How to Stop Tilting While Gaming (or Use it to Win)

[00:00] tilt is one of the most destructive

[00:02] forces in gaming it can cause the best

[00:05] players in the world to fall apart under

[00:07] pressure and cause you to lose control

[00:10] and throw easy wins just think about the

[00:13] last time you got de-ranked after a

[00:15] vicious losing streak or when you kept

[00:18] making dumb mistakes and then suddenly

[00:19] had a toxic teammate screaming at you

[00:22] slowly that frustration probably surged

[00:25] inside of you and when it heightened

[00:27] past a point of return you ended up

[00:30] losing your focus and ability to perform

[00:33] and when your rage and tilt steal your

[00:36] focus and your ability to make good

[00:38] decisions you spiral farther and farther

[00:42] into that pit of defeat and anger but

[00:45] this is only one side of tilt it's easy

[00:48] to look at these experiences and label

[00:50] frustration and anger as your enemy but

[00:54] what about those players who are

[00:55] insanely good at the game yet seem to be

[00:58] frustrated almost all the time

[01:00] surely if tilt was so bad then every pro

[01:04] player should be super chill relaxed

[01:07] perhaps even in this constant monk-like

[01:09] meditative state but in reality there

[01:12] are many of the world's greatest players

[01:14] who seem to get easily triggered into

[01:16] frustration constantly balancing on that

[01:19] verge of tilt

[01:21] so let's dive a bit deeper into how you

[01:24] can gain control over your emotions so

[01:26] you don't spiral out of control

[01:29] but let's also look at the positive side

[01:32] of till and see how you might be able to

[01:34] harness its emotional energy and

[01:36] potentially use it to get an advantage

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[01:44] let's begin by addressing why tilt is

