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[00:00] This is Erika LaBrie! A world archery

[00:04] And the wife of the Eiffel Tower!

[00:06] In 2007, she held a wedding ceremony in

[00:10] and officially declared the tower her

[00:13] And before that, she dated the Berlin

[00:19] So what was wrong with her?

[00:20] Erika has objectophilia - a sexual and

[00:25] Her first love was at nine years old! She

[00:29] house!

[00:29] As a teenager, she entered the longest

[00:33] Berlin Wall! Which she later left for the

[00:36] But after a media scandal, they had to

[00:40] Berlin, to the memory of her demolished

[00:43] She grieved that loss for a long time,

[00:47] the biggest mistake of her life.

[00:49] Heartbreaking story.

[00:51] But don't worry! According to the latest

[00:55] And if you call her weird - you're deeply

[01:02] the same!

[01:03] Today we will talk about the most amazing

[01:07] We'll break down how the brain turns

[01:11] Why some people like feet, others latex!

[01:15] countries, - you're not even allowed to

[01:18] What are your fetishes really hiding?

[01:21] Why are your deepest insecurities

[01:25] And why is watching porn: your most

[01:30] But first - what is a fetish?

[01:32] What do you think connects a foot

[01:35] That's right! Art!

[01:37] In ancient times, sex was sacred!

[01:39] In Pompeii, above the entrance to each

[01:42] with a position: like an item on a menu!

[01:44] And the streets of the city were strewn

[01:48] talismans and symbols of luck: placing

[01:51] The Kama Sutra, which describes positions

[01:55] in the 4th century and was considered a

[01:58] And one of the oldest erotic magazines

[02:03] - the Turin Erotic Papyrus!

[02:05] Twelve scenes in the most ambitious and

[02:08] Sexuality and fetishes were the

[02:12] humanity itself.

[02:12] And the word 'fetish' itself came from:

[02:16] Portuguese colonizers in West Africa

[02:21] tribes - fetishes!

[02:22] Amulets, figurines, stones! In other

[02:26] supernatural power!

[02:27] So a fetish is something that makes you

[02:32] But in modern times, the word got

[02:36] colorful, concise label!

[02:37] They called it a disease.

[02:39] In medieval Europe, sexuality came under

[02:42] everything started being considered a

[02:44] For example, masturbation was punished,

[02:48] certain days!

[02:49] But in 1886, everything changed when the

[02:53] published his book on sexuality, the one

[02:58] today!

[02:58] And from that point on, everything that

[03:03] It was believed that if you got aroused

[03:07] degenerate!

[03:07] And that included everything, from

[03:12] So obviously it had to be treated.

[03:14] Though in practice, the treatment was

[03:18] And every fetish was considered a disease

[03:22] masturbating to feet - wasn't actually

[03:26] classification of diseases!

[03:27] From which fetishism and masochism - were

[03:31] But with one exception.

[03:33] There is a certain gradation!

[03:35] Look, there are typical sexual

[03:40] with a partner!

[03:41] This concept covers the whole spectrum!

[03:45] sizes, positions, and so on.

[03:47] And if arousal starts to consistently

[03:52] an object, a body part, material, or

[03:56] sexual interest, which means -

[03:58] And that, in turn, is divided into a

[04:03] sadism, masochism, - and pedophilia!

[04:05] Yes, crimes against children and a

[04:08] category.

[04:09] Because in science, any atypical sexual

[04:12] So, a fetish is a category, not a general

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[04:19] parts - that's a fetish!

[04:20] If you like humiliation and loss of

[04:24] And if you love power and control -

[04:29] It only becomes a diagnosis - and

[04:33] suffer, interferes with or destroys your

[04:37] boundaries!

[04:38] There's Quentin Tarantino, a director

[04:42] And then there's Jerry Brudos! A serial

[04:47] foot, so he could dress it in women's

[04:50] One fetish, but completely different

[04:53] And according to statistics, or more

[04:56] scientists: approximately half of people

[05:00] So, roughly speaking, every second one of

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[06:49] Any of our desires is a stimulus for

[06:53] compensating a deficiency!

[06:55] Which is why, at the level of the

[06:58] difference between wanting a glass of

[07:02] It's the same thing!

[07:04] Of course, our desires are often just

[07:08] explanation!

[07:09] But if we do try to explain them, then

[07:13] into two groups - strength and weakness.

