stopped being confined to the
bedroom.
It's the force that moves not just our
beds! But our civilization too!
Every technology in human history has
gone through the same cycle! In which the
first users were almost always either the
military, or - perverts!
One of the first mass-produced
publications after the invention of the
printing press were the erotic engravings
'I Modi'!
The first erotic film was shot one year
after the invention of cinema!
Online payment systems developed thanks
to porn sites! And the streaming
screening system, which allows you to
watch this video, was one of the first
successfully implemented and monetized by
porn sites, long before YouTube appeared!
So every time a new technology appears,
our sexuality - and porn - are among the
first to colonize the market and prove
that money can be made from it... and
then the mainstream arrives.
This is a pattern that has been repeating
for five hundred years in a row!
States keep trying to ban it - and they
lose every single time.
Because you can block websites! But you
can't ban biology.
With the invention of porn sites, society
has drastically changed!
In some countries where pornography was
legalized, the number of sex-related
crimes decreased!
Its accessibility became one of the
reasons why, in our era, we speak more
openly and more easily about sexuality.
Humanity has swung like a pendulum
throughout history: from normalization to
condemnation - and back again.
Every saint who considers masturbation a
sin has indulged in it.
And every politician, who tries to ban
porn, has watched it.
Our desires cannot be defeated - they can
only be suppressed: with religion,
politics culture.
But as history shows, that is an unequal
war, and a doomed one from the start.
But there is one thin line here.
In the middle of the last century, Niko
Tinbergen, a Dutch biologist, conducted
an experiment.
He placed giant plaster dummies in birds'
nests instead of their own eggs.
Some were the size of volleyballs, or
even painted in bright colors.
And the birds simply abandoned their real
offspring in order to incubate a giant
chunk of plaster.
Their brains assumed that if it was
bigger and brighter, then it had to be
better!
Tinbergen called it a supernormal
stimulus.
Our brain, like the brain of these birds,
has evolved to seek signals: food,
security sex!
And if you give the brain an artificially
inflated, exaggerated version of that
signal, the system simply breaks.
Modern research shows exactly that!
The more porn there is in a person's
life, the lower their satisfaction with
life, sex, and relationships.
Especially if it is done in secret from
the partner or done excessively.
And uncontrolled consumption increases
indicators of individual sexual
aggression.
But it works the other way around too!
People who are completely isolated from
anything erotic due to beliefs or
religion have a lower level of sexual
satisfaction!
However, researchers consider "a safe
amount of porn" to be watching it no more
than a couple of times a month! And it's
better if it's videos that focus on
romance and passion rather than hardcore!
So the problem with pornography - and
with everything tied to our sexuality -
is not the phenomenon itself, but its
effect on us: how we handle it.
It can be a great tool for relieving
sexual tension, especially when you're
not in a relationship!
It can bring some ideas about diversity
in relationships! But it can also amplify
our complexes or turn harmless passions
into disorders and deviations!
And let's be honest, many of us use porn
as a regular tool to deal with laziness,
stress, anxiety, or loneliness.
This is our cheap digital antidepressant,
which leads to serious consequences: a
feeling of apathy, loss of motivation and
pleasure.
In the past, to watch porn, you had to do
something: find the right tape, magazine,
or catch the right channel at night.
Now there are hundreds of sites on your
phone, where algorithms will serve you
exactly what you need.
And those algorithms will happily play on
your weaknesses, feeding you increasingly
extreme content to drag you even deeper
into the trap.
Generally, the dose is what distinguishes
poison from medicine.
And if you think you have a porn
addiction - and it's getting in your way.
If it often leaves you drained,
unmotivated, apathetic, and in general
it's hard for you to control compulsive
urges - my AI psychologist bot now has a
section with personalized programs.
Based on your unique issues and
personality traits, he will create a
fully specialized 30-day program to
overcome porn addiction.
Will offer unique practices and
techniques, created specifically for you
and your issues, monitoring your
progress.
And if this particular problem isn't
relevant to you, there are other programs
too.
He will help you get rid of bad habits,
for example, quit smoking or improve
other aspects of your life.
And besides that, you can simply have a
pleasant conversation with it, or sort
out your feelings and emotions.
Maybe you're dealing with personal
problems right now that you've wanted to
untangle for a long time, but never had
the chance.
It won't replace a real specialist.
But in a situation where there is no
other option, the bot is always
available, and therefore can help in
difficult times and will always listen to
you.
And with the bot, it's both anonymous and
free.
And the link to the bot will be in the
description.
Throughout all of human history, we've
been throwing ourselves from one extreme
to another, and still we can't come to a
conclusion.
What is a fetish - and what do we do with
our sexuality?
Is it a perversion, a deviation, a sin?
But it's simpler.
Our desires, from ordinary to sexual, are
who we are. The construct of our
personality.
When we try to suppress our nature, to
force it into the frame of shame,
religion, or censorship, the need doesn't
disappear.
It goes into the shadows, mutates, and
starts rotting from the inside.
When we hand the exploration of our own
sexuality over to algorithms, we get a
catastrophe.
Look at the modern generations!
It's a tragedy that most teenagers form
their understanding of love and
relationships through the plastic world
of Instagram and hardcore categories on
porn sites!
They build their understanding of
intimacy from a world where intimacy
doesn't exist, creating a very dangerous
illusion around themselves.
And then they sincerely cannot understand
why real people are different from pixels
on a screen.
Our sexuality should be neither a
shameful secret that we hide from
ourselves, nor a digital product that we
mindlessly feed to algorithms.
And only we get to decide what to do with
it.
Whether to lock this colossal energy in
the closet of our own insecurities, to
flush it down the toilet.
Or to learn to understand it - making our
real lives and our relationships
brighter, more conscious, and happier.
So don't be ashamed of your weirdness.
Do not be afraid of your fetishes and
don't hide from your complexes, but study
them.
For behind every one of your desires lies
the key to understanding - who you really
are.
This was Albert.
Subscribe to the channel and my socials
through the links in the description.
Be honest with yourself!
All the best.