You Don't Need Looks, You Need This 1 Skill

[00:02] 1991, a boy from Gautam Nagar, Delhi for how many days, I said I am going for a year, after that I will be thrown out. My there. Hard work, consistency and will power are

[00:17] the things that can fulfill anyone's dreams. Should I stars. But apart from all this, there was something else in Shahrukh Khan which made him not just the successful King of Bollywood or an iconic actor but a global phenomenon.

[00:32] A new hero was born, Shahrukh Khan. Best Actor Award goes to Mr. Shahrukh Khan. The One Thing That Hollywood Doesn't Have. Shahrukh Khan is probably one of the most famous men in the world.

[00:46] famous men in the world. Who is Shahrukh's biggest competitor? I don't have any competition. I have not come here to commit. I have come here to rule.

[01:07] became the second person whose statue was built in the Grevin Museum of Paris. In fact, a gold coin was even issued in his name in Paris. NASA opened its gates for his film shoot and he became the first actor in the world whose films,

[01:21] from Madame to Saad, reached Discovery Studios. but because of that one trait of his which made him special not only in front of the camera but

[01:33] also outside it. This is the magnetic human trait that ancient Egyptian princess Cleopatra possessed. And One of the Greatest Leaders, Alexander the Brain. The one that allowed Steve Jobs to turn his brand into an emotion.

[01:49] That presence which is visible in the vision of Elon Musk and in the words of Shahrukh. In fact, this is human nature, after which your color, height and place do not matter. And due to its absence, people are not able to see your real talent.

[02:04] [Music] This is the hidden human energy charisma. charisma. [Music]

[02:30] but started feeling it. You should consciously start connecting deeply with all your relationships. consciously start connecting deeply with all your relationships. and become the most interesting, engaging and impactful person in any room.

[02:45] When my team and I researched this term, we discovered that charisma is not a single scale but an internal magnetism that we all possess since childhood. The only difference is that it works differently for everyone. This means that every person can

[03:02] works differently for everyone. This means that every person can it is not known from which trade. So this video is more about bringing out the charisma hidden within you than teaching you charisma. We will discuss the four traits of charisma in

[03:17] depth and after listening to them you will be able to decide which one or two traits will make you charismatic. So listen to this video with full focus and attention because this is not just a learning video but a

[03:31] this is not just a learning video but a journey to know your inner magnet. In 2013, a movie of Sir Irrfan Khan was released, The Lunch Box. This film won many awards.

[03:43] Everyone praised the acting, the concept and the story. But there was a scene in the film. story. But there was a scene in the film.

[04:05] before reaching his main word, Irrfan Khan explained everything from his emotions, the definition of the person and his inner thoughts about it definition of the person and his inner thoughts about it a part of expressive intelligence. [Music] It means when your face, your eyes,

[04:21] your expressions show the other person what you cannot express in words. we are writing something in the message with some other feeling and the other person reads it

[04:33] with some other feeling. That's why many times we say that we cannot communicate through messages what we can on the phone. And the kind of conversation that can be had while sitting face to face cannot be had on the phone. In human psychology, this is called emotional contagion. Meaning, humans

[04:47] emotional contagion. Meaning, humans subconsciously understand more from someone's emotions, their tone, their facial expressions, their energy and less from their words. Therefore, you must have noticed that if you cried or felt emotional in a movie,

[05:02] it was not just because of the emotional dialogue but because of the feel of that moment, the background music and the expressions of that actor.

[05:15] expressions are the most transparent medium to convey our internal emotions to others. fun, love, connection, appreciation, respect, everything that is important in daily life. Now

[05:28] another problem is that we do not know how to use them in daily life. Now I know practice daily expressions [music] like an actor. But in the film world, there's You can also try something that uplifts those expressions.

[05:44] That is the mirror exercise. Many actors feel their faces in the mirror before going in front of the camera. He sees how his eyes widen in anger. How a smile transforms into gratitude, into happiness. And when something surprising,

[06:00] shocking happens, how the forehead lifts. You can also practice showing emotions without saying anything, just through expressions. Then you will notice that gradually your face will not just speak. He will be able to start communicating.

