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title: 'A Deadly Beating! | The Investigator'
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video_id: 'rma56qx-GaM'
date: 2026-08-04
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# A Deadly Beating! | The Investigator

> Source: [A Deadly Beating! | The Investigator](https://youtube.com/watch?v=rma56qx-GaM)

## Summary

The video is an episode of the 'Investigator' program that explores the topic of domestic violence, prompted by a tragic case in Egypt where a father beat his 18-year-old daughter to death over five hours. The host interviews a psychologist, Dr. Ibrahim Khattab, to define domestic violence, discuss its types, causes, and long-term effects on children, and provides a message of hope and self-help for victims.

### Key Points

- **Interactive Introduction** [00:02] — The host starts with an interactive game asking viewers to lower fingers if they have experienced certain forms of domestic violence, setting the emotional tone.
- **The Matareya Case** [01:13] — Police in Matareya, Cairo, respond to a report and find that an 18-year-old girl was beaten to death by her father over five hours, using a heated knife to revive her when she fainted.
- **Defining Domestic Violence** [02:38] — The host asks people on the street what domestic violence means, with responses including physical abuse, verbal abuse, and psychological harm.
- **Expert Interview Begins** [03:37] — Dr. Ibrahim Khattab, a psychologist with 15+ years of experience, is introduced to explain domestic violence.
- **Intentions vs. Impact** [04:05] — Dr. Khattab notes that parents often have positive intentions but harmful behaviors, and domestic violence can come from any family member.
- **Types of Violence** [05:41] — Physical and psychological violence are discussed, with verbal abuse sometimes being more damaging than physical.
- **Physical vs. Psychological** [06:26] — Both are dangerous and interconnected; physical violence often includes psychological abuse, while psychological violence breaks a person's self-worth.
- **UNICEF Statistics** [08:06] — UNICEF 2024: every 4 minutes a child dies from domestic violence, 30,000 adolescents, and 2/3 of children experience regular physical violence.
- **Direct and Indirect Violence** [08:49] — Violence can be direct (physical/psychological) or indirect (witnessing parental fights), both harmful.
- **Root Causes** [09:30] — Parents' upbringing, stress, psychological issues, poverty, and unemployment contribute to domestic violence.
- **Effects on Children** [13:48] — Research shows negative psychological and cognitive effects, including fear, depression, aggression, and lower IQ (up to 50% in one study).
- **Long-term Impact** [15:42] — Effects persist into adulthood, leading to depression, anxiety, rebellion, and a cycle of violence.
- **Message to Victims** [16:53] — The host encourages victims to take steps to heal themselves, not blame others, and seek resources.

### Conclusion

The video highlights the severe and lasting impact of domestic violence on children, emphasizing that it is a widespread issue with deep-rooted causes. It urges victims to seek self-healing and break the cycle.