[01:46] such a common problem in esports now i'm

[01:50] sure you can tell that from your own

[01:51] experiences you are far more vulnerable

[01:54] to rage and tilt while gaming than

[01:56] during most other activities just think

[01:59] about how many times you end up

[02:00] screaming at your screens versus how

[02:03] chill you are throughout your day-to-day

[02:05] life

[02:05] and of course you're not alone even the

[02:07] pros at the top of esports requires

[02:09] special training from performance

[02:11] psychologists to help them overcome

[02:13] their own emotions

[02:15] but why is it so easy to get tilted

[02:18] while gaming well it's really easy for

[02:20] us to form emotional connections to our

[02:23] performance there's nothing like the joy

[02:26] that you experience when you execute a

[02:29] perfect mechanical combination or when

[02:31] your team wins an insanely clutch round

[02:34] or when you finally reach that next rank

[02:37] but there's the darker side the pressure

[02:40] and competition in esports can be cruel

[02:43] and unforgiving consider that feeling of

[02:46] losing that hard-earned rank falling

[02:48] behind to a team that's easy for you to

[02:51] beat or just getting unlucky over and

[02:54] over again now the frustration from

[02:56] these experiences can very quickly cloud

[02:59] your mind and lead you into a state of

[03:01] complete tilt

[03:03] but where exactly are these feelings

[03:05] coming from well according to

[03:07] psychologist and emotional intelligence

[03:09] expert dr susan david emotions are our

[03:13] body's way of communicating our deepest

[03:16] values to ourselves she outlined 52 core

[03:19] values that most people gravitate

[03:22] towards now each of us holds a handful

[03:24] of these values in the highest of

[03:26] priority in our own lives and it's these

[03:29] high priority values that ultimately

[03:32] guide and affect your emotions this is

[03:34] why you typically feel strong emotions

[03:37] towards certain things that others don't

[03:39] feel nearly as strongly about for

[03:42] example you might feel completely chill

[03:44] while playing a casual game when it

[03:46] comes to ranked you might feel

[03:47] completely emotional and very easy to

[03:50] trigger into a positive or negative

[03:52] state this might be because competition

[03:54] is one of your core values

[03:57] but your teammates might feel certain

[03:59] emotions towards the gaming experience

[04:01] because he values wealth and he sees his

[04:04] gaming career as a way to fulfill that

[04:07] need to earn money and make a living but

[04:09] this is all great to understand but

[04:11] we're still left with that big question

[04:13] which is how do we gain control over our

[04:16] bad emotions so they don't lead to

[04:19] losing control or us losing focus during

[04:22] the game well according to dr david

[04:25] there is no such thing as bad emotion

[04:27] sounds weird right well as dr david

[04:30] explains there are pleasant and

[04:32] unpleasant emotions but all of them are

[04:35] useful at helping us understand

[04:37] ourselves

[04:38] it's unrealistic to strive to always

[04:40] feel excited or euphoric while

[04:42] practicing or competing because you will

[04:45] inevitably have experiences that make

[04:47] you feel angry overwhelmed stressed or

[04:50] disappointed and in the past sports

[04:52] psychology focused on this whole

[04:54] good versus bad emotions thing they

[04:56] focus on reframing negative experiences

[05:00] through this

[05:00] forceful self-talk and thought-stopping

[05:03] technique

[05:04] for example if you felt nervous or

[05:06] discouraged coaches would train you to

[05:09] shut out those feelings and focus on the

[05:11] positive

[05:12] and of course this can be helpful for

[05:14] the short term these techniques focus on

[05:17] emotional control which can be helpful

[05:20] for a limited amount of time

[05:22] unfortunately it's not a sustainable

[05:24] method

[05:25] new research shows that controlling or

[05:27] forcing emotions can actually cause

[05:30] stress and emotional burnout

[05:32] psychologist ed deckey's work backs this

[05:35] up he concludes that we can't create our

[05:37] emotions because they are responses to

[05:40] stimuli

[05:41] but we can however control how we

[05:44] respond to those feelings and how we

[05:46] prepare for them in other words you

[05:48] should never ask yourself how do you

[05:50] stop this feeling

[05:52] you should instead be asking how do i

[05:54] respond to this feeling

[05:56] now all this emotional analysis and

[05:59] taking the time to think about how we

[06:01] want to respond to emotional situations

[06:04] can help a lot but it's very impractical

[06:07] to emotionally analyze yourself and

[06:09] respond to it appropriately in the heat

[06:12] of competition it's not like you can

[06:14] just pause the game for a quick

[06:16] meditation session or journaling session

[06:18] if you feel angry but this is why it's

[06:21] so critical to prepare your minds before

[06:24] the game first it's important to

[06:25] understand that strong emotions whether

[06:28] pleasant or not can be useful or

[06:30] distracting anger anxiety and

[06:32] disappointment are obvious distractions

[06:35] as they can cause us to overthink

[06:37] second-guess ourselves and lead to

[06:38] playing impulsively but joy and euphoria

[06:41] can also distract us through making you

[06:44] feel complacent or overconfident and you

[06:47] along with many other competitive gamers

[06:49] have probably at some stage fallen into

[06:52] the trap of thinking this isn't so hard

[06:55] we'll win easily only to then lose that

[06:58] game because you let your guard down

[07:00] now i want us to dig a bit deeper into

[07:03] how three different emotions vastly

[07:05] different emotions can serve us and help

[07:08] us but to extract the most value from

[07:10] your own emotions you need to ask

[07:13] yourself what is the function or reason

[07:16] for this feeling now let's start with

[07:18] joy joy is a pretty obvious one you

[07:20] probably feel this while you're

[07:22] competing in esports because you're

[07:23] experiencing something which brings you

[07:26] close to your values you might value

[07:28] competition autonomy community or

[07:31] teamwork all of these needs can easily

[07:33] be met during your gaming experience so

[07:35] it makes sense that you enjoy gaming if

[07:38] these are your values

[07:40] joy is a fundamental ingredient in

[07:42] experiencing flow as well if you want to