[06:14] But we justify our emotions not only with our face but also with our entire body. Meaning the second part of expressive intelligence is body language. There is a very popular research regarding this that while talking to someone, our

[06:28] words carry only 7% meaning. And more than this, 38% depends on our tone. How is our tone? How is the speaking module? And apart from these two, 55% is done through our body language. I know

[06:44] somewhere else. For example, standing in a power pose boosts testosterone. Internal confidence increases. If you use hand gestures correctly, there is more involvement in your conversation.

[06:57] If you make a note while listening to something, your good listening is visible. Your walk reflects your inner nature. I have covered many such tips and detailed practices in this video. If you want to understand this thing deeply then you

[07:10] work on your body language. The only important thing is that you should know that for a charismatic personality, it is most important to express its expressions [music]. Be it through his face or his body language. Now if you

[07:25] think that someone is discussing his emotions with you completely. You are able to understand him completely. You should also be impressed by his behavior. But the same person is

[07:37] not able to understand you internally. If he is not paying attention to what is in your mind, will you be impressed by that person? That is why the second charismatic trend is important.

[07:49] When was the last time you listened to a song? Maybe you listened to it today, while going on the road, while returning home or while doing some work. My actual question is not this, the actual question is when was the last time you listened to a song which gave you peace, which

[08:04] touched all the strings of your heart and you got lost in some memory. Like that one night journey, window seat, strong wind and earphones in the ears with Arijit's voice.

[08:17] You might have also noticed that no matter how much we listen to these songs, we never get tired of them. we listen to these songs, we never get tired of them. What is the reason? The real reason is not a good song, a good melody or a singer but an emotional connection.

[08:31] These songs have some such lyrics. There is something with which we can relate very much. Which is somehow connected to some part of our life or some memory. These songs act as a neurochemical search for the brain. This

[08:44] means that the brain's emotional centers, memory areas, and hormones like serotonin and dopamine become super active. And when you make the same connection with people in daily life, it is called relational intelligence. Meaning, many times your listening skills work more

[09:00] than your own expressions and body language to connect with the other person. To Be Interesting, Be Interesting. But do you know what the biggest problem is

[09:13] ? You should watch these two dead dock videos once. Both are speeches by the same speaker. But this title is How to Speak, so that people want to listen. It has 47 million views in 11 years. And there's the video from 14 years ago, Five Ways to Listen

[09:29] video from 14 years ago, Five Ways to Listen Better. It has only 4.8 million views. In also found that the empathy rate of many students, meaning the rate of feeling others' situations and feelings, dropped by 40%. And there are many such

[09:44] stats, many researches which show this and if you look around you, you will feel that people do not show much interest in listening to others. And this is the reason why there are very few people in our life who seem interesting to us.

[09:57] Those who listen to us calmly and also understand us. This is a very big trait of a charismatic personality and I am not going to tell you any long practice for better listening. I am going to tell you something that you will notice is there in every good listener.

[10:12] And you will be able to execute it practically while talking to others. This is these C. In these C, I means intention. No matter how many tactics you use , if you do n't have the intention to listen to the other person, then you will

[10:27] appear less interested to people. No matter how much you fake it. So the first thing is to have the intention of listening to what people say from within. Without thinking that I already know this. What nonsense is he talking? I need to hear this. This is useful to me. This is the intention. Have to

[10:42] listen to others. and Nuding. If you are telling your point to someone, you are telling it with all your heart and the other person is listening with a straight face. You wo n't feel it, right? It will seem that I am telling you something but the other person is not understanding it. He is

[10:55] not interested in what I say. When we do a little bit of nurturing, our interest is visible. A sense of understanding is developed. The other person realizes that you are not just listening. You are involved and when you do it, a

[11:08] signal goes to your brain also. keep listening. You don't get lost here and there. S is smile. Of course you can't smile at everything. There are some things where smiling will cause trouble. But generally, when you have a decent smile on your face during normal conversations, the person in

[11:23] front of you sees that you are deeply interested. There is intention and it is visible too. You are able to remain more consciously focused. EI contact is the weakest part. Many people do not make eye contact when they are listening.

