How to Win Again: AI, Fear, & What People Get Wrong About Success | Tea with GaryVee 94

[00:02] Did you not learn from [ __ ] karate kid? He was he was he did the he did it. Did you not learn FROM THE KARATE KID? He did it. The knife was up and he had to do the weird thing and do the did it. I don't give a that you suck and YOU'VE

[00:16] LOST EVERY JOB AND NOBODY LIKES YOU AND YOU'RE 39. YOU'RE NOT EVEN at halftime. You're just losing. You're not a loser. Good morning everybody. Uh welcome to Good morning everybody. Uh welcome to another episode of Tea with Gary Vee 94.

[00:28] not lose again. That would have been very hard since they didn't play this week. This was their by-week. So, two weeks in a row. GaryVee.com whatnot. >> Mark is asking, "I'm looking for a job and I constantly interview. I'm working

[00:42] a seasonal job I hate too. How can I kill the interview and get that job?" >> I think vulnerability, honesty, conviction, passion, these are words to lean in on. I think if you go into the interview being scared that you're not

[00:55] going to get it, you've already lost it. I think honesty matters. Tell them where comfort. Like this is what I'm good at. This is what I'm not good at. You know, I I think fear kills people. I think about somebody who recently worked here,

[01:09] not for a very long time. Fear ate that person up. And there was no reason. We had nothing but deep hope to make it epic, but the fear ate him up for no reason. And so fear is a [ __ ] scary thing.

[01:25] their little bubble of delusion with their fear because it allows them to not address the truth. People love to be with themselves and [ __ ] stew on [ __ ] and then grab a couple of family members

[01:40] and then grab a couple of family members or friends to like enable them. We love coming. We love being three musketeers of [ __ ] Like I'm full of [ __ ] Let me grab two [ __ ] other losers that are my friends or my family that loves

[01:53] because they're enabling me. And we're just going to roll around and blame everyone but ourselves for no reason. And I know who's in the worst spot because this place I'm trying

[02:05] to really help and fix. And if you can't win here, well then when you lose here, and many lose here, you need to really go back to the you need to really go back to the Batcave and make a new [ __ ] potion.

[02:18] is if you lose here at a place where someone's really willing to lose money

[02:32] that, by the way, that's why politicians and parents, school chancellors and bosses weaponize fear. It's the ultimate weapon. weapon. Not love is optimism. A o that's

[02:47] Not love is optimism. A o that's o the o in a o o in accountability and optimism the o is the op optimism hope love is the ultimate weapon but fear is

[02:59] the ultimate weapon of choice of [ __ ] faces because it controls people. You are never tricking winning people and you are always tricking losing

[03:15] people. So when you're in your [ __ ] and you know you're [ __ ] And here's my thing. Don't hate yourself for being that way. Love yourself out of it. That's the circle that everyone gets [ __ ] up

[03:27] because I'm pointing, you know, I'm triggering people right now with the way like, "Here's your zit. Here's your zit. Here's your zit." And what's happening is some people know I'm [ __ ] right. And then they go into like this bad

[03:41] like, "Yeah, [ __ ] man. I'm a piece of shit." You're not. You're hurt. You're actually wonderful. I need to get you the [ __ ] out. First, I I need to get you the [ __ ] out. First, I got to poke to tell you like you're

[03:55] fazy. People think they're clever when they're in this world. They think they're tricking someone because their mommy's coddling them. You're right, Sally. Johnny is a dick. and their best friend

[04:07] who's also in their [ __ ] mud. You're right, Sarah. Johnny's a dick. But that's just a [ __ ] circle jerk of negativity [ __ ] because I want to get you the [ __ ] out. But when I poke sometimes people go into

[04:21] like he's right and [ __ ] I'm the worst. You're not the worst. You're in a circumstance that you need to get out of.

[04:33] You're just as good as me or anybody else. You're just as good as everyone. You're just hurting right now. And you don't realize that you're hanging with the same people, listening to the same [ __ ] And we've had the rise

[04:47] in the last decade of the fear weaponizers. And they're very effective because so many people lack self-esteem because we and daddy coddled everything.

[05:02] Everybody's a puss. Bunch of pusses. People punishing. People stopped grounding. Parents stop

[05:16] smacking. There are no ramifications, no consequences. And now everyone's about to The problem is life is has the ultimate consequences. If you're a puss and you're 22 and you're, let's use a guy right now. If

[05:30] and you're 22 and mommy and daddy took care of everything. Life's going to [ __ ] life. you're the one that took mommy and daddy's [ __ ] coddling.