## Transcript

Right now, I'm going to play a really fun game with you, but unfortunately, when you find out the result, you'll regret playing with me. Raise your hand like I'm raising it now, and lower one finger if what I'm about to say now, and lower one finger if what I'm about to say happened to you. Lower one finger if you were hit a lot when
disrespect, problems, or insults. Lower one finger if your parents fight a lot and you've done that to me before, so I'll hit my son while I'm upset with myself, crying and feeling guilty while I'm hurting him. Lower one finger understands you. The first time I hit was when my father, may God have mercy on him, disciplined me by hitting me for smoking cigarettes.
Lower one finger if you get nervous when you hear a family member's voice upset, but that doesn't mean parents don't have some issues and complexes inside.
They've drawn a line in their heads for you; they want you to follow a certain path. Lower two fingers  Or more, and I regret to inform you that you have gone through one of the most difficult experiences you have ever faced in your life, and the effects of this experience are still present in you to this day, namely
present in you to this day, namely friends. Welcome to my humble room and to a new episode of the humble room and to a new episode of the Investigator program on January 10, 2025. A group of
Egyptian police officers are sitting in the... well, while they are sitting, the phone rings, so one of the officers gets up to answer it and finds out that a murder has occurred in a place called Matareya. If you don't know where Matareya is, it is an area located within Cairo in Egypt. Anyway, the
officers rush to the location of the report to see what happened there and what caused the report. As soon as they arrive, they find one of the most heinous crimes they will ever see. What happened was that a girl who lived in Matareya, 18
years old, and her father were talking to each other.  So, as you say, while they were talking, a disagreement arose between them. One word here, another there, and the father became angry with the girl and started hitting her. He kept hitting his daughter hysterically with his hands, feet,
and stick, to the point that the girl fainted from the amount of beating. He hit her brutally. So, in order to wake his daughter up from the state of unconsciousness she was in, what do you think the father did?  Her father brought her water with sugar to revive her from her unconscious state. He would heat a knife over a fire until it was
extremely hot and then stab her with it in sensitive parts of her body. She would only regain consciousness from the intense pain. The problem is that this man continued doing this to his daughter without mercy. He did this to her for about five continuous hours, beating her
very violently. If she fainted, he would immediately stab her with the knife. He continued for five hours without stopping until his daughter died. This crime has been classified as one of the most heinous cases of domestic violence in Egypt in recent years. But you
know, what drove me crazy was why someone could do this to their own daughter. I realized that to understand why this man did this to his daughter, I first needed to understand what domestic violence is and whether it means being beaten by your father, mother, or someone else.  Your husband, if you're a married woman, or are there
other types we don't know about? That's why today we went out to ask people what domestic violence means. Domestic violence, for example, is when your family treats you badly, like being angry or something like that. Any kind of violence can happen within the family, like a father hitting his children, or a mother hitting her children very violently.
Parents in general instill negative ideas in their children, or there might be physical abuse, insults, or things like that. their children, or there might be physical abuse, insults, or things like that. hitting them in a bad way, which can lead to the child developing psychological issues. Do
you know what domestic violence is? Have you studied this in school before? What is n't know. That's why we came today to ask Dr. Ibrahim Khattab, because if you want to ask about something, ask those who know. How are you, Doctor? How are things? How's everything?
something, ask those who know. How are you, Doctor? How are things? How's everything? audience. My name is Ibrahim Ibrahim Khattab. I'm a psychologist and behavioral therapist working in the field of training.  Thank God, I have over 15 years of experience in training
What is domestic violence? The idea behind domestic violence is that pressure is exerted on the child by the father and mother. This pressure or harm has many forms, but before we discuss that, it's important to note that
before we discuss that, it's important to note that domestic violence is often linked to sound concepts and ideas held by the father and mother. Their intentions are positive; they want to help you, they want you to be good, they want you to become a want to help you, they want you to be good, they want you to become a man. These are their perspectives, and
their intentions are very positive. The behavior itself is impactful. Domestic violence, simply put, is a type of abuse and harm that you can experience from any member of your family, whether it's your father, mother, or husband if you are a married woman. It doesn't necessarily have to be close relatives; it
could be an uncle, cousin, or sibling. The point is that, unfortunately, it can be someone within your own family. So, what are the types of domestic violence? Is there only one type, or are there several? Of course, there are several types.  For example, tell me what
types of abuse you know. First of all, of course, they might constantly discourage him, not take him seriously, for example. There might be harshness in their speech, they might not give him any appreciation, and so on. And then there's psychological abuse, for example, something that
affects the child's overall psyche, or the issue of hitting in general, or things like that. exactly? Look, what I see is, generally speaking, someone might be harsh with their children, for example, hitting them,
something like in those movies. Yes, but it can cause someone to have trauma. After that, when you know about these things, do you see different types of domestic abuse, or is it? like, for example, a bad approach,
crushing ambitions, everything. For example, they might find fault with you, like, what's your flaw? They always see you as a failure or not successful. They want to draw a line for you.  Their brains types of domestic violence besides physical violence or hitting?
Look at the worst, or the most common type, as you said, which is physical abuse, hitting. Parents aren't usually very aware of it, or we need to be aware of it. The impact of verbal abuse is sometimes greater or more severe than physical abuse. For example, saying things like, "You're a
failure, you're stupid," is verbal abuse. The idea behind it is that the mother says, "Get up and study, you failure," to motivate him. Yes, to motivate and provoke him to get up and study, as if that's part of the motivation.