[11:39] Or if there is someone powerful in front of you, someone very confident in front of you, then the eyes go down. This is the easiest method of rapo building. Eye contact. Eyes are called the window of the soul, meaning a stable warm eye contact makes

[11:53] you appear interactive. Shows you're involved and creates a connection and creates a connection [music]. And last is an ask. A good listener is not one who just keeps listening. He is also the one who wants to hear more from you.

[12:05] Who wants to go deeper. Let us take the matter forward with your words. Ask you questions and go into details. Someone's words turn into emotions when you ask them questions about themselves. You ask their opinion before giving your opinion. It is said in Sufism that when you

[12:22] listen to someone with your heart, your God also listens. There is another thing that is present in charismatic personalities and science also talks about it and every religion also talks about it, science also talks about it and every religion also talks about it, that is energy and presence. Imagine you

[12:38] went to a room or a party and as soon as you arrived everyone became attentive towards you. Without doing anything, just your presence made people look at you with positivity and hope. Such charisma or aura is possible not only in films but also in real life. This is

[12:52] a very popular phrase of genius scientist Nikola Tesla. If You Want to Understand the Universe You Must Think in Terms of Energy, Frequency and Vibration. And when I did some more research on this phrase, I found something really unbelievable.

[13:07] Heart Math Institute conducted a study on this concept on some people. He knew that our brain runs on electricity. In fact, it also emits magnetic waves. But along with this, another thing also came to light that actually not only our

[13:21] brain but our heart also emits electromagnetic waves at a high frequency. According to him, the electromagnetic waves at a high frequency. According to him, the heart of the human body, which remains in constant motion,

[13:35] generates 100 times more magnetic waves compared to the brain. Meaning, in one line, our entire body creates an electromagnetic field around itself. Which is called aura in Western culture. Some philosophers call it biofield.

[13:49] And in our India this concept is called Prana or Tejas. But another very shocking thing is that researchers noticed a pattern that this entire electromagnetic field [music] is actually regulated by our internal emotions. And it literally

[14:04] affects every individual around us. Meaning, if your internal emotions appreciate people, you are happy, then the frequency of your biofield

[14:17] is different. Well, if your emotions are negative, you are angry, you are jealous, you are irritated, then your biomagnetic field [music] is different. This is the reason why we feel a sense of energy and happiness as soon as we meet some people. And there are some people

[14:31] who make us feel bored or irritated after meeting them. How is your charisma [music]? How happy are people when you arrive? How connected are they? It depends on [music] how

[14:43] connected, how positive, how happy you feel inside ? Now here a question will arise in your mind that how can one always remain happy internally. I mean, how can it be that we meet anyone and we feel happy, connected , excited. Remember that happiness comes and goes.

[14:56] But the peace that is there lasts. Just like there are waves in the ocean, they keep coming up. But the ocean is always calm from within. Problems,

[15:08] highs, lows, challenges will all come in life. But if there is depth like the ocean inside, then the waves above do not make any difference. What we do is that in the pursuit of being happy, whether we want to be happy or not, we suppress negative emotions and those very things

[15:22] become stress inside. Peace is not achieved by ignoring them but by accepting them. Just as Shri Krishna had told Arjun, recognize every emotion of yours but do not told Arjun, recognize every emotion of yours but do not become its slave. Meaning, feel everything but don't get

[15:36] stuck on anything. What can you do? Take out 3 minutes a day. Close your eyes. Close your eyes and observe yourself. Listen to your breath. To the

[15:48] sounds around you, to the turmoil in your mind. What [music] is playing? Observe. Accept it. This practice brings the mind into the boat. Brings it into the present. And when the mind is in the present, then peace is created. You will agree with me 100%. Will

[16:02] you agree for 100 rupees? Just try lost in thoughts, lost, relaxed , not knowing what is going on in life. It never seems like everyone is in such a state of panic.