[05:44] the DMs who are telling mommy and daddy, "Go [ __ ] yourself. Stop coddling me. I'm off the payroll." Proud of you. Big shout out to all of you. This is a new thing. This is where Gen Alpha's getting to learn. Big shout out to all the 16,

[05:58] 17 year olds that have been hitting me up lately. There's a new wave, new wave of DMs. New wave of feedback. Had a kid had a kid uh stop me actually when I was with Xander, which I don't love, but said I got off the [ __ ] payroll. 17

[06:12] learned how to flip, got off the payroll. That [ __ ] kid, if he didn't get off the payroll, would have been the cliche 25-year-old who's depressed. capable. You're not capable because mommy and daddy took care of everything.

[06:32] got to lose. If your kid does not want to play board games, who's got a kid under 12 who avoids board games? Put the number 12 in the chat because I'm telling you right now, you need to break it. I had one of those and I broke it.

[06:48] games? Who avoids games? They avoid it because they don't want to lose. First tell that they're insecure. For everybody putting 12 in, you have a insecure child. I did broke it.

[07:04] Avoidance. Avoidance. Avoidance. And if you have a kid who cries when they lose and then wants to play again, you have a winner on your hands. Stop changing that.

[07:20] Who has a kid who cries or gets super upset and then wants to play again? Play again, play again. Who's got one of those?

[07:33] maybe five or six, seven years ago when this wasn't obvious as much in culture tried to get their kids to realize it's just a game and now realizes, wait a minute, let me flip it up. Put fixed it. Put fixed it. If you were

[07:47] in the camp seven years ago saying it's just a game, but now you're all about society matters. Look at all these fixes in the chat. That's huge. Those were all parents. This is why we have so many people hurting right now at 20. We had a

[08:02] kids that wanted to [ __ ] win and believed in, stick with me here, merit and truth. These are six-year-olds that believed in merit and truth and had competitive spirit and were built for the actual world. And we had parents

[08:18] being like, "Nah, you know what [ __ ] up a six-year-old?" Cuz your parents, all these people have fixed it. Now that all these people have fixed it. Now that means we're

[08:35] have to fix it for yourself. You're not a loser. you're currently You're not a loser. you're currently losing. just people who are currently losing because they want to be happier.

[08:55] >> That was good. Yeah. >> Give me something. It's true. Nobody's a loser. Did anybody watch the Bengals in the Bears game yesterday? That [ __ ] was crazy. Weren't losing like the Bears. The Bengals were [ __ ] losers. then

[09:09] worst loss in the year that may come back. Like that's life. There is not one I'm gonna make this statement for 8.3 billion people. There statement for 8.3 billion people. There is not one loser on Earth. There's just

[09:23] people that are currently losing. And now let me break your [ __ ] brain. Losing is fun, especially when the game's not over because then you get the game's not over because then you get the [ __ ] joy of getting out of the loss.

[09:36] You know what the best win is? What the Bears did yesterday? Not just like cruising and making it easy. You know what's a great win in my favorite sport fighting is when you lose every Leon I mean I hate this because I like [ __ ]

[09:50] Usman is one of my favorite favorite favorite fighters of all time. I think he's one of the great fighters ever. But Leon Edwards win is the most joyful. He got his ass beat for four and a half rounds and he [ __ ] found that leg

[10:02] rounds and he [ __ ] found that leg late. [ __ ] KARATE KID WHEN HE DID THE [ __ ] like he was [ __ ] hurt? He was [ __ ] hurt and he did the [ __ ] he [ __ ] did it. Did you not LEARN FROM

[10:18] THE KARATE KID? HE [ __ ] DID IT. The [ __ ] leg was [ __ ] up. DANNY'S LEG WAS [ __ ] UP AND HE HAD TO DO THE WEIRD THING AND DO THE HE [ __ ] DID IT. HE [ __ ] did it. I don't give a [ __ ] that you SUCK AND

[10:32] YOU'VE LOST EVERY JOB AND NOBODY LIKES YOU AND YOU'RE 39. YOU'RE NOT EVEN AT HALFTIME. YOU'RE JUST LOSING. You're not a loser. [ __ ] did it right. You were [ __ ] pumped, too. I [ __ ] brought out [ __ ] Miyagi.

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[11:36] six kids. Two years ago, we started an auto glass repair business in a small town in Texas. We have good weeks and bad weeks. We've made it through every month, but it's been very tight. My husband feels like he needs to just go

[11:48] sweat, and tears. So, I'm trying to encourage him to push through since we are your thoughts? >> Facebook ads. I mean, you know this better than anybody, Pablo. You've been on my team now for a little while, and

[12:00] you know how effective localized ads are. They need to run are. They need to run 150 bucks, right, on a 25, 35, 40 mile radius because if they're, you know, the the more you want it, the wider you want

[12:15] willing to drive and [ __ ] do it. [ __ ] it. They might want to do a 100 mile radius. They'll take a job two hours away, right? So, my answer is Facebook ads, you know? You know, I think it will work.

