--- title: 'And Be Kind to Them in This World | #Step | Episode 3' source: 'https://youtube.com/watch?v=GJP1S-t4zN0' video_id: 'GJP1S-t4zN0' date: 2026-08-04 duration_sec: 204 --- # And Be Kind to Them in This World | #Step | Episode 3 > Source: [And Be Kind to Them in This World | #Step | Episode 3](https://youtube.com/watch?v=GJP1S-t4zN0) ## Summary This video is a religious and moral discourse on the importance of treating parents with respect and kindness, even when they disagree with one's choices. It uses the story of Prophet Abraham and his father Azar to illustrate how to maintain a good relationship with parents while staying true to one's beliefs. ### Key Points - **Prophet Abraham's Similarity to Young People** [00:02] — The speaker feels that Prophet Abraham's experiences are similar to those of young people today, particularly in dealing with family disagreements. - **Abraham's Call to His Father** [00:19] — Prophet Abraham was commanded to call his closest relatives to monotheism, but his father Azar was an extreme disbeliever and treated him with cruelty and threats. - **Abraham's Respectful Response** [01:02] — Despite his father's harsh treatment, Abraham responded with respect, saying he would guide him to a straight path, showing that respect is maintained even in disagreement. - **Quranic Command on Parents** [01:17] — The Quran says that if parents strive to make you associate partners with God, do not obey them, but still befriend them in this world with kindness. - **Balancing Obedience and Respect** [01:33] — The speaker advises not to obey parents blindly but to weigh their words logically, accept what is right, and respectfully decline what is not, while continuing to treat them well. - **Communicating Calmly** [02:20] — When disagreeing with parents, it is important to explain your point of view calmly, which can lead to better outcomes and blessings from God. - **Hadith on Parental Pleasure** [02:34] — A hadith states that God's pleasure is in the pleasure of the parents, and His displeasure is in their displeasure, emphasizing the importance of maintaining a good relationship with them. - **Practical Advice** [02:48] — Take a step today to improve family relations by listening to parents, judging their advice logically, and presenting disagreements with respect. ### Conclusion The video emphasizes that respecting parents is a key to God's satisfaction, but it does not require blind obedience. By communicating calmly and weighing advice logically, one can maintain a good relationship with parents while staying true to one's own beliefs. ## Transcript agree that there's nothing worse than disbelief, then despite what they're doing, you still have to treat them well. You know, many times I feel that Prophet Abraham is very similar to us as young people. Of course, you might laugh at me when I say something like this, but I really feel that way, and because of something else, especially the story I'm about to tell you. One day, Prophet Abraham went through one of the most difficult situations in his life. We all know that Prophet Abraham's people worshipped idols, and when God revealed His message to him, the first thing He commanded him to do was call his closest relatives, meaning his family—his father and mother, and so on. Of course, the one who was the most extreme disbeliever was his father, Azar. If you know Azar, he was extremely unbelieving. This matter was a matter of life or death for him. When Prophet Abraham went to call him, he received him with extreme cruelty and treated him very badly. He threatened him and told him he might expel him. Look what our father Abraham said to him. He said, " knowledge that I want you to hear." He's not saying, "I know more than you." So, he's saying, "I will guide you to a straight path. I want you to go somewhere better. I want you to go with me to Paradise." Look at the respect and the way he speaks to his father, even though his father is treating him with extreme cruelty and wants to expel him and is treating him very badly. God says, "And if they strive to make you associate with Him that of which you have no knowledge," meaning if they encourage you to disbelieve in God—and of course, you and I agree that there is nothing worse than disbelief—then do not obey them. Don't listen to them. And befriend them in this world is well-known. Despite what they are doing, you must still treat them well. Look, I'm not telling you to listen to them in everything. Because, in the end, they're just human beings; they might be right, and they might be wrong. But what I want to tell you is not to imprison yourself with this idea. No matter what, your parents twice your age, so we both agree that their life experience is greater than yours. What I want to tell you is to think about their words logically, weigh them up in your mind, and if what they say is right, then take it and thank them profusely for what they told you. But if you feel that what they said is wrong, or that it's not suitable for you or for the situation you see before you, then don't listen to them on that point. But still, continue to treat them well. This is absolutely no excuse to treat them badly, even if they don't agree with what you're doing, in case you disagree with them or they don't agree with your opinion or the thing you're doing. If you want to do it, talk to them and explain your point of view to them very calmly, because in a large way, if you start doing this, you will find that things will work out between you and them, and you will also find that God will always bless you in this world and the hereafter. There is a very beautiful hadith in which the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, says: God’s displeasure is in the displeasure of the parents, and God’s pleasure is in the pleasure of the parents. So of course, we want to please God, so take a step today, even if it is small, to have a good relationship between you and your family. At least listen to what they say and judge your opinion on it logically. If you feel that you disagree with them, present your point of view to them with all respect. You must know that a very large part of God's satisfaction with you is that you are pleasing your father and mother. Just because you are pleasing them doesn't mean you have to listen to them in everything. As I told you, you see what is right for you and do it, but the most important thing is that you take a step in respecting them .