expect. Because, as a friend, many people hear the word "violence" and associate it with hitting or physical abuse. But in reality, yes, hitting and physical abuse are types of domestic violence, but not all of it. Domestic violence has many forms. But
if  We'll categorize them into two categories: physical violence and psychological violence. Which is more dangerous? Both are equally dangerous, and they're often interconnected. For example, the danger to human life, as it can lead to death, is physical violence. Its
basic concept is that someone physically assaults you, like the story of the girl from Matareya I just told. The problem with physical violence is that it's always accompanied by psychological violence. As they say, you're hit and shaken, or you're subjected to psychological abuse. That's why I believe
physical violence is more dangerous because it's a mix of physical and psychological violence. In reality, I'm not downplaying it at all, because it does n't rely on someone physically hitting you to abuse you. It relies on breaking the other person with your words and actions without touching them, like insulting them, threatening them, and making
them feel worthless and useless. The hardest thing for a person is to feel worthless.  It has no value or benefit, so why is he even alive? Psychological violence isn't necessarily words; it can be actions like punitive silence, ignoring him, not caring about him. All friends are truly
very painful, especially if it comes from the closest person to you, your parents. Imagine that the people closest to you are treating you like this. You know, when I looked at statistics on domestic violence think the rate of domestic violence in the world is
n't want to give you an exact percentage, but we can talk about it a bit too much. No, millions, of course. And some things happen outside of Egypt, thank God we don't have them here. There's child slavery in Africa and things in I don't know where in Asia. There are
things, things that are much, much more than what we have here. Do you whole world, practically the whole world, is subjected to it. The whole world,
based on statistics released by UNICEF in 2024. These statistics were about domestic violence against children worldwide. UNICEF stated that every four minutes, a child dies due to domestic violence
inflicted by their parents. Of these, 30,000 are adolescents. Every year, two out of every three children are subjected to regular physical violence from their parents for any perceived wrongdoing. More than two- thirds of them also experience psychological abuse in addition to physical violence. Just
imagine these numbers – they are terrifying. All of this is happening to children at the hands of their parents, which fueled my curiosity and made me want to know why parents would do this to their own children, who are the closest people to them. One important point to this to their own children, who are the closest people to them. One important point to
direct. It's not always the parents who commit it. They torture or beat them, or they abuse them psychologically, which is why we call it domestic violence. Also, be aware that it can be indirect. For example, if the father and mother are always fighting, and the father might be abusive and hit the mother, and the
child witnesses this and lives in this turbulent environment, even if no one intervenes, this is a type of domestic violence against the child. Why would a father or mother do this to their children? Why would you even think that a father or mother would do this to their children? They might think this is the
right way, that they are protecting their children, teaching them new things, or teaching them what is right. But this is certainly not a good way. For example, why would a father or mother hit their children or expose them to violence? I want to understand this point. It
really comes down to the father's or mother's upbringing. It does n't necessarily mean the child is bad; it could be due to the you mean that someone might be different.  Opinions about child-rearing, for example, that the mother is good and raises her child well, while the father is not. I mean,
most people were surprised that a father and mother would do that to the most important person in their lives, their child. That's a good question, and we answered part of it at the beginning. Violence, whether verbal or physical, often stems from how they were raised
Okay, I mean, I want to motivate you, not hurt you. That's understand. So, Mom does this not to harm you, that's Mom does this with the intention of helping you,
But that doesn't mean parents don't have some issues or complexes inside them. That's for sure. But what I mean is, I wouldn't intentionally sit with you and hurt But what I mean is, I wouldn't intentionally sit with you and hurt or break you. Let's say that in 98%
of families, the main, primary, and only purpose isn't to hurt you, it's to motivate you, but in the wrong way. All the research studies that have been done...  On this topic, you're saying that there isn't a single reason we can definitively say is the cause of domestic violence perpetrated by parents against their children. In short, the issue is
related to more than one reason. For example, the most common reason a father might hit his son or treat him badly could be that the father or mother were often raised in the same way, within a history of domestic violence in the family. The father or mother might have been
beaten or punished as children, so they might feel it's right to raise their children the same way because they were likely raised that way. And keep in mind, this is just one reason, not the only one. It could also be stress or psychological problems in the parents. For example, they might always be
stressed or irritable, unable to stand to hear a word from anyone, and always seem depressed. All of this can manifest as fights between them or as physical or psychological violence against their children as a way to release these pent-up feelings. Now,
n't forgotten it. Maybe it was because of the certificate; the result wasn't the best, and so on. So, for him, he was like, "He was my uncle because my father is deceased." So, for get this result." You understand what I mean? So, the matter was conveyed through physical punishment. So,
matter was conveyed through physical punishment. So, beating from a woman? You know, you were very young, so you don't remember anything specific. Well, was it because you did something wrong? At a young age, for example, seven or
eight years old? Or, after that, you grew up, and your family started talking to you, and so on. You understand? There's no one who hasn't been beaten. So, what's the most severe beating you've ever received that you haven't forgotten? Maybe the first time you were beaten was when you smoked cigarettes from... My father, may God have mercy on him, was a bad person, of course,
course, we were young. So, the hitting, I mean, it reached a certain level, no, but it wasn't like that, it was light things, also for the sake of teaching us, but the wrong thing is no, of course not. Have you ever hit before?
got a beating. Tell me, what's the worst beating you remember? I don't remember, or I had Okay, then tell me, what's the worst situation you remember? Don't look at it, it won't do you any harm. Tell me, what's the worst hit my brother, and be aware that it can also be societal pressure on