[12:29] Um, that's my belief for that business. I think that one of the great things one can do in a localized business is recognize how effective those ads are for such little money and that may give them the spike of extra dollars that

[12:44] they'll see that will make him feel more secure in it. or he can go back and go secure in it. or he can go back and go full-time job and um run ads for it to

[12:57] just do it on the weekends and pick see if that creates the demand and maybe he does that on the weekends and maybe over time he realizes those ads are working and maybe goes back to the gig. There's nothing wrong with trying to go all in

[13:13] nothing wrong with trying to go all in on something. It doesn't take going back to a job, turning that all-in jump into a side hustle while you go back to a full-time job, and maybe that will build back up and can become a full-time job.

[13:27] And so, um, I I think for a business that is very localized, that is very localized, um, I'm a very big fan of, uh, trying to attack the Facebook ad ecosystem because it works for localized

[13:40] businesses. I just I just know it does. So, let's keep it going. Jose, how are >> Doing good. Gary, I just want to say thank you. Thank you for always dropping 42-year-old content creator who's also still maintaining uh the uh corporate

[13:55] life. I just want to say I appreciate everything. So, uh in a world of AI, we keep talking about AI, AI, AI, but people aren't talking about EI. And me should I really double down on communication and emotional intelligence

[14:09] as people continue to kind of get away with that? Yeah, look, I think I don't think people are getting away from it at all. In fact, I think the big winner from the AI era in a decade are going to be the people that understand the value

[14:22] of emotional intelligence and how to interact with people and you know where humanity comes in. I think a lot of people are going to gravitate towards more real things. I, you know, this morning I put out a post like I continue

[14:36] to believe that experiential businesses um are going to grow. I think concerts and rock climbing company and in sports and you know all these things that require us to be out in the world um are going to continue to grow. There's a lot

[14:51] of people who are going to try to build AI apps because they want to be an entrepreneur where what they should really be building is New York City tour, you know, uh, companies. Like, I just think a lot more in that. And I

[15:04] just think a lot more in that. And I think as we get into a workforce where think as we get into a workforce where mundane skills become less, um, effective, uh, I think and and valuable because they are being replaced by AI. I

[15:18] think what employers and companies and humans are going to be looking for is good leadership, good management, and um you know, I think it's a game of both. You know, I don't think you can go just go into uh this nirvana utopia idea of

[15:32] I'm going to make million dollars a year because I'm nice and I care about people. I don't think that's what I'm actually saying. What I'm saying is someone who has a grasp of what the AI tools are and is a manager of people

[15:45] that use AI tools within an organization and is the human that is creating good culture and emotional intelligence and as a manager has HR like tendencies um

[15:58] uh I think is going to uh is going to have a real uh a real era here in front of people are talking about emotional intelligence and leadership as a growing value because there's going to be a lot

[16:12] of people managing a lot of people that are managing a lot of AI bots. Again, big companies are going to have 35 people using AI with the power of 400 people, right? That are going to need managers

[16:26] to keep that effectiveness and culture going. We're still humans. So, that's Pleasure. >> Appreciate you. appreciate you. This is >> Appreciate you. appreciate you. This is the Notorious Ninja signed uh pack comic

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[17:20] corner. All you have to do is click the button for everybody who's on Instagram, garyve.com whatnot. Sid wants to get in there. Why whatnot. Sid wants to get in there. Why do people value 50 nos so much but not

[17:33] >> That's a great question. I think people value 50 nos versus 50 views uh for a very specific reason which has become weirdly my life's work. I think that people are wildly insecure. And so when they get 50 views they think that's a

[17:49] millions of views. And I always say this like I wish they could see 50 people in a room to see how powerful getting 50 views is. I think the reason that they get so [ __ ] up by both 50 views and 50 nos is they take them both as negatives.

[18:03] Now, I think they view both those things as negatives. For me and for others, I I think that there's just an incredible thirst to persevere through adversity. I think some of us, me included and others that I've seen, had the fortune of

[18:18] struggling early on and it didn't break them. Some people struggle early on and it breaks them and they become cynical and mad at the world. Other people have struggles and it becomes a motivation. The people that have struggles oftentime

[18:31] have unconditional love in their family that allows them to believe. So for me, I'm incredibly fortunate that even though I had plenty of struggles, um in my youth, I had incredible love for my mother, which made me be able to

[18:45] persevere. Other people that have struggles may not be as fortunate to them that love and then are in search of that and it and it compounds their insecurity. And so so much happens in your childhood. But again, we can't