[16:18] you are a good Muslim but let's say you are Shekhar Krishna. S.K.Vas Shekhar Krishna Shekhar Krishna. S.K.Vas Shekhar Krishna Shekhar Radhakrishna SR.K. He was faced with a scenario that would have made any ordinary person instantly attentive and

[16:33] prepared for something tough to happen. Because his presence of mind is such that neither his internal emotions fluctuated nor his response. Shekhar Radha Krishna. And this is the reason why you must have noticed many times that Shahrukh Khan's humor

[16:47] and answers are very appealing. Are spontaneous. Are full of presence of mind. Because their internal emotions are not shaken by the surrounding environment and things. Due to which their energy, their biofield is very stable and

[17:01] strong. Now these three are the abilities for which you will have to take yourself to the next level. Some may have it and some may not. But apart from these three, there is one charismatic ability which is present in all of us by birth.

[17:16] We carry it through life. Before I talk about that charismatic personality, I would like to take a minute of your time and know what to do and how to do it. Still, overthinking, procrastination, self-

[17:31] doubt, low confidence, all these things come and time keeps slipping away. The reason is very simple. The conscious mind wants something, but the subconscious mind is running some other program. And when this alignment is not correct , the struggle continues. And to

[17:47] solve this very thing, I have brought for you Mind Mastery Workshop. A full day live session through which I have changed the lives of millions of people for the last 15 years. Top companies of India call me for this session. Why? Because

[18:02] this system works. In this workshop, you will go through three stages in one day. First stage identity shift. You will understand how your personality is formed. What are the hidden beliefs that are holding you back? What is blocking it? We will do some life changing

[18:17] exercises in that session which will help you in establishing a stronger and confident version of yourself. Second clarity breakthrough: You will be able to remove your confusions. You will understand exactly what you want? Why is it needed and

[18:33] what are the clear steps to reach the next level? And thirdly, rewiring of the mind. We will scientifically fix overthinking and procrastination.

[18:46] brain rewiring, you can harness the power of your subconscious mind [music] to turn your dreams into reality. This is a practical transformation system where you will create a permanent shift within yourself using real exercises, tools and processes.

[19:00] within yourself using real exercises, tools and processes. feel a huge difference in your clarity, energy and mindset. And if after attending the workshop you feel that Emish did not deliver what he said, then take your money back. So if

[19:15] you seriously want to change your life then give me one day of yours and change your entire coming year in that one day. So if you feel that yes, the time has come to stop living your life depending on luck. If you live according to your own wishes,

[19:29] live according to your own wishes, you will find the link in the description below. Now let's talk about the fourth trade. Have you seen that unfamiliar South Indian movie? The film features a man named Ambi who suffers from a problem called multiple personality disorder.

[19:41] Meaning, in which the same person behaves like different persons. Now of course this is a very dangerous issue in the actual world. But would you believe if I say that this is a personality issue in mature people.

[19:54] American sociologist and author Arvind Kaufman sociologist and author Arvind Kaufman like any stage actor, we also have three versions. Or

[20:09] understand it this way that we live our lives with three types of personalities. In which the first is on stage person. That means the personality which is visible to the whole world and the one which we show to people according to our mind. The fun in front of school friends, the

[20:25] gossip with colleagues, those fancy [music] posts on social media and fancy [music] posts on social media and that strong person in front of society. This is our on stage performance. Now let us come to the second version which is the back stage person. That personality which is

[20:39] which is the back stage person. That personality which is Meaning that unfiltered person who only comes out in front of certain [music] family, friends or some special person. Your awkward dance moves, your quirky

[20:53] talks, your business ideas, your failure stories, your weaknesses [in music] and your desires. All those things that you share with only a few people. Now, an off-stage person is better and rarer than both of these. The one who is

[21:07] sitting somewhere on the side, far away from the stage. Meaning the person in front of the mirror [music] who knows all his own guilt, fears, secrets, dreams and regrets. Who sometimes screams [music] because of loneliness and sometimes gets scared when he is afraid.