fathers, like poverty or unemployment, because if there is material poverty, or for example, if the father doesn't work, any house will always be like that, you'll always find that house is not right, because poverty and unemployment make everyone's mental state bad. Even if a young man just graduated and then didn't work, his mental state will be bad.  Imagine a father or
mother with responsibilities and children; all these factors increase tension within the family, which then translates children or indirectly. I'm not saying these reasons justify it, but we're seeing where the problem starts. Ultimately, it could unfortunately stem from a type of
flawed parenting the father or mother experienced. They might have been raised believing that hitting will make their child respectful—a distorted concept. The father or mother has a distorted idea of ​​parenting, thinking, "This is how I was raised," meaning they were beaten and it worked for them, so they believe
child will make them turn out well. The mother and father might even go to a teacher and ask him to break something, believing that hitting will teach the child. Or they might believe that if they treat their daughter badly or don't nurture her, she won't rebel, while the
opposite is true if they spoil and nurture her.  The idea that a girl will be spoiled is a belief deeply ingrained in the minds of many parents because, unfortunately, they were raised incorrectly. Consequently, they have no one but their own family to project these beliefs onto. But how can a child be affected by something like domestic violence, whether
direct or indirect? All the scientific research published in the NIH (National Institutes of Health) has found that domestic violence against children always has negative consequences, whether they are exposed to it directly or indirectly. For example, a child
who sees their mother being beaten and humiliated by their father all day long, with constant shouting and things being broken, even if no one touches the child, is greatly affected. On a psychological level, the child's development is severely impacted. The child will always feel fear, threat, and depression because the
person they love most and consider their source of security is the one who hurts them the most. And that's not all! If a child is exposed to this kind of physical violence, you'll find that the child becomes afraid of making mistakes or failing because they fear their parents won't love them, and might even hit them. It's as if the parents are
linking their child's worth to what they do: "If you get this grade or do this thing we want, then we'll love you." But the opposite is true when a child is exposed to domestic violence. The child feels all of this internally, but on an
external psychological level, you'll find that the child is also affected. For example, they might become very aggressive towards their peers, or they might become timid and afraid of them. This is due to the child's nature. You might find the child constantly feeling sad and depressed; the smallest thing can make them cry. And keep in mind, all of this is on the
psychological level, but domestic violence also affects the child's mental development. You might find that the child isn't doing well academically; their mind can't grasp things they should be learning.  Children his age understand it very normally. For example, according to a study conducted on a group of children from
Britain whose mothers were subjected to domestic violence by their husbands while pregnant with them, the son was more likely to have a decrease in IQ or intelligence levels by 50%. Can you imagine how far the impact of domestic violence on children has gone? And of course, as a result of all these influences and experiences the
child goes through, they develop a kind of block from their parents. They don't accept them, even if they can't articulate it. They see the mom and dad who hit them, or even the dad who hits the mom, as evil, the opposite of all the parents of their friends. So, a psychological barrier forms for the child towards the
person who perpetrates domestic violence. But does the impact of the domestic violence the child experienced in childhood stop with them until childhood, or does it continue into adulthood? Does this issue persist into adulthood? The impact of this issue continues into adulthood, of course, especially if
we are in a dysfunctional family. This child grows up to be something we call a "pleasant personality," which most parents unfortunately don't realize. The domestic violence the child experienced in childhood, without understanding anything, whether it was direct or indirect, will continue to affect them psychologically into
adulthood. For example, in a study conducted on 457  A young man in his teens who experienced domestic violence as a child. Psychiatrists have noticed that the effects of that violence are still present in him, even though many years have passed.
You'll find that most of these young people become depressed easily and experience intense sadness over the smallest things, or even for no reason at all. They constantly feel fear and anxiety, even when there's nothing to frighten them. Furthermore, they develop a kind of rebellion towards others and become very easily angered. Unfortunately, they themselves may
become violent over time. When they grow up and have children, they too will involuntarily expose their children to domestic violence, and the cycle continues like an epidemic, passed down through generations. This is the bitter truth, unfortunately. They, too, when they grew up, exposed their children to domestic violence. That's why you should
n't be surprised to find laws criminalizing domestic violence in the internet and among friends. What I want to tell you is...  I understand you if you experienced any kind of domestic violence as a child, or unfortunately, if you're still experiencing it. I know it's incredibly difficult, and its
psychological effects, even as you grow older, can still be impactful. You're the one with the problem, so you're the one who needs to help yourself, not shift the blame onto others. Because if you do that, you'll help yourself, not shift the blame onto others. Because if you do that, you'll become a complainer, playing the
victim in every aspect of your life. If you don't address it, your problem will persist. What I want to tell you is that if, unfortunately, someone in your family is perpetrating domestic violence against you, it might not be intentional. Simply put, the father or mother might have been raised in the
wrong way, or they might believe that hitting or psychological abuse is effective. I'm not saying this is an excuse, but you need to understand this. Don't wait for someone else to guide you. Try to get yourself back on your own. I accept that you've been hurt, I respect your feelings, and I understand that you're in pain, but...
take a step. No, your life won't stop here. You're wasting your life and missing out on so many good things around you while you're standing here. I have to get up now and see what I'm supposed to do. And don't forget to look at the resources
in the description below, and as usual, don't forget to share.