[18:58] there's plenty of things that happened in my, as incredible as my mother and father are, there are things that they did that in hindsight put me in a vulnerable spot that I wasn't able to see. And instead of blaming them, I've

[19:12] used my adulthood to work on it. And I think that this becomes a big obsession of mine and you know this I bring this up often which is at what age as a matter of fact everybody in whatnot please give me the number here. At what

[19:25] age do you believe it is time to no longer blame your parents and your circumstance and to as the kids say adult up and start saying okay mom and dad [ __ ] this up life [ __ ] this up but I am strong enough to address this

[19:41] and now I have to start working on it instead of pointing fingers I can go thumbs and I can start going and so we're seeing a lot of answers right in the chat right now and you know a lot of people are are

[19:54] hovering between 18 and 25. You know, some people are saying 30. Somebody said 40, which I think is rich. Um, but you know, you know, a lot of people are living it. Watch this. We're going to have a very vulnerable moment right now.

[20:09] A lot of you just put a number in. How many of you put in a number yet you have passed that number and you continue to blame mommy, daddy, the government, the mayor, the governor, the president, the system? Like, own it. Own it. Say me.

[20:25] Say capital me. Right. And so, you know, look, a lot of people are going to say me. Like, there's a lot of people being honest here, which I [ __ ] I adore you about alto together to like start getting into that place, right? And like

[20:39] for everyone who says me, you know, this is the moment maybe this is the tea with Gary Vee where do you realize I'm done blaming my boss, my mom, the system, you blaming my boss, my mom, the system, you know, America, Canada, India. Like

[20:54] capable of cutting negativity out of their lives even if it's hard. Like your mom, your dad, your spouse, you're allowed to get divorced. You're allowed to limit your interaction with your, you know, you know, your life. This guy

[21:07] cheating wife." Yet, you're allowed to forgive your cheating wife for her sins allowed. Or you could be one of those people that sits and rolls in that mud for the rest of their life. You could be mad that the opportunities aren't there

[21:21] for you in India. Or you could spend 100% of your time trying to get working there's more opportunities. You're just allowed in life. You're just allowed. allowed in life. You're just allowed. This is life. This is life. You're just

[21:34] allowed. You're allowed to dwell and you're allowed to attack. You're allowed to cry and you're allowed to wipe off your tears and go at it. I will say your tears and go at it. I will say this, people in worse mental, physical,

[21:48] and emotional situations than you have been able to persevere and get out,

[22:00] different things like whatever's a lot of people that are stuck aren't trying different things. They keep going to the same well whether it's one person in complain same kind of therapists, same

[22:14] kind of content, same kind like we need to change our [ __ ] if you're not happy. I think they value both 50 nos and 50 views by not valuing them. They don't value them. I value nose, their feedback, their motivation, and

[22:29] their information. I value 50 views because I think 50 is incredible. Like, "Gary, why are you doing it on one night? You only have 443 people watching right now." You could, you know, as we know on TikTok, I have 60. Like, you

[22:42] I've never been in a place where no matter where I'm at, I'm not insecure. I Vee, you've fallen off. You only got like a thousand likes on this post." I'm understand. You know, I do not if I didn't give a

[22:57] middle school. You think I'm going to [ __ ] give a [ __ ] of anyone here [ __ ] give a [ __ ] of anyone here trolling? have compassion for your anger towards me.

[23:12] me. I only have sympathy. I am not affected by your tough guy words on Twitter.

[23:24] [ __ ] I'll [ __ ] beat your ass. Do you understand? Like, do you think you could beat me? I am an emotional [ __ ] savant. I will blow you out the water. you, say three things, and you will crumble like a [ __ ] cuz you are

[23:37] crumble like a [ __ ] cuz you are insecure. Tough guy gal. The easiest person to punk is a keyboard warrior. They're soft as [ __ ] But I'm not going to hurt you back. I feel bad for you. I love you.

[23:52] for you. I love you. I want for you. getting off on like [ __ ] trying to tear somebody down, me or anybody else, like, I don't know what to tell you, but real

[24:07] winners see you for the losing situation you're in. I see you. I see you for all your weakness. And I don't I

[24:25] I I care for you, man. I want you out. These people got you twisted out there. I see you. You're losing. And I'm here to take your anger because you can't to take your anger because you can't penetrate me. And I'll take it. And I I

[24:37] hope you I hope you can get your poison out by trying to punch me. But your punches aren't landing. And you need to know that. And your punches aren't landing on anybody else who's winning inside.

[24:51] Punches are only landing on other hurt people. And that's a rolling in the mud that you need to get the [ __ ] out of.

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[25:47] >> Kylie's asking, "I started a business with my fiance. He's great at talking about what we should do, but I'm usually the one executing. He works, but it's seriously. How do I get him to be disciplined and consistent?"