[07:16] Yes, a person might just have a fetish

[07:20] be an element of sadism behind it!

[07:22] Because school clothes can be associated

[07:26] And on the other hand, you might love

[07:31] or humiliated!

[07:32] Just like a foot fetish, because the foot

[07:36] with dominance!

[07:37] So our preferences are often a way of

[07:40] usually of our role.

[07:41] But, of course, this is just my

[07:45] theory, far from science!

[07:49] Or maybe not.

[07:50] Psychotherapist Jeffrey Young described a

[07:54] paradox.

[07:54] When a child grows up with an unmet basic

[07:59] acceptance - they develop what is called

[08:02] Roughly speaking, a deep belief about

[08:07] abandoned!" "I'm unloved!" and so on.

[08:09] And then the brain chooses one of three

[08:13] The first is surrender: the person

[08:17] their life around it.

[08:18] He was humiliated and he's looking for

[08:22] Not because they enjoy it, but because

[08:26] know!

[08:26] And if it feels familiar, then it feels

[08:30] In sex, this turns into masochism and

[08:34] And the second is overcompensation, the

[08:38] They felt powerless as a child, so in

[08:42] They feel defective - so they start to

[08:45] In sex, that shows up as sadism, as a

[08:49] And the third is the most banal of all -

[08:52] The person tries to distance themselves

[08:56] schema, avoiding relationships and

[09:00] pornography.

[09:00] So our fetishes are our safe trauma - our

[09:06] conditions!

[09:06] Because it's one thing to be subjected to

[09:10] it happens under conditions that you set

[09:13] And as for which path the brain will

[09:16] from heredity to the environment in which

[09:21] But there is a problem.

[09:22] You had a rough father, and now you're

[09:26] enough!

[09:27] And indeed, for many of our desires, by

[09:31] the answer - "Why?".

[09:34] But psychology doesn't explain

[09:36] At the end of the last century,

[09:40] concept of love maps.

[09:41] The idea was that during development, the

[09:46] and other stimuli, and assembles from

[09:49] What attracts us, what partner, what

[09:53] Like a playlist your brain compiles on

[09:57] Before you even know what sex is, your

[10:02] you on.

[10:02] One of the main factors influencing this

[10:06] A neutral object accidentally coincides

[10:10] brain creates an association - whether

[10:14] moment of excitement.

[10:15] The second reason - is the arousal

[10:18] Our brain is, actually, quite dumb!

[10:20] It can't tell why exactly your heart is

[10:25] shame, or from raw desire!?

[10:26] For him, it's the same adrenaline!

[10:29] And if at a moment of fear or humiliation

[10:33] brain gets confused!

[10:34] Which is why shame starts turning you on

[10:38] your taboos and insecurities become your

[10:43] The brain loves not only the sex itself,

[10:47] And if your orgasm coincides several

[10:51] brain will stop considering it a

[10:55] shortest path to pleasure.

[10:57] In 1966, psychologist Stanley Rachman

[11:00] He took a group of heterosexual men and

[11:04] boots, and right after that - a photo of

[11:07] And through many such repetitions, men

[11:12] Already without the need to show nudity!

[11:15] The brain created the link: boots equal

[11:18] Exactly the same principle as Pavlov's

[11:21] Theoretically, each of you can create

[11:25] masturbate to an Apple for a year, it's

[11:29] start getting aroused by apples!

[11:32] So, now you have a new hobby!

[11:34] That's why there's such a huge variety of

[11:39] foot fetishism, which is the most popular

[11:44] sexual attraction to trees or wooden

[11:47] Everything you can imagine and think

[11:52] aroused by!

[11:53] Recall our previous video about fear.

[11:55] Phobia and fetish - they're relatives!

[11:57] Different, yet very similar in terms of

[12:01] So, there's no single formula.

[12:03] For some people, a fetish formed in

[12:06] trauma, or out of need, or through a

[12:10] through a combination of all of the

[12:12] It's like a giant construction set.

[12:13] Coprophilia, for example, is probably a

[12:16] Normally, sexual arousal temporarily

[12:20] evolutionarily that's necessary to reduce

[12:24] fluids and make sex possible!

[12:26] But for some people, disgust itself - the

[12:31] source of dopamine.

[12:32] And along with that, the desire to be

[12:35] play a role, and so on.