[07:44] learn more about how the flow state can

[07:46] help you i also recommend checking out

[07:48] our other videos that i released on the

[07:51] topic

[07:52] but believe it or not the pain of

[07:53] disappointment can also be useful losing

[07:56] intense rounds especially when the

[07:58] stakes are high can really sting but

[08:01] this pain can also serve as a reminder

[08:03] that competing and proving yourself at a

[08:05] high level means a lot to you it puts

[08:08] things into a new perspective so that if

[08:10] you find yourself feeling like this you

[08:12] can take that time to process the loss

[08:15] and use the feelings of conviction to

[08:18] move you towards a strategy that

[08:20] sharpens your focus

[08:22] gives you the motivation to work hard

[08:24] and earn that next win but let's look at

[08:27] anger anger is also really useful but it

[08:30] needs to be handled with care legendary

[08:32] basketball trainer tim grover explains

[08:35] in his book that many of the greatest

[08:37] players he's worked with were so

[08:39] dominant and competitive at the highest

[08:41] level because they embraced their dark

[08:44] side he explains that his clients such

[08:46] as charles barkley dwayne wade coe

[08:49] bryant and michael jordan were all able

[08:52] to use anger as a tool to fuel their

[08:54] motivation and give them an unstoppable

[08:57] energy to outplay others

[09:00] so how does this work well i'm sure that

[09:03] you'd agree that when you're angry

[09:05] you're very certain about your beliefs

[09:07] for example have you ever tried to

[09:09] change the mind of an angry person

[09:11] chances are they're very stubborn and

[09:13] that anger just reinforces their own

[09:15] beliefs

[09:16] and this is how anger can be useful it

[09:19] serves as a reminder of how important a

[09:21] win is to you and gives you the energy

[09:24] to do whatever it takes to win for

[09:26] example in the rainbow six grand finals

[09:28] in 2018 team penta found themselves in a

[09:32] 2-0 deficit to evil geniuses in an

[09:35] interview pengu described how the team

[09:38] was completely tilted at a point where

[09:40] they're screaming at each other and

[09:42] getting out all their emotions and of

[09:44] course with one loss away from losing it

[09:46] all it was easy for them to spiral out

[09:49] of control but rather than letting the

[09:52] emotions take over in game three

[09:54] they regained their focus they built

[09:56] back their momentum and they pulled off

[09:59] a reverse sweep defeating evil geniuses

[10:02] and of course becoming the world

[10:04] champions but how did penza do the

[10:07] almost impossible by breaking this

[10:10] downward spiral into tilt well the

[10:13] answer likely comes from research into

[10:15] the flow state flow science expert jamie

[10:17] wheel explained in his 2013 tedx talk

[10:20] that it's not uncommon for periods of

[10:23] flow to be kick-started by feelings of

[10:25] struggle and suffering he explained that

[10:28] feelings of being backed into a corner

[10:30] like penta being down two to zero can

[10:34] put us into a fight or flight response

[10:36] and if players can respond to this fight

[10:38] or flight response with confidence

[10:41] determination and intense focus it can

[10:43] trigger us into that state of heightened

[10:45] performance

[10:47] but when it comes to harnessing your

[10:48] anger in a productive way control is of

[10:52] absolute importance letting anger get

[10:54] the better of you is not helpful so to

[10:58] use your anger as a tool you have to be

[11:00] in control of your behavior and you need

[11:02] to know how to calm yourself down that

[11:04] rage becomes a bit of an obstacle

[11:07] remember though that emotions are very

[11:09] personal to each individual and that

[11:11] certain emotional states can be more

[11:13] useful for one person than another for

[11:16] example some players might play better

[11:18] when they're angry and riled up but

[11:20] others might play better when they're

[11:21] calm and in a friendly mood

[11:24] it's important to note here that

[11:25] emotions while they can serve specific

[11:28] functions to help us that they shouldn't

[11:30] always be seen as a means to help us get

[11:33] better in gaming

[11:34] emotions are complicated and should

[11:36] always be handled in a way that is

[11:38] healthy for you and for those around you

[11:41] if you or anyone you know is struggling

[11:43] with emotional trauma intense bouts of

[11:45] anger sadness or anxiety i really

[11:48] recommend seeking the right help and

[11:50] therapy so in this video we talked about

[11:53] a lot but what do i want you to take

[11:55] away from it

[11:57] well now that we live in a time where

[11:58] becoming a pro gamer is a very

[12:01] legitimate career where you can play on

[12:03] stage and earn a salary while becoming a

[12:05] celebrity in the space the key to doing

[12:08] that all is to develop a consistent

[12:11] level of high performance

[12:13] and one of the biggest barriers to that

[12:15] is our own emotions if you can't control

[12:18] your emotions or you can't tap into the

[12:21] ones that help you play better then

[12:23] you're going to fall behind and you're

[12:25] never really going to reach that high

[12:27] level of play but this video has armed

[12:30] you with the resources and knowledge of

[12:33] how your emotions work and how to use

[12:35] even seemingly negative or bad emotions

[12:38] as good as tools to help you fuel your

[12:42] performance so going forward i want you

[12:44] to pay close attention to your own

[12:46] emotions close attention to which

[12:48] emotions help you the most and which

[12:50] emotions have been holding you back

[12:53] then i want you to develop a healthy

[12:55] relationship with all of those emotions

[12:57] to think about the bad emotions in a new

[13:00] light and to think about the good

[13:01] emotions as a way to help you accelerate

[13:04] your performance with enough time

[13:07] self-reflection and practice on

[13:10] emotional control you will slowly gain

[13:12] an ability to tap into this high

[13:15] performance state on demand and no

[13:17] longer lets emotions become a

[13:19] distraction

[13:21] as a result you will spiral higher and

[13:23] higher towards even better and better

[13:26] performance you'll gain an advantage

[13:28] over most other players and you'll start

[13:30] to make progress towards a potential

[13:32] career on that pro stage

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