[26:00] >> Oo, this is a tough question. Um, this happens a lot with partners. Uh, people happens a lot with partners. Uh, people have very different working styles. Um, businesses. um you're in like kind of like pseudo

[26:15] family in fiance land, right? You're kind of like half pregnant family when you're engaged. And so this makes it even harder. Um one thing that I'm a very big fan of as a leader, and I think she's leading in this situation, is

[26:29] realizing it's very hard to change people, but what I try to focus on is how to put people in positions to succeed based on who they actually are. that scenario is putting too much on yourself and creating resentment. This

[26:45] is a formula for like breakup both in business and in in your relationships. business and in in your relationships. So I I I tread here lightly. Um this is like a real combo. Like there's just a lot of talkers out there. The

[26:59] just a lot of talkers out there. The world is filled with talkers who complain and envy and deploy jealousy and hate towards doers. I ask a lot of to use this morning's show to figure out

[27:15] where you sit on the talking and doing spectrum. I listen, I do a lot of talking. I don't think talking is bad. I think talking without doing is bad. then he did it in the ring. He's the greatest. You know, a lot of people have

[27:31] done a lot of talking and then have gone out and done it. Um, you know, I think think she needs to be honest with him. I think cander is the actual answer to this question. I think she needs to explain

[27:45] what her point of view is on this. Now, a lot of talkers often are incredibly insecure. Most people don't do things in life because they're insecure. They time. You all know where I'm about to go. They fear losing in front of others.

[28:00] So if she addresses him and brings up that like, "Hey man, I love like your energy for it, the ambition for it, but I end up doing all this stuff." He may get triggered by that. You know,

[28:13] insecure people when called out, narcissistic people when called out really hate that [ __ ] Baby doesn't like to be put into the corner when they're trying to peacock. A lot of talkers use the talking as a disguise, as a front.

[28:30] Uh, ego is defined in my mind, at least one man's point of view, as insecurity with makeup on, you know, and so with a Halloween costume on. So, I'm concerned Halloween costume on. So, I'm concerned about how he'll receive her

[28:45] feedback if she goes canderous on this. I'm a big fan of couples therapy. I I'm a big fan of couples therapy. I think um that you know as I'm now what 11 days away from being 50 I'm a big fan of people who can afford therapy to use

[28:59] it uh even when they don't seem like there's something wrong in a offense versus defense. I think people wait too long for it. It's good maintenance. It's like going to the gym. By the way, I've figured out that my

[29:12] outer left glute is incredibly weak and tight in the last week and it's really helping me. I'm like loosening up my back through my heavy stretching. So, like this morning, 45 minutes of like heavy stretching, especially on my left,

[29:25] like my outer left glute, whatever that's called. Um, and um, and that's kind of how I think about therapy and like meditation. It's how I think about this show. You know, one of my great ambitions for Tea with Gary Vee is doing

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[29:53] from last week when I retired and unretired. A lot happened last week. retiring. It's a wrap. >> I'm upset. I'm not sure if I should ever life. It's sad, man. This is it. >> I think it's over. Like, all of it.

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[32:09] uh have different opinions. Maybe, for example, Homespun's Quest went to happens. What do you think? All therapists are good. I think a lot of trying to get to the solve. They're just trying to keep you on the payroll. Like,

[32:22] there's a lot of things out there, but nothing is absolute. But the concept of great things that is [ __ ] up every one of you, by the way, I don't give a [ __ ] if you go to a therapist. Go take go to the [ __ ] woods. Literally go to

[32:35] the woods this weekend. Go to the woods in the middle of nowhere and just scream out your poison. What I promise you was globally historically true is the number one thing that's [ __ ] all of you up is you're keeping poison inside of you.

[32:50] And most of your buckets are small. I always used to yell at my dad. I was like, "Dad, your bucket to like getting upset is like filling up this little cup and mine and mom's is like the ocean." And I used to think that's a strength.

[33:02] But I would argue that just because me and my mom have the ocean to take the eventually that pulls over. And which one's better? Neither. Get your [ __ ] poison out. Get your [ __ ] poison out. Get your

[33:16] [ __ ] poison out. shopping is, literally click that little button at the bottom. If you want to start your journey a great comic to read to your kids this weekend, just click it

[33:29] right down below. You just hit buy. It's literally Apple Pay. Boom. Boom. As they say, somewhere in the world. All right, let's keep it going. Rag up. What's >> Hi, Gary. I don't know if you remember me, but I'm going to give you a second

[33:41] me, but I'm going to give you a second to recognize me. You have seen me twice. >> Remind me, brother. I apologize. >> It's from VCON one. We I was there in >> I'm glad. It's great to see you again, brother.