[12:37] In short, it's a whole pile of small

[12:41] construction set. Single-factor

[12:45] sexology.

[12:46] But does that mean that having

[12:50] dangerous, and only something sick and

[12:54] I'm afraid to upset you, but it's quite

[12:59] smarter than us!

[13:00] In 2013, Dutch psychologists conducted a

[13:05] with ordinary people!

[13:06] The result was that those who enjoy BDSM

[13:11] conscientiousness, openness to new

[13:15] on measures of anxiety and neuroticism!

[13:18] And Canadian researchers found that

[13:23] correlated with higher sexual

[13:25] So, people with atypical sexual interests

[13:30] psychologically healthier than average

[13:32] It is presumed to be related to

[13:35] Openness to new experience is a trait

[13:38] it is associated with the dorsolateral

[13:41] responsible for cognitive flexibility and

[13:45] patterns.

[13:45] Roughly speaking, the smarter you are,

[13:49] broader your sexual repertoire!

[13:51] And not because smart people are

[13:55] unconventional is the same trait,

[14:00] in bed!

[14:01] So the conclusion here is simple: buy a

[14:06] feces!

[14:07] Actually, explaining such a connection,

[14:12] but as a certain need and part of human

[14:17] Maybe some particular fetish will strike

[14:21] doesn't violate anyone else's boundaries,

[14:25] consensual - and if the word "disorder"

[14:28] Then in that case, it is one of the best

[14:32] themselves and their needs, working

[14:36] building boundaries.

[14:37] People who can calmly talk about their

[14:41] preferences are - live more peacefully

[14:44] themselves instead of living in inner

[14:47] Which is why the phrase "everyone jerks

[14:52] philosophical.

[14:53] This is especially evident in couples!

[14:55] Research shows that the quality of sexual

[15:00] openly and deeply partners discuss their

[15:04] sexual satisfaction.

[15:05] And there is a nuance here: it is not

[15:09] and work.

[15:10] If partners don't talk about sex - they

[15:14] And this becomes critically important

[15:18] long-term relationships, because the

[15:23] The sharpest drop in sexual frequency

[15:27] relationship, and after that comes a

[15:30] And here there is a gender paradox: over

[15:35] in women, while male desire stays roughly

[15:38] So over time, partners literally start

[15:42] Because that's how biology works!

[15:44] Because dopamine is responsible for our

[15:46] And dopamine is the neurotransmitter of

[15:49] His task is not to reward you for what

[15:53] what you lack!

[15:54] And it works in sex too! Indeed, for all

[15:57] The male, exhausted after mating with one

[16:01] a new one!

[16:02] This is called the Coolidge effect.

[16:04] The same effect can be seen in women too

[16:07] But much stronger in women is the

[16:11] In simple terms, they get used to

[16:15] stimuli faster than men do, because the

[16:20] And no, that does not mean women get

[16:23] There is one important thing.

[16:25] There are two types of desire! The first:

[16:29] The second is responsive: desire appears

[16:34] - from kissing, touch, foreplay.

[16:36] And over time, women tend to move into

[16:40] relationships oxytocin starts to take the

[16:43] And emotional closeness is the gateway to

[16:48] doesn't kick in!

[16:49] And a man is almost always about

[16:52] Most of us are just like those monkey

[16:55] We want sex first! And then... It doesn't

[16:59] So for a woman, sex often starts with

[17:03] And for a man, sex itself is the proof

[17:07] That's exactly what we talked about in

[17:10] it afterward, it's one of the most

[17:13] probably in your life too.

[17:15] At the very least because I'm wearing a

[17:18] Dialogue matters! It's an irreplaceable

[17:21] If you don't hear each other, if you

[17:25] through the prism of your own desires and

[17:29] of your partner, you will inevitably

[17:33] Secondly and equally important, novelty!

[17:36] Travel, hobbies, leisure! If you and your

[17:41] of sex on that day increases by a third!

[17:43] In general, routine is what kills both

[17:48] the routine triggers dopamine, and

[17:52] And third: the sexual diversity itself!

[17:55] Couples who openly talk about their

[17:59] things - they are the ones who end up

[18:03] That's the nature of it! Our brain is set

[18:08] keep wanting!

[18:09] And you don't necessarily have to change

[18:13] consciously introduce something new!