[21:21] [musically]. But most of us do not show it to others. Meaning, who you really are and who you show yourself to be, the closer your [music] on-stage and off- stage persona come to each other, then your fourth [music] trade authenticity is formed. It is

[21:37] your fourth [music] trade authenticity is formed. It is But whatever people you consider charismatic, you find them very strong. The person you are impressed by, you believe that he/she is real. It is original. You

[21:51] trust them. You do not consider fake people charismatic. You do not consider double-faced people charismatic. So this is the trait that makes your [music] stand out in the eyes of the people. trait that makes your [music] stand out in the eyes of the people.

[22:07] Think about a charismatic personality. Does he look similar to any other person ? This is not possible. Because the surprising thing is that just like the faces of 814 crore people in the world do not match each other, similarly your [musical]

[22:22] personality also does not match with anyone else in the world. He is unique in himself. The problem is that we look at others in an attempt to become better. So here the question in your mind will be

[22:37] how to become authentic? Should I keep saying whatever comes to my mind ? Or present yourself like this. Yes brother, I am like that. Authenticity does n't mean being transparent. Have to be real. Like there is a very popular phrase of Aristotle.

[22:49] Knowing yourself is the biggest wisdom. Knowing yourself is the greatest wisdom. And this is the first step to authenticity: self- awareness. We should know our actual self. What do we need? What are our principles? How do we

[23:04] like to live? But many times we are not able to do this because we have fear of judgment. What will the society say? And here comes the second step, self-acceptance. How many places has Shahrukh Khan said this? I am the best. I am the best. I am the

[23:17] best. I am the best. They show themselves the way they want to see themselves in society and the way they believe themselves to be inside. want to see themselves in society and the way they believe themselves to be inside. He has always made it clear that I consider myself the best.

[23:33] Myself [Music] Cool handsome guy never thought myself to be the best looking the best. This No one has any competition. This is my reminder to myself when I wake up in the morning. We have to wake up thinking that we are the best. Only then will we perhaps be able to become good or better.

[23:49] And he has been saying that thing consistently. It is authentic. It is not changing again and again. It is coming out in every interview. So it is very important to know and believe in yourself. If you are feeling jealous. If it is done then accept it. If you have any hesitation, please tell me. It's

[24:03] okay. There is confidence in something or there is nervousness about something. Be yourself. And when you openly accept your inner self, then your authentic personality begins. With this the fear inside you will start disappearing. You start becoming real.

[24:19] You are able to show the person inside you who actually should be seen by the world. The Real You. It is said in Bhagavad Gita that Swadharme Nidhanam Shreya means it is better to die while living in your true nature than living in someone else's nature. So in this video we

[24:35] decoded Karishma and understood the four traits of Karishma in depth. Now you can link it with your personality that which are those one or two traits that are in you on which you can work, which is possible for you and as soon as you finalize that,

[24:49] I have mentioned the steps in the video, after that you can do more research on your own and go deep into it. You can practice it and bring a change in your personality. You can evolve yourself. And what I

[25:02] said several times in the video is that it's more about showing off to others and expressing it to others. This is your confidence. This is your only life, how are you living it? This is the potential within you. Or is it the wisdom within you? Or the authenticity within you.

[25:15] Or it is your communication that is improving your relationships. You are creating wealth of relationships. It is your expressions through which you are able to express your heart's feelings with proper tone and proper voice. This is your presence of mind. That is the

[25:28] observation through which you are becoming smart, wise, sharp. Because only that shines from inside and who needs to polish to shine from inside ? To your charisma. Apart from this, on which other topics do you want videos,

[25:42] please tell us in the comments below. For the last 15 years, I have been on this journey to be your companion and keep adding growth to your life. I should keep adding knowledge. Let me keep

[25:55] and will continue in the future too. I will continue to support you like this. See you again in the next video. Till then stay happy and keep sharing happiness. I love you all.