[33:53] >> Yeah. And I wanted to ask you, so uh we were in Canada at that time, but now I have moved back to India with my family. I wanted to I know I can crush it in like whatnot uh live shopping but I don't know how to get in because India

[34:07] is not in yet. So how can I take advantage of that because India is not in as >> well you can't be in something if it's >> Yeah >> right like like if I was like sitting

[34:20] here in America I was like I know that I could be remarkable at cricket but cricket was banned in America for some move to Pakistan or India to play cricket or Australia or England. You

[34:33] crush live shopping but if the live shopping function is not available yet in India well then what are we talking about? So you have two options. You can continue to get educated and be prepared for when it is

[34:49] for when it is >> or or you can move again. >> Yeah. And there was one more thing. So I have been selling uh since on Amazon and online marketplaces since I was 16. I was working in Walmart doing all of the

[35:02] stuff with high school and when I left my job I was working full-time for Amazon and now with the >> one second one rav one second >> somebody in the chat saying Kiko and Amazon live both work in India.

[35:15] >> I don't know about Amazon live I only know about Tik Tok shop and whatnot. >> That's fine but this is what you could have done. Because like yes, I know you're going to have to eat it. Hey

[35:28] chat, is live social shopping available in India? I know that Tik Tok is banned in India and I don't think WhatNot's there, but I could be wrong. Which three or four apps right now are doing live social shopping the way Whatnot and Tik

[35:40] obviously how China is a half a trillion dollar economy. Is there any app that's dollar economy. Is there any app that's leading right now in live shopping on in starting to get going. But can you give me the top three, please? You have to

[35:56] understand if there is an actual answer to this right now. I'm coming to India to punch you in the neck. >> You know that, right? I'm coming to India. >> Amazon Live works. Flipkart works.

[36:09] >> Mi show. >> Why are you not on the Mi show? >> Yeah. Yeah, that's for India. I WAS >> YOU COMING ON MY SHOW SAYING IT'S NOT THERE YET when you [ __ ] yeah YOU KNOW ME SHOW

[36:23] >> but I was more focusing on US side. I have only like sold in Canada and US. I >> You were in India. >> Yeah.

[36:35] >> Okay. So I look into that the Amazon and M show live shopping. >> Yes. Cuz you're in India. >> Yeah. And I just have one more question. Are you going to be doing another VCON anytime soon or in couple of years?

[36:47] >> Yes, but I'm not doing one until I see you on Mi show. >> please. >> Yeah. >> And dude, never call into another show where the answer could be done in one

[36:59] >> Yeah, >> Ragav to you in person. So, that was >> that's fine. That I respect. THAT I

[37:12] >> THAT'S A FAIR, but that's good. But is forever on the internet. Your kids one day are going to be like, "Daddy, ASK SUCH A STUPID QUESTION?" >> NO, NO, I'M TOTALLY fine with that. I

[37:26] I'm not embarrassed. I've just started making content on social media. So, I'm of that >> now. Well, now, Ragoff, you redeemed going to punch you in the neck. Now, I'm

[37:38] >> Let me punch and kiss. All right, BROTHER. WE'LL SEE YOU LATER. ALL RIGHT, >> Thank you. Bye. >> Ray is asking, "My young daughter her that grades don't define her. The school system pushes these kids to know

[37:51] grades, making her feel like a failure. I've shown her some of your clips, but wisdom?" >> Right. Listen to your daughter. Like, she's she's she's not going to just believe her dad after a couple of times.

[38:05] This is a constant flow. You can send her my clips. Look, either she wants to be common senseoriented. I don't know how old she is. When you're seven, when you're 10, when you're 12, it's harder to believe that you could be successful

[38:18] without getting good grades. When you're 15, 17, 19, it becomes more clear that, you know, what is success? I think needs to have a real conversation. I actually think one of the worst things that's going in society right now is followers,

[38:33] going in society right now is followers, money, clout, stuff is the definition in a way that we've never had. We've become dramatically over materialistic. It's nice and fine and you're allowed to have certain things and want certain things

[38:45] and if you love fast cars or collectibles, you're allowed. collectibles, you're allowed. But I I really struggle with first defining success. I think success is really defined by did you wake up this

[38:59] morning. Actually, let's do this. And honestly, no bullshitting in the chat. And everybody from social media, you need to come to garyve.com whatnot. Whot um to answer this question because the

[39:13] answers are officially only real on whatnot. So for 4 400 of you this whatnot. So for 4 400 of you this morning, if I said from zero to 10, 10 being you felt no anxiety in your chest, you woke up this morning and