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[18:18] Sometimes just bringing in new sensations

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[18:52] The liquid vibrator works through

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[19:09] And a significant player in improving

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[19:14] People have very different attitudes

[19:16] Some believe that it brings nothing but

[19:20] to be cheating in a relationship!

[19:22] But the research disagrees and, on the

[19:26] together in a long-term relationship

[19:30] trust, and greater sexual satisfaction.

[19:33] And there's nothing surprising about

[19:35] Our sexuality is not just a part of life

[19:38] It has long stopped being confined to the

[19:41] It's the force that moves not just our

[19:47] Every technology in human history has

[19:51] first users were almost always either the

[19:55] One of the first mass-produced

[19:59] printing press were the erotic engravings

[20:01] The first erotic film was shot one year

[20:05] Online payment systems developed thanks

[20:09] screening system, which allows you to

[20:13] successfully implemented and monetized by

[20:18] So every time a new technology appears,

[20:22] first to colonize the market and prove

[20:27] then the mainstream arrives.

[20:28] This is a pattern that has been repeating

[20:31] States keep trying to ban it - and they

[20:35] Because you can block websites! But you

[20:39] With the invention of porn sites, society

[20:42] In some countries where pornography was

[20:47] crimes decreased!

[20:48] Its accessibility became one of the

[20:52] openly and more easily about sexuality.

[20:55] Humanity has swung like a pendulum

[20:59] condemnation - and back again.

[21:01] Every saint who considers masturbation a

[21:04] And every politician, who tries to ban

[21:08] Our desires cannot be defeated - they can

[21:13] politics culture.

[21:14] But as history shows, that is an unequal

[21:19] But there is one thin line here.

[21:22] In the middle of the last century, Niko

[21:25] an experiment.

[21:26] He placed giant plaster dummies in birds'

[21:30] Some were the size of volleyballs, or

[21:34] And the birds simply abandoned their real

[21:39] chunk of plaster.

[21:40] Their brains assumed that if it was

[21:43] better!

[21:44] Tinbergen called it a supernormal

[21:46] Our brain, like the brain of these birds,

[21:51] security sex!

[21:52] And if you give the brain an artificially

[21:57] signal, the system simply breaks.

[21:59] Modern research shows exactly that!

[22:01] The more porn there is in a person's

[22:05] life, sex, and relationships.

[22:07] Especially if it is done in secret from

[22:11] And uncontrolled consumption increases

[22:15] aggression.

[22:15] But it works the other way around too!

[22:18] People who are completely isolated from

[22:23] religion have a lower level of sexual

[22:27] However, researchers consider "a safe

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[22:35] romance and passion rather than hardcore!

[22:37] So the problem with pornography - and

[22:41] is not the phenomenon itself, but its

[22:45] It can be a great tool for relieving

[22:50] not in a relationship!

[22:51] It can bring some ideas about diversity

[22:56] our complexes or turn harmless passions

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[23:06] stress, anxiety, or loneliness.

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[24:44] Throughout all of human history, we've

[24:47] to another, and still we can't come to a

[24:49] What is a fetish - and what do we do with

[24:52] Is it a perversion, a deviation, a sin?

[24:56] But it's simpler.

[24:57] Our desires, from ordinary to sexual, are

[25:02] personality.

[25:02] When we try to suppress our nature, to

[25:07] religion, or censorship, the need doesn't

[25:10] It goes into the shadows, mutates, and

[25:13] When we hand the exploration of our own

[25:18] catastrophe.

[25:18] Look at the modern generations!

[25:20] It's a tragedy that most teenagers form

[25:24] relationships through the plastic world

[25:28] porn sites!

[25:29] They build their understanding of

[25:32] doesn't exist, creating a very dangerous

[25:36] And then they sincerely cannot understand

[25:40] on a screen.

[25:41] Our sexuality should be neither a

[25:45] ourselves, nor a digital product that we

[25:49] And only we get to decide what to do with

[25:51] Whether to lock this colossal energy in

[25:55] flush it down the toilet.

[25:56] Or to learn to understand it - making our

[26:00] brighter, more conscious, and happier.

[26:03] So don't be ashamed of your weirdness.

[26:06] Do not be afraid of your fetishes and

[26:10] them.

[26:11] For behind every one of your desires lies

[26:16] are.

[26:16] This was Albert.

[26:17] Subscribe to the channel and my socials

[26:20] Be honest with yourself!

[26:23] All the best.