[39:25] you're like, "Thank you [ __ ] God for another day. Another day where nobody called me with an emergency last night because someone in my family died or had a tragedy. Today is going to be awesome." That's a 10. Zero is I don't

[39:39] even want to live tomorrow much more. I'm like very unhappy. Everything's [ __ ] Where are you from one to 10? Zero to 10. Give me your numbers. numbers, right? A lot of a lot of good numbers here to make sense. And a lot of

[39:54] a tough number. You know, I just saw a three, which is not super fun for me. Everybody answering on social, your answers are not official. Garyve.com

[40:06] whatnot. Whot come over here right now. Come and hang. I think success is waking up with something between a seven and 10 this morning to that question. But you need to pound, brother. You need to talk

[40:21] about it every day, not once in a while. Um, and eventually you will break through. My daughter's 16 right now. Um, and I've definitely seen a shift in how she sees the world in the last year. And I think a lot of people will go through

[40:36] that as parents. There's some And we're all we've all gone from 12 to 16 to 22. I think those 10 years are insane. Think about yourself at 12, think 16, and think 22. That's a lot of growing up in a 10-year window. You might be

[40:50] see it right now, but you know, give it some time. Give it some time and make sure that she's defining success with happiness, not stuff. Optic Bey

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[41:17] This is the gratitude gorilla. I genuinely believe if some of you put this on your desk in the morning when you come into work and you look at the you to be [ __ ] grateful for what you have. Yes, your boss might be a dick,

[41:31] but you have the best husband in the world. What do you want to focus on? I believe most people focus on boss's dick, right? I believe more people should focus on husband is the best. I've always in times of anxiety or

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[42:42] Anyway, I think more people he needs to define success as happiness and lack of anxiety and joy and then he needs to continue to pound her that grades have no impact on that. Straight A students are not universally happy. Straight A

[42:56] don't know how we have not had this conversation. It's period end of the story. It's truth. Let's keep it going. >> Chris, >> I lost my wife five years ago this month

[43:08] to co and I made sure to focus. Thank you, sir. Uh, I'm a big fan of yours. that app show and on the Apple channel like for Apple TV when you went. >> Thank you, Chris. >> Hell yeah. Um, but I just want to say

[43:22] that I think u I got my boys graduated. I got them situated and now it's my turn. And so I decided what the hell. I decided to jump into this whatnot stuff coming up this week because of you and all the things you said. But I just want

[43:36] to know like I also had some uh Michael Jordan Gatorade cards that I won from maybe I could trade them for just 15 don't know. They're very rare. I just

[43:48] thought I'd throw that out there. Shoot my shot. But um anyway, I just wanted to >> just your energy? I don't need your I don't need your Jordan Gatorade cards see them because you need to get them

[44:00] >> Um, >> but I will give you 15 minutes in New York. The team will set it up for you in Q1 of 2026 just because I love the to give that to you, >> dude. Oh my god, thank you so much. Oh,

[44:14] I would love that. Yes. So, I've been a teacher all my life. Uh, so yeah, so I I used to do some goofy things like on cable access. >> Hold on. BREAK DOWN THE GOOFY THINGS FOR

[44:28] CHRIS. I need to know what goofy things you did. This is getting good now. >> Yeah. Goofy things. Like, you know, I used to sell like from 1000 p.m. to 3:00 a.m. on a cable access channel. Like crap in a box. So, like when you like

[44:41] >> You need to be you need to be on whatnot yesterday. Just don't sell crap this time. Sell something you believe in. >> No, you're right. Absolutely. Don't sell crap. That's right. Yeah. But it was so much fun and it was back in the day and

[44:55] and I think basically what I was going to say is the other things that I've learned is I've always wanted to be like a a motivational speaker talking about strength especially after these last five years and what that looks like and

[45:07] you talk about a lot about being humble a lot about just the strength and fighting through and what you just said is so important for people to listen to when you live through an experience like I have and you understand that you're

[45:20] not losing you're just learning. about life and you're continuing on. It's a hard thing to keep a smile on your face and and laugh about things, right? But man, [ __ ] it is incredible once you come out on the other side. And I

[45:32] appreciate you because I listen to you almost daily and absorb all your content. So anyway, I just wanted to say thanks for that. >> Chris, you know, you're such a inspiration. You went through one of the

[45:44] more challenging things that someone can go through, right? Los losing a spouse at a young age. >> Did you have children, sir? Yeah. Uh yeah, two boys. Uh it was 40. Uh let's see. I was what? 45. She died

[45:57] six days before her birthday, which would have made her 46. Yeah. And so, uh >> How old were the boys? >> How How old were the boys when your wife >> Middle school and high school, they were uh 13 and 16. So, um, you know, I think

[46:13] when you battle those things, you know, and it's it's funny because, you know, the balance between a mom and a dad and, uh, and how that works, you're very family that you've been a part of. Um, and just kind of working through that

[46:26] It's tough because you still play that role of the dad, but then also, um, you know, how do you how do you make up that kind of that role for the mom, too? And I think a lot of what you said too, my boys always talked about, well, you

[46:41] we've lost, we've done this, we've done this. I said, yes, but you know what? this and we got to keep fighting through it, you know, and I think that's and I it, you know, and I think that's and I never let my boys understand um they

[46:55] like you said, like you know, it's always that feeling. Um and yeah and know, and what does that look like, you know, and then how can they turn that into their motivation to continue and be strong, you know,

[47:10] >> you know, both my parents lost a parent um very young. My mom lost her mom at five and my dad lost his dad at 15. And I've talked about openly about how

[47:22] fearing the death of my parents was the backdrop of my life, you know, like the backdrop of my life, you know, like the the the the theme of my life, you know, and I think a lot of my gratitude comes from the fact that I went through my

[47:35] youth where that very challenging thing did not happen. And I I think it's just so wonderful that you were on this show, Chris, because I believe that there's a lot of people, this is what's happened in our society, unfortunately. There's a

[47:50] lot of people in the chat right now, that are struggling with very lightweight things. They're struggling with they don't have extra income to buy silly stuff. Like literally, they're sitting right now watching and their

[48:05] biggest issue that really eats them up is that they don't have extra money to is that they don't have extra money to buy a Lexus or a Burka bag >> or or go to the Four Seasons in Hawaii like someone they saw on social or

[48:19] someone in their neighborhood and it's eating them up. Envy, jealousy around materialistic things. And then a gentleman like you comes on who has gone through a real adversity. Losing your wife during COVID and then

[48:34] having to raise your two children by yourself at an incredibly fragile time yourself at an incredibly fragile time in their lives. 13 to 16 for boys is a profoundly challenging time. and the fact that you have the strength and the

[48:49] the energy that you come on here with and the optimism and the hope and just you know what you're doing um you know I hope wakes somebody like not only thank

[49:01] God for your boys they were lucky to have you right and I do believe the incredible challenge of losing their mother can become the foundation of their happiness I really believe that I believe adversity is the foundation of

[49:15] success and happiness But but Chris, the reason you need to go and whatnot and get out there is I'm convinced that you just helped someone in this chat. Convinced convinced that somebody just got

[49:30] dude >> is coming on with this energy and I'm crying about some dumb ass [ __ ] right? Like people are crying about dumb ass [ __ ] and literally just felt what it would feel like right now to lose their

[49:46] would feel like right now to lose their spouse and all the pressures of like keeping up the financial impact. There's people, you know, I you know, there's people right now that could lose their spouse. I don't know if your wife worked

[49:59] or not, but some people here, some some people here are the stay-at-home parent >> who not only is their spouse and would be their mom or dad to their kids,

[50:11] people that literally had to go to work today. Literally today, Monday in the world, somebody had to go to work today on November 3rd, Monday in the world, who'd never worked in their adult life because their spouse took care of the

[50:25] finances and that spouse passed away last month a couple weeks ago and that person has to go to work. Like people have real adversities out here. people always ask why you don't get stressed, like they say, "Well, Chris,

[50:39] nothing ever shakes you." I said, "Yeah, it doesn't shake you when you see your wife hooked to a machine and can't breathe." You know what I mean? Of >> course, nothing shakes. >> And by the way, Chris, I've never had

[50:51] that happen to me. And nothing shakes me because the serendipity of my DNA, people who are unshakable >> who just have simplicity in their heart. >> Mhm. >> It's simplicity that we need, my friend.

[51:06] >> What the [ __ ] What the [ __ ] does everybody need? What do you need? >> You know, people are very confused out here that they think stuff is going to here that they think stuff is going to close the gap of their heart.

[51:21] >> I cannot explain to you how many people I've watched get more stuff and get more unhappy >> because here's what happens to people that believe that money and stuff will solve it. They get there and it doesn't

[51:34] solve it. They get there and it doesn't and then are completely [ __ ] up. >> Do you have a whatnot username yet? >> Yeah, I think it's just Chris K54. It's picture. >> I see it. Everybody, please follow all

[51:49] 400 of you in here. Follow. Everyone's following you right now, Chris. There we go. >> Oh, man. You man, bless you, sir. Bless what you do. Thank you so much. And hey, I can't wait to come visit you in 2026.

[52:01] blessing. Looking forward to Thank you, sir. Appreciate it. Stay well. >> everybody. As we're tuning off here on today's show, if it's your first show, follow V friends. That's very important to me. Oh, I love micro dramas